The sense of proportion of adults is a tacit understanding of the point: I say that I have something to do, you don't ask me anything; I say I'm eating with people, you don't ask who I'm with; I say I'm with a friend

The sense of proportion of adults is a tacit understanding of the point to the end:

I said I have something, don't ask me anything;

I said I was eating with people, you don't ask me who I was with;

I said I was with a friend, don't you ask me if I'm a man or a woman.

If I could say it, I might have said it earlier.

It's not that I can't say, I probably don't want to say,

It's not that I don't want to say it, I probably just don't want to tell you.

Adult courtesy is not hypocrisy, but kindness.

It is a gentle way to tell each other what kind of distance we need to keep.