The most regrettable thing in life is to give up easily. If you can try more options, even if not perfectly, at least you will not regret it for the rest of your life.
Recently, the circle of friends was swept away by a video of an English interview on the streets of London, thousands of comments, and the original interviewer's question was: "What advice would you give to yourself when you were young?" ”
In fact, the simpler the truth, the closer it is to the truth, and the answers of several elderly people are shocking.
Hard work half a life, the most difficult thing is not to leave regrets, do not live up to the time, these 3 sentences must be collected.
1. Read more and don't let yourself regret it
The first elderly person interviewed wanted to say to himself when he was young: "Go to school and study well, so that you don't sell T-shirts on the street!" The old man smiled self-deprecatingly with a dozen T-shirts in his hand.
Things that you didn't learn well in the first place will always jump out to remind you when you are most embarrassed.
Riches must be obtained from hard work, and boys must read five books. Being forced to earn a living and choosing a job you love is a world of experience.
Each of us is born with something that must be done, all kinds of suffering, suffering from learning is the most worthwhile, reading is the key to unlocking the dilemma of life.
In the character return visit program "See You Again", Zhang Juncheng is known as "the first person in the Peking University Security Adult College Entrance Examination", he became a security guard at the Ximen of Peking University at the age of 19, because he was ridiculed by international students, spent 3 years studying law and English, and obtained a college degree from the Law Department of Peking University.
Under his influence, more than 500 people in the security team of Peking University have successively obtained college degrees or even postgraduate degrees, and the studious Peking University security group has been regarded as the general existence of sweeping monks in the Shaolin Temple.
Today, Zhang Juncheng is the principal of a vocational school and has completely changed his destiny.
Yang Yuanxi, deputy chief designer of the Beidou navigation system, said when participating in the "Reader": "I have almost no other hobbies, that is, I like to read. My brothers and sisters 7 read very well, but I was the only one who read it. ”
7 brothers and sisters to become a Beidou deputy chief designer, Yang Yuanxi choked, he knows that to change his fate, can only rely on reading.
Not long ago, poor students in Tsinghua shared their own story of studying, simple and sincere words, only 400 yuan of living expenses per month, breaking open a little flower, not deliberately selling misery, but making people who read tears.
From overcoming countless difficulties to study, to sponsoring 4 children in his hometown Hope Primary School, he is grateful for his fate and cherishes the opportunity to study, even if it only illuminates one person...
Reading may not make you rise to a higher position and raise your salary, but it can broaden your horizons and take you out of the situation of mediocrity and self-disturbance; reading may not make you earn a lot of money, but it can enhance your pattern and let you stand at a higher place to see this prosperous scenery.
Want to be a better person? It turns out that reading is the best way to break the ceiling of the circle.
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2. Be brave and bold, and seize life's opportunities
The advice of the second gentleman interviewed was: "Make yourself bolder, be brave enough to do something, don't worry too much about not being able to do it, just let it go." Don't get to my age to find out I haven't done anything. ”
Luo Xiang once said in a chat with Xu Zhiyuan: "Bravery is the most advanced word, among all the virtues of mankind, bravery is the most scarce, when the god of fate pushes you to a moment of bravery, I hope you can be as brave as you imagine." ”
Recently, the People's Daily commented that Zhang, who recorded rural life, used professional technology to record the real China and excavate the charm of the countryside.
His video footage connection is very professional and compact, and some people even say that he "has a team behind him", and he personally demonstrated how to shoot it normally.
He said that he is an authentic, ordinary rural person, usually shoot some of the customs and customs of his hometown, and wants to let more people know and understand the countryside through this short video.
His short videos do not have magnificent scenery, famous cars and mansions, nor cool special effects, popular BGM, only with a lonely courage, as an actor, screenwriter, director, editor, two months rose to 10 million fans.
Bravery is when you know that you may lose and be ridiculed, but you still insist on doing it, and do it well, and persist until the end.
Shakespeare said: "Our misgivings are traitors, and it makes us no longer excellent and afraid to try." The blind box of fate, instead of hesitating and tangling choices, it is better to open them one by one. ”
Having the courage to start from scratch at any time allows us to be fearless of the wind and rain.
When Wang Deshun was about to retire, he resolutely resigned from his stable repertory theater job and drifted north with his wife and children.
