Every year during the Spring Festival, families organize family gatherings, and this year is no exception.
However, because of the 5-year-old granddaughter of the old aunt's family, this reunion dinner on the second day of the Chinese New Year this year, everyone ate quite unhappily.
Not long after sitting down, the little granddaughter shouted loudly, "Grandma, Grandma, when will it be served?" I'm so hungry!" While shouting, and tapping her own dishes with chopsticks, the old aunt could only quietly comfort her, indicating that she was not in a hurry.
After a while, the waiter began to serve, someone was still picking vegetables, and the little granddaughter began to turn the turntable vigorously, turning her favorite chicken wings and sweet and sour ribs to her eyes, and clipping a lot into the bowl.
Although the old aunt said "the child is still small, there is no way to eat", but did not stop the granddaughter's meaning, but also clipped a few pieces into the granddaughter's bowl, and the little granddaughter also did not care, picking at the ribs in the bowl, and actually threw the fatter ones back into the plate.
Seeing the little granddaughter's action, everyone looked at each other and knew that the plate of ribs could not be eaten.
We often say that "table manners can best reflect the upbringing of a family", and now parents attach unprecedented importance to their children's nutritional supplements, and a mind of the mind allows children to eat better and eat more, but sometimes they just ignore the children's table manners.
Professor Li Meijin once said in a lecture that "a house is not swept, it is difficult to sweep the world", reminding parents to pay attention to their children's table manners.
In fact, it is also true that a child who behaves greedy, selfish, and uncultured when eating will grow up to be habitually self-centered, without basic behavior etiquette, which will not only be disliked by others, but also affect normal interpersonal communication.
Dining etiquette is crucial for children's development
Thousands of years ago, Confucius taught his son: "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand." "If a child does not understand etiquette, then the future will not be able to stand in society, and dining etiquette, as the most basic aspect of etiquette, has a vital role in the growth of children."
1. Establish a sense of rules for children
The mainland has been a country of etiquette since ancient times, and there are various etiquette norms when eating, such as not being able to use two minds when eating, not talking loudly, not abusing chopsticks, and so on.
In the process of cultivating dining etiquette for children, we can make children understand what can be done and what should not be done, so as to further establish a sense of rules for children.
2. Cultivate children's basic sociality
It is well known that people are social animals, and they have to socialize with the people around them every day, and the dinner table is a basic social occasion.
Helping children develop good dining etiquette can cultivate the most basic sociality of children, so that children can make civilized and hygienic dining habits at the table and carry out normal interpersonal communication.
3. Make the child understand the superiority and inferiority of the elderly and the young
According to the cultural traditions of the mainland, not only should the seating order before the meal pay attention to the elderly and the young, but also the younger generations should wait for the elders to move the chopsticks first, so teaching children basic dining etiquette helps children to recognize the dignity and inferiority of the elderly and understand the importance of filial piety to the elders.
What dining etiquette are we going to teach our children?
1. Prepare before meals
Before eating, we can let the child try to help do some preparation work within his ability, such as placing dishes and chopsticks, serving dishes, etc., and secondly, let the child understand that the order of seating cannot be arbitrary, and then sit after the elders are seated, which is not only the respect for the elders as a junior, but also the embodiment of the basic upbringing of the family.
2. When eating
Some parents are usually more doting on their children, so when eating, they are accustomed to letting their children blindly eat their favorite food, which is very impolite.
We should let children understand that when eating, they must know how to share, they should not act too selfish, and they should not use chopsticks to pick and choose between plates, stand up and straighten their arms to reach the dishes across the table, cover their noses and mouths with tissues when sneezing, use chopsticks to take lightly, and cannot use chopsticks to point at others, etc. These are the basic etiquette when eating.
3. After eating
After the meal, we also need to let the child understand that we cannot evaluate the food at will, complain that the food is not in line with the taste, but should have a grateful heart for the preparation of the meal and thank the other party.
And as a junior, you should also try to clean up the table after everyone has finished eating, clean up the dishes, and if there is something to leave the table after eating, you must take the initiative to greet the elders and then leave the table.
Old Miao Conclusion:
Table manners are an important way to reflect children's family upbringing, and we must cultivate table manners for children from an early age.
Often parents will say "can not let the child lose on the starting line", and we must pay attention to the child's knowledge education, etiquette should pay more attention to it, with good etiquette norms, in order to let the child go further in the future.
Today's topic: Do you pay attention to cultivating table manners in your children?
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