In the office of the village committee of Longdong Village in Changsha City, Hunan Province, the gray-haired old lady Liu Yufen and her children were arguing, and Liu Yufen angrily said: "Even if I die, I don't need you to take care of it!" ”
It is said that mother's love is great, what did the children do to make their mother Liu Yufen say such a thing?
The old lady's twilight love was blocked, and her temperament changed greatly
Liu Yufen is a stubborn person, and such a character still has to be rooted in her life experience. Her culture was not high, and she met her first husband through the introduction of a matchmaker at the age of twenty. The two lived in poverty after marriage, but they could live with each other.
Within a few years, Liu Yufen gave birth to two sons and a daughter. It was a good life for the family, but her husband died unexpectedly.
Liu Yufen's family
Although Liu Yufen was sad, in order to let the children eat enough, she still gritted her teeth to support the family. Since then, she has worked odd jobs in the neighborhood, often leaving early and returning late, and even running to the market to save money to pick up rotten vegetable leaves thrown away by vendors.
In this way, the three children slowly grew up under the efforts of Liu Yufen. She did not borrow any foreign debt, she helped her son become a family, and it was also a big stone in her heart.
Seeing that her children have found their own lives, Liu Yufen also hopes to find another confidant. Soon, as a nanny, she accidentally met her second husband, and the two began to live together. But the husband was seriously ill and died within a few years.
Liu Yufen returned to a life of being alone, but the blows of her widow's successive blows made her depressed all day. The younger daughter could not bear to see Liu Yufen sad, and asked her husband to find another wife for her mother.
Liu Yufen and Pear set up
Soon, Liu Yufen became acquainted with Pear, who was 14 years older than her. Pear establishes a gentle personality and is also very considerate of taking care of people, and the two get along very well the first time they meet.
Later, with the support of the whole family, Liu Yufen followed Li Zhi to his hometown of Huaihua, Hunan Province, and the old couple went out for a walk every day, and the days were plain and happy.
Five years later, Liu Yufen thought of the family, often nagging about his children, it happened that the eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to her own granddaughter, Liu Yufen and Li Li discussed: "Go back to my home, I want to help my son take care of my granddaughter, we can also enjoy the joy of the next day." ”
Liu Yufen
Li Zhi agreed, so the two returned to their hometown in Changsha together and lived with their son's family. However, just two years after they returned, Liu Yufen and his wife's relationship came to an end.
It turned out that after the two were together, Liu Yufen's children respected their mother's decision and were very happy that their mother could have someone to accompany them. But the children of Li Li were not very happy, especially the eldest daughter often accused Liu Yufen behind her back: "You are greedy for my father's savings, and you also use my family's money to help your children." ”
Liu Yufen was angry: "I have hands and feet, and the money for my children is all my own hard work!" ”
It is true that Liu Yufen did not steal the money of the Li family to help her children, but during the five years that she lived in pear establishment, all the expenses were responsible for pear establishment. Although the two later returned to Changsha, Liu Yufen still used the savings of Pear Establishment.
Both old men were not in good health, often needing to take medicine or be hospitalized, and the savings set up by Pear were quickly used up. He opened his mouth to his children to ask for living expenses, which caused greater dissatisfaction among the Pear family.
The eldest daughter of the Li family complained to Pear: "Dad, it is no problem for us to raise you with a few children, but we can't afford outsiders to spend our family like this, you should think about it and break it as soon as possible!" ”
Pear li is reluctant to his wife, but he is afraid of increasing the burden on his children. After several days of ideological struggle, he chose to separate from Liu Yufen and returned to his home alone. When he returned, he was so worried that he was sick in bed.
After Liu Yufen knew that Li Zhi was ill, she was anxious to visit, and worried that the other party's children would scold her, and the two broke off contact and never met again.
After this relationship ended, Liu Yufen was like a changed person, repeatedly making trouble at home, and the relationship with her children also quietly changed.
No one visited the hospital, and Liu Yufen complained that her children were not filial piety
This time Liu Yufen was hospitalized, but also because of a heart attack was urgently sent to the hospital. The doctor said that Liu Yufen suffered from acute left heart failure because of a long period of overdraft of her body. She was treated in time for the first time, barely surviving, but her heart was much larger than normal.
That is to say, Liu Yufen may have a sudden arrhythmia or cardiac arrest, and there is a very large risk of sudden death, which is a very dangerous condition. But fortunately, this rescue was still timely and survived safely.
