Recently, a topic rushed to the hot search, the teenager was cheated by the online love girlfriend 250,000, did not expect that the suspect was a good brother for many years.
Through this case, we can discover how tragic the consequences of careless dating are. And a child's careless dating often begins with adolescence, and during the adolescence, the child begins to gradually pursue his own small circle and try to find like-minded friends.
But teenagers also have a characteristic, psychological immature, often easy to be righteous, do not know how to reject them, often when making "poisonous friends", the impact on themselves is great. The ancients often said that the near Zhu people are close to the ink and the black is often this truth.
The character of a poisonous friend with a bad child
Xu Ming of the movie "Young You" mixed with Wei Lai and Luo Ting, these "bad girls", to form a gang of three to bully the weak. But we know that Xu Miao is often intolerant of being bullied, but if she does not bully her classmates with Wei Lai, then she will be disliked or even bullied, so Xu Xiao does not dare to say anything even if she feels guilty. When school bullying occurs, in addition to bystanders, some of these perpetrators are often not out of intention, but under the control of the brothers' righteous spirits, resulting in big mistakes.
Many times, due to the immature mind of teenagers, often do not know how to reject others, so at the instigation of friends, they often do regretful things.
When Jackie Chan's sons Fang Zuming and Ke Zhendong were arrested for drug abuse, some people reported that Fang Zuming had a history of drug abuse for 8 years, and there were also rumors that Fang Zuming's mother had tried to persuade Fang Zuming to stay away from Ke Zhendong, but it was no longer important who influenced whom, and it was certain that there was always one of them who was "friends" when they were "friends"
When "Ancient Puzzle Boy" was broadcast, many friends called brothers and brothers, and the righteousness of the jianghu affected a generation of young people, and many teenagers also embarked on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes.
Poisoning friends affects a child's mental health
I saw a mother on the Internet complaining that her daughter was bullied by her friends, obviously her daughter was very sad, but she still had to please her friends. The reason for the question is that he is afraid that his friend will no longer play with him, and this child has learned to use this trick against his daughter, so that her daughter is completely controlled by her. There are even some who constantly expose the privacy of their friends, but they still dare not stay away from such classmates.
These poisonous friends always have a way to make people feel inferior, anxious, and uncomfortable, thus eroding a person's sense of self and damaging his mental health.
Poisoning a friend can affect a child's whole life
Whenever the college entrance examination fills in the volunteer, you can always see that some students have changed their volunteers because they credulously believe in their friends, so that their efforts are in vain and harmful to people for a lifetime.
There are also some social friends, even if you wake up one day, they will still haunt you, keep pestering you, and even hurt your family. In the movie "Sunshine", the ordinary family Ofuna and QinJie have two sons, and the rebellious youngest son Ah He and his friend Caitou cut people into the juvenile auxiliary nursing home, even if Ah He changed his heart after being released from prison, he still couldn't get rid of the entanglement of his friend Caitou, and repeatedly asked Ah He to help him do illegal things.
How to keep your child away from toxic friends
Understand your child's range of communication
As teenagers, they are still young, it is difficult to distinguish bad friends, so as a parent, you must understand the scope of your child's friendship, and which friends play with most often, parents must know in their hearts;
Help your child identify bad friends
Don't tell your child directly who your bad friends are, or even stop your child from making friends, it will only backfire. What we need to do is to analyze the behavior of bad friends with the child, such as a child who often does not return at night, and analyze the danger of behavior with the child. What bad thing could he probably go back to? Believe in the child's self-analysis ability, guide the child step by step, tell the child the consequences of some bad behavior, let the child find the bad friends around him, not directly point out who the bad friends are;
Gradually get away from bad friends
If your child doesn't want to communicate with a bad friend, how can you help your child evacuate a bad friend? Adopt a gradual cold treatment method to reduce the time two people spend together, and slowly dilute the friendship between the two; in this process, tell the child not to feel embarrassed;
Help your child make friends
Parents help children make good friends, parents can learn from the parent group to the child which classmates are worthy of deep friendship, when the teacher praises a child, you can ask the child how the child is, how other classmates are, to make a rough judgment; parents can contact each other, understand the interesting things between children, often mention good friends and interesting things in front of their children, thereby enhancing the contact between the two children;
But here is a point to pay attention to, be sure not to compare the two children;
On the road of children's growth, parents and teachers are key figures, and the third key figure is also the most influential classmate when the judgment ability of adolescent children is weak, in the adolescent children's dating, it is not precious to be harmonious, and it is not wrong to be a parent who is "snobbish" in the case of affecting the child's life.