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Love is unreasonable, many men will feel wronged in love, obviously have been very good to this woman, eager to give everything with both hands, but this woman is still not plague, and even the more you are good to her, the farther she escapes.
In fact, many times, it is not that we do not love each other, but that we use the wrong method.
For mature women, they have thoughts, experiences, and are accustomed to life. They have experienced love, betrayal and hurt. They can see through people's hearts and protect themselves more, and she may value the following more than being good to her in no way.
One: She values what you do more than what you say
There is such a passage that speaks to the hearts of countless women:
"If he says he loves you, wait until he takes good care of you; if he promises to take you on a trip and be happy when he books a plane; if he says he's going to marry you, wait until he buys a diamond ring and kneels before you are moved."
Love is not just talking, we have passed the age of hearing love. ”
A little girl who does not understand the world may be moved to cry for a few sweet words. To mature women, these words are like a welcome from Miss Welcome, but they are nothing more than hypocritical courtesies and have no practical significance.
Instead of saying "I love you" to a woman a million times and giving her an umbrella when it rains; instead of saying to a woman a million times I miss you, you should show up downstairs in her house yourself.
Words can express emotions, but only one in ten thousand, and only if you really do it can you convince women that your love is real, not just in the mouth.
Ten thousand sweet words is not as good as putting a coat on her in the cold wind. It would be better to make ten thousand surprises than to pour her a cup of boiling water when she was uncomfortable.
Two: Give her what she wants, not what you want
The most stupid behavior of a man is self-righteous giving, you love a woman, the first thing you have to do is to understand her, understand her, you have to know what she wants most, not what you give her.
In recent years, China's marriage rate is declining year by year, and men will have various reasons to feel that women are materialistic, vain, and value skin, because they have no house and no car, because they are not handsome enough, so they are unwilling to enter the palace of marriage with him.
But few men will self-reflect on whether it is because they do not give women a sense of security in the process of getting along, so that she does not dare to easily hand over her life to him.
Women are sensual animals, and their pursuit of spiritual fit is far greater than their desire for material things. If your need for a woman is only on a material level, then you are too superficial. If a woman turns a blind eye to your overtures, it's not that she's hard as iron, it's that you don't know her at all.
Man gives wishfully, full of superiority, he feels that I have given you what I have, you should be grateful to Accept, but never thought, you give, is not what she wants.
Three: Short-term pampering, not as good as long-term companionship
There was once an advertising slogan that was popular all over the country: I don't care about the longevity of the day, I only care about what I once had. It seems that as long as you have it, you can have no regrets in your life.
In fact, women often care more about long-term companionship than short-term encounters.
A man's kindness to a woman is diminishing, and no one can keep love at its strongest forever. The more violent your upfront pursuits, the more women may be scared farther away.
There is a word called "deep love is not longevity", a lifetime of fiery love, can only exist in the work of art, in reality, love, will be chami oil and salt grind away the beautiful halo, revealing the original most simple appearance.
Mature women, often more will protect themselves, rather than talking about a vigorous short love, exhausted the heart will eventually disappear, with a lifetime of time to heal, it is better to talk about a long stream of love, perhaps not so magnificent scenery, but can use a lifetime to move, to taste.
When you're good to a woman, ask yourself if you can be so nice to her all your life.
Setting the threshold of love too high at the beginning and going downhill every day after that is not acceptable to every woman. In such a love, they will slowly change from being touched and sweet at the beginning, slowly turning into disappointment, and finally leaving in despair.
Therefore, mature women usually do not choose the man who is the best for her, because she knows that such a strong good is difficult to last, it will disappear, and they will choose the man who brings endless security in the daily trivialities, there is no earth-shattering and touching behavior, but it is a small warm deposit of thin water.
100% strong love is not as good as seventy warm lifelong companionship.
The pursuit of a middle-aged woman is not as complicated as you think, know her, understand her, and then give you enough sincerity and companionship, when she trusts you enough, the fate between you will continue.
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