But Liu Yufen was not happy, she lay on the hospital bed with a sad face, staring straight at the other family members around the bed.
She told reporters: "I was hospitalized for so long that my son and daughter didn't come to see me once. Nurses at the hospital also confirmed her claim: none of the old man's children came to sign the visit when the critical illness notice was issued.
Even if Liu Yufen's temperament changes drastically, the children should not sit idly by and ignore their mothers! Is there any unknown reason for this?
With the help of reporters, Liu Yufen dialed her son Li Zhijun's phone again: "I am about to be discharged from the hospital, when will you come to pick me up?" ”
Li Zhijun on the other end of the phone was extremely impatient: "I will not answer." "After saying that, I hung up the phone, and then I called again to shut down.
Liu Yufen said that she usually saves money and even picks up garbage, just so that she can build a house for her son and marry a daughter-in-law, but she did not expect that her son had a daughter-in-law and forgot her mother, and she did not put herself in her eyes at all. She said: "All this is the daughter-in-law Jiang Shu obstructing from it, forcing her son to alienate me. ”
In order to verify whether his son Li Zhijun was really as Liu Yufen said, the reporter took Liu Yufen home with the consent of the doctor.
When the group returned home, Li Zhijun and his wife were not at home. Liu Yufen went straight into a hut, she said: "A few floors next to it is my son's home, he separated from me after he got married, and we both lived separately." ”
Liu Yufen believes that it was the daughter-in-law who instigated her son to alienate herself in order to get rid of her sick self as soon as possible. The old lady was indignant and poured bitter water on the reporter. At this time, the daughter-in-law Jiang Shu returned home, saw the mother-in-law return but did not say a word, directly pulled the child upstairs.
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The reporter asked loudly: "Don't you know that your mother-in-law is sick and hospitalized?" The doctors have given her a critical notice of her illness, and none of you will come to see her! ”
In the face of the reporter's questioning, daughter-in-law Jiang Shu finally stopped hiding and replied: "How do you not know, she has been in the hospital six times this month, this time it is my husband who found her fainting." ”
The daughter-in-law's statement made the reporter wonder, because this was very different from what Liu Yufen said before, who said it was true?
Daughter-in-law Jiang Shu explained: "I have been a kindergarten teacher for many years, and I have children, and I can fully understand the hard work of my parents, so I have always respected my mother-in-law, but she never appreciates it." ”
Daughter-in-law Jiang Shu
When mentioning the contradiction with his mother-in-law, Jiang Shu seemed helpless, did not explain it anymore, and took the child upstairs again. But Liu Yufen insisted that her daughter-in-law was lying, and she also took the reporter upstairs to confront her daughter-in-law.
In the face of her mother-in-law's complaints, Jiang Shu never said a word, and finally pulled the child directly out of the door. The reporter rushed up to ask questions, but Jiang Shu only said that as a daughter-in-law, it was inconvenient to make too many comments, and proposed that the reporter go to Liu Yufen's children.
At this time, his son Li Zhijun happened to drive back, but no one expected that as soon as he got out of the car, he angrily accused his mother Liu Yufen and said bluntly: "I don't have a mother." ”
Son Li Zhijun
How could my son say such a rebellious thing? What kind of problems have arisen between them?
Mothers are unreasonable, and children have suffering
Li Zhijun told reporters that his mother Liu Yufen had already made the family chickens and dogs restless because of her twilight love, and she did not care about her body, and often clamored to work in the fields. Li Zhijun was distressed by his mother and dissuaded him many times, but Liu Yufen confronted him every time.
Speaking of his mother's hospitalization this time, Li Zhijun was even more distressed and helplessly said: "My mother has nothing to do, she likes to make a fool of herself." A few days ago, I stayed at the white house until 4 o'clock in the middle of the night, and then I fell ill. ”
At home, Li Zhijun heard that his mother was ill, and he quickly carried his mother back from the neighbor's house, wanting to catch his breath and drive to the hospital. But Liu Yufen called the emergency number in advance, so she went to the hospital alone.
Several of the children did not ignore Liu Yufen, and they also rushed to visit her that night. Because Liu Yufen often joked about the critical illness notice, the children did not care too much.
Liu Yufen did not agree with her son's statement, she retorted: "I was only sick and hospitalized a few times, and you left me alone in the hospital regardless of my life and death." ”
In the face of his mother's groundless accusations, Li Zhijun told reporters that he understood that his mother's life was not easy, so he had been living under the same roof with his mother after marriage, but his mother was too strong and picked his wife's thorn everywhere, so the couple decided to build a small house next to the original old house and let his mother move in.
