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Did you take your children to visit relatives and friends in the New Year? Relatives and friends have not seen each other for a long time, is it not particularly happy.
In particular, are relatives particularly kind when they see cute children?
Some relatives will deliberately hug and kiss their children for the reason of loving their children, which are particularly touching and heart-warming pictures.
But if the relatives and elders have done something more excessive to the child, then the mothers should not feel embarrassed, but know how to stop it in time, after all, the child is not very good at rejecting it when he is young, and the role of the mothers is very large.
Take the child away from relatives, 3 behaviors mothers should know how to refuse
The first: encourage children to drink
One of my cousins experienced this when he was very young, about 6 years old, and a relative encouraged his child to try baijiu at a New Year's dinner.
The cousin's parents did not pay attention at the time, and the relative directly took the wine glass and fed it to the cousin's mouth.
The child did not understand things, directly drank a sip, the stimulating taste directly made the cousin spit out on the spot, the noon meals were almost vomited.
A joke of his own hurt the child so badly, the cousin's parents turned their faces to the relative on the spot, and the original lively party was so unhappy and dispersed.
Fortunately, my cousin's body was not harmed by this incident, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable.
New Year's party drinking is the most common thing, adults drink and chat especially happy, and when they are happy at the dinner table, they will do some bad things.
Some relatives and elders will even say to the children next to them, "Xiao Bao, come, learn to drink with the uncle, learn to drink when you are a child, and the amount of alcohol will definitely be high when you grow up."
Relatives on the side will follow and encourage the child to learn to drink, because everyone feels that they are teasing the child, and it is no big deal for the child to lick a little with his lips.
In the face of the situation of letting children try to drink, mothers must directly refuse in person, and do not have any hesitation.
Because the child's brain is not fully mature, strong alcohol will stimulate the brain nerve tissue, and in severe cases, it will damage the brain tissue, causing damage that is difficult to recover.
The second: compare children
Part of the reason adults are now afraid of the New Year is that they will be compared when they go home, and children will face the same things.
When taking children to relatives, there will be many children of the same age playing together, at this time, some relatives may say to the children, "Whoa, how is the exam?" Aren't you learning piano? Did you take the exam? You see how good your cousin is, not only playing the piano well, the academic performance is not to say, every exam is the top few, the future will definitely be able to go to a prestigious university! ”
The child was originally having a lot of fun, but he was instantly overwhelmed by such a question from a relative.
In the face of this situation, mothers must know how to stop it in time and do not let relatives continue to ask.
The best way to interrupt the conversation of relatives is to change the topic, although the mother can not turn her face on the spot to make the scene embarrassing, but you can laugh and giggle with the relatives, for example, you can praise the relatives' clothes are beautiful, ask where to buy, you can introduce each other's familiar brands and so on.
The most important purpose is to divert the attention of relatives in this way, and no longer blindly grasp the child for unnecessary comparison. On the one hand, it helps the child to break the siege, on the other hand, it allows relatives to continue chatting with other topics of interest.
The third: make excessive jokes
Some relatives do not pay attention to the child's speech, and if it seems to be a joke on the surface, it may actually cause a great psychological shadow to the child's heart (this shadow will not appear immediately, but will immerse itself in the child's heart and continue to affect the child's growth).
For example, some relatives will say to their children, "Your doll doesn't look like your parents at all, didn't your mother pick it up on the side of the road?" ”
Or some relatives will say to the child, "Why didn't your mother buy you new shoes, it seems that your mother doesn't love you at all!" ”
The speaker has no intention of listening, although it is a joke of relatives, but the child will take it seriously.
I experienced this kind of thing when I was a child, and it was often said that my mother had picked it up next to the straw pile while she was working, so much so that when I was a child, I really believed that I had picked it up, and I was lying on the straw pile in tattered clothes.
This concept has always been deeply imprinted in my mind, and it is only now that I have grown up that I have slowly understood how ridiculous these so-called "jokes" of adults are.
Children in early childhood cannot distinguish between true and false words, if you tell her that this is A then the child will think that this is A, so please do not say these excessive "lies" in front of the child.
When it is found that relatives say similar words to the child, the mother should clarify it at the first time, clearly tell the child the truth, and keep a complete and beautiful childhood memory for the child.
Taking children out to relatives is a happy thing, but there will always be some unreliable relatives who do some unreliable behavior.
Mothers should not let their children endure these strange behaviors for the sake of the current face, but they should know how to stop them in time and teach their children how to refuse and say "no" loudly with actions.
But mothers should also be careful in the way they refuse, and it is best not to cause conflict or trouble in person.
Today's topic: Do you have unreliable relatives in your family? What excessive things have been done to children? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section!
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