Introduction: For a long time, parents will feel that their children's growth is happy and relaxed, so the psychological state of adolescents has been neglected for a long time. In recent years, with the occurrence of many children's own light births, the psychological state of adolescents has gradually been faced by parents, and we have also learned that children's lives are not as we imagined.
The family environment, learning tasks and even children's interpersonal relationships will have a certain negative impact on the growth of children, and the child's mind is not as mature as that of adults, and it is easy to have depression under the inability to self-regulate. So, for parents, if the child has mild depression, how should we get along with him and let him return to a normal life?
If we don't have depression, it's hard to imagine their state of life and mental world, but many emotions are connected between people. In the face of depressed children, parents can try to do the following:
1. Understand the child's emotions and tolerate the child's emotions
Each child suffers from depression for different reasons, but the final harvest of emotions are similar, want to get along with the child, the key point is to do a good job to understand the child, tolerate the child. Therefore, parents need to understand what their children have experienced, what they have endured that has led to the problem of depression, and to understand them, we can better understand their children.
But after we can fully understand the child, we can better tolerate the child's emotions, and the loss, anxiety, and closure they show in their daily lives are all emotionally troubled. As parents, we should give our children enough tolerance for emotional catharsis, so that children can have a safer emotional space, rather than repeatedly suppressing themselves and aggravating the disease.
2, take more children to the outside to walk around, contact more beautiful things
Children suffering from depression, in fact, they do not have much internal strength to fight against those negative emotions, in the face of these uneasy emotions, they will lose the most basic ability to regulate, can only let the emotions continue to flood and flood themselves. But the surrounding environmental state can affect the child and give them some emotional motivation.
Therefore, if the child cannot heal himself, then parents should take the child to feel more about the beautiful things around them, and take the child to see the beautiful things in life. We may wish to change our existing living space, take our children away from this environment that will make him feel painful and depressed, go out to travel, relax, and absorb happiness, so that they have more strength to overcome depression.
3, let the child have a good hobby habit, from which to get healing
A good habit and hobby can naturally give people a happy perception and positive feedback, and many people with depression also gain the power of rebirth through the establishment of hobbies. Because in hobbies, children can get a sense of success in practice, can harvest positive happiness, from new perception to the control of life, and then retreat to the return of power.
In the process of getting along with their children, parents are actually not necessary to guard and take care of them all the time, so that children can choose a thing they like to do, and they can get a lot of spiritual power from it. If a child wants to do something that is of particular interest, we should not rush to refuse, but let the child try.
4, do not ask the child, but to help the child
Although we all know that depression still has to rely on its own strength to heal itself in the end, drugs and other people's counseling can only play an auxiliary role. However, in the process of getting along with the child, we cannot excessively ask and hope that the child will be rewarded for his own efforts, which is another kind of pressure on the child.
Many times, our self-righteous encouragement is actually a disservice to people with depression, and it is inverse to bluntly ask the child to cheer up. We are not asking children to be able to overcome themselves, but to help children gain the ability to overcome themselves, more companionship, more support, better than empty encouragement.
Important note: When parents get along with depressed children, a very basic point is to be able to understand and tolerate children's emotions, and they can usually go outside with their children to feel more beautiful. Let the child have their own interests and hobbies, get healing from them, and in the process of getting along, do not ask the child to be strong, but to help the child overcome the emotional dilemma.
Today's topic: In the face of some negative emotions shown in children's lives, how will you, as a parent, deal with and guide? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.