Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out, in fact, marriage is not so terrible, those who say that marriage is terrible again and again, may come from the disillusionment of expectations, but in fact, the other party has not changed, as long as you find the right way, you still yearn for marriage.
I have seen a lot of marriages encountered tests leading to breakdown, people have lamented that love is unreliable, or partners do not keep their promises, in fact, whether a marriage is happy or not, the examination is not your loyalty to love, but the ability to manage the marriage, want to know whether your future feelings are happy or heart-wrenching, after marriage must understand three things:
First of all, you must understand that there is no perfect partner in the world, when in love, the other party wants to conquer you, naturally will show the advantages, hide their shortcomings, if you feel disillusioned, holding on to the shortcomings of men, will only make the feelings worse and worse. Married, want to live a long life, is the need to get along with each other's shortcomings, a good partner is to have the advantages you appreciate and you can accept the shortcomings, give each other enough praise and encouragement, he will continue to transform into a better person.
Then, in marriage, feelings are always more important than right and wrong, in the relationship between two people have been arguing about who is right and who is wrong, there is no point at all, even if you know that the other party is wrong, ask the other party to correct and cater to themselves, it seems that the problem is solved, but most things do not have a unified standard to measure. There is a reason why anyone does something, and only when the true feelings of two people are seen by the other, they will be more willing to pay and maintain the relationship.
Finally, the child can never become the antidote to marriage, the child as a chip and antidote to marriage, not only can not play a role, but also become the most innocent victim, happy marriage will be sweeter because of the arrival of children, and the contradictions in unfortunate marriages will be continuously magnified in pregnancy and child-rearing, facing the problem head-on, solving problems is always more useful than taking the child as a shield.
Marriage is not a safe deposit box for love, and if you want to have a happy and long-term relationship, you not only need to adhere to love, but also need you to have the ability to manage marriage.