People around him do not understand, he learned English at the age of 44, began to work out at the age of 50, tried to ride a horse at the age of 65, played motorcycle at the age of 78, stepped on the catwalk of Beijing International Fashion Week at the age of 79, had a good figure and killed small fresh meat, and when he was 80 years old, he became a DJ...
The difficulty of this is great, and the amount of criticism endured can be imagined.
Without Wang Deshun's brave attempt, there would be no "China's coolest grandfather" today.
The mother of the writer Kotaro Isaka once said to him: "When you encounter difficulties, if you are so frightened that your legs are weak and you want to run away, you will really lose miserably." ”
On the contrary, if you dare to face it bravely, you will be hurt less, whether you fight or get sick, no matter what, you will lose if you cower.
Bravery is the light in adversity, bend over the situation, boldly try, in order to seize more opportunities in life, create their own miracles.
3. Be confident and don't care about other people's eyes
The next respondents expressed the same view, to be more confident, not to care too much about their looks, hairstyles, dress, if this life does not try to seize more opportunities, then life is meaningless.
Yu Feihong, who is 50 years old, is confident and frank, often flows out without refined pictures, without deliberate makeup, and even when the 10-level filter is closed during live broadcasting, the gentle and dignified, comfortable and relaxed temperament is charming enough.
"Must it be a slap in the face?" Does it have to be a nine-headed body? Does it have to be high? Do you have to be skinny? Must it be white? What is beauty? What is the standard of beauty? Who defines such a criterion? For whom is such a standard defined? I didn't question tall, white and thin, I questioned 'certainly'. ”
This is the inner monologue of actor Qi Xi in the short film "Magic Mirror", reaching a sick appearance anxiety, which is actually a manifestation of lack of self-confidence.
High appearance is indeed an advantageous resource, but good looks and excellent are not necessarily linked, and confident beauty is the real beauty.
Everyone is born with a special gift from fate, and our task is to discover our shining point and make good use of it.
The world-famous musician Seiji Ozawa, one of the world's three major oriental conductors, once heard a discordant passage in the final of a world-class conducting competition, and felt that the score was wrong.
The judges insisted that the score was fine, and in the face of these authorities, Seiji Ozawa said emphatically, "No! The score must be wrong! As soon as the words fell out, the judges responded with thunderous applause on the spot.
It turned out that this was part of the test of the competition, and Ozawa's self-confidence made him shield himself from outside interference and decisively jump out of the "trap".
Lack of self-confidence, perhaps what makes us miss is a deep exchange, a sincere love, a high-paying position.
Whether or not you are confident comes from the evaluation of the outside world, and it comes from the rational judgment of your own value.
For negative evaluations, if there is one, it will be changed, and if there is none, it will be encouraged. For the difficulties in front of you, be confident and invincible.
From this moment on, you really have to seize the time to empower life, I hope the following three points can help you.
Efficient learning
Carrying the weight forward at work, all kinds of chores in life are overwhelmed, and we must especially cherish the time we can concentrate every day.
We don't have to learn everything, it's best to choose a field that is related to work, or one that we are particularly enthusiastic about and willing to improve.
In the selection of books, you can "copy the students' homework" and read good books with high scores.
At the same time, try to choose content other than comfortable reading, break through cognition, and slightly difficult knowledge can make us more knowledge.
It's hard to control our addiction to learning, but we need to be alert to the black hole of time created by entertainment, which can help us avoid wasting time to the greatest extent possible.
Let go of the burden of "thin skin"
In the era of traffic prevalence, the aroma of wine is also afraid of the deep alley, and people who are not confident enough are always afraid of being concerned and embarrassed to fight.
Only by speaking out bravely and boldly can we better express ourselves to the world and realize the value of life.
Don't back down on a single loss of face, and don't give up because of a failure.
Don't let "thin-skinned" rob us of our chance to get better.
Stay away from people who hit you often
I've heard the saying: "Stay away from people who always hit you, who criticize you, laugh at you, or always hint that you can't... There are too many people in this world waiting in line to educate you, but there are only a small number of people who encourage you and believe in you. ”
We have to admit that some people just like to point fingers, and if there are always people around you who habitually hit you, it is best to stay away from such unprovoked "bad reviews".
First accept yourself from the bottom of your heart, you can better accomplish everything.
When he was a teenager, he lived up to Shaohua's behavior and knew.
Lifelong learning, increase the thickness of life, don't let yourself regret; boldly try, seize every opportunity in life beyond expectations; self-confidence, our strength is weak but sincere, always can draw a world.
Text / Sven