Li Zhijun said: "The house is not divided, and my mother's daily expenses are still borne by us, but she is always looking for things inexplicably." He took the reporter on a tour of the walls and furniture of his home, all of which had traces of damage to varying degrees.
It turned out that after Liu Yufen was frustrated in her twilight love, she also had some mental problems.
If there are friends at home, Liu Yufen will shout in the courtyard, lose his temper, and smash things when he is serious, which makes Li Zhijun feel very embarrassed and not easy to get along with his friends.
For the unreasonable teasing of her mother Liu Yufen, the daughters also complained and avoided it.
In order to verify what Li Zhijun said, the reporter came to the home of his youngest daughter Li Aili with Liu Yufen. But the younger daughter heard that her mother was coming, and went directly to the neighbor's house.
Liu Yufen angrily picked up the broom and searched the room, still saying in her mouth: "My daughter is not filial piety, I know that my old wife is coming, and I don't even see her face." ”
Daughter Aili Lee
Under the persuasion of the reporter, the youngest daughter Li Aili finally appeared, she saw her mother was also extremely angry, and poured bitter water with the reporter: "Mother made trouble twice in three days, we let her have a good rest, but she went out to tell others bad things about us, is this what parents should do?" ”
Li Aili pointed out that her mother was very indifferent to the three sisters and brothers, and repeatedly shouted that she would throw the daughter of her brother Li Zhijun into the river. She said that she couldn't help but cover her face and cry bitterly, and her heart was full of sadness and helplessness.
In fact, Li Aili is very concerned about her mother, Liu Yufen's twilight love or she helps to match, in order to have someone who can accompany her mother at any time, but after Liu Yufen and Li established a relationship that was blocked, she did not disclose the reason to anyone, and the children did not ask too much.
After Liu Yufen fell ill, Li Aili often visited, and this time she also paid 2,000 yuan for her mother's hospitalization. But instead of appreciating her affection, Liu Yufen scolded her for not being filial piety.
Liu Yufen still scolded after listening to her daughter's cries, and Li Aili said helplessly: "I can't control you, you can love it as much as you want!" ”
Liu Yufen recalled the attitude of her children and couldn't help but burst into tears, she didn't know how to guarantee her old age!
The village committee came forward to mediate, and the sons and daughters were willing to take responsibility
It is difficult for the Qing officials to do household chores, and the reporter can only find the mediators of the village committee to communicate. Director Liu of the village committee came forward to appease the emotions of Liu Yufen and her children respectively, and his son Li Zhijun said: "Our three sisters and brothers all hope that our mother can live in peace and are willing to assume corresponding maintenance responsibilities." ”
According to the agreed time, the two sides came to the village committee together for mediation.
At first, the communication was very good, but after the children proposed to send their mothers to the nursing home, Liu Yufen started a temper again, saying that she did not need her children to take care of them. The sons and daughters said, "Then we will send you to the temple." ”
Director Liu of the village committee
The atmosphere in the room was tense, and Director Liu shouted: "Calling you here is to solve the problem, not to quarrel, there is something to say well." ”
After a while, Liu Yufen took the lead in speaking: "I am old, and I am not able to support myself, sometimes it is difficult to hear, please bear more." ”
Immediately after, she began to make her own demands, hoping that her children would take care of themselves when they were not able to take care of themselves, but before that, she would live a good life, but the children would have to give themselves a little living expenses every month.
When the children heard that their mother had finally spoken their hearts, they all nodded their heads in agreement. They also advised Liu Yufen not to be so strong in the future and to communicate well.
In the end, the two sides reached a consensus that Liu Yufen could return to her son Li Zhijun's house to live, but there was a five-month probationary period, and if she still made trouble for no reason, she would be sent to a nursing home; in addition, the children would give Liu Yufen living expenses every month, 300 yuan for her son, and 200 yuan for each of her two daughters.
Witnessed by the village committee and relatives, Liu Yufen signed an agreement with her children. Now that they no longer quarrel between them, Liu Yufen's personality is not so strong, and the family lives plainly and happily under the same roof.
The deepening degree of aging in the mainland has become the primary problem to be solved urgently, so the child's responsibility for supporting the elderly parents has also become the focus of social attention.
But there is an old saying on the mainland: mother is kind and filial to the child. The elderly and their children should understand each other, tolerate more, and not cut off the family affection that melted into the bones and blood because of a temporary dispute.
I hope everyone can have a happy and happy family.