In the process of communicating with some parents, Xiao Chat found that when some parents talk about their children's psychological problems, they often say such a sentence: My child has been very introverted since childhood. There seems to be a perception among parents that introversion is not good.
In this small chat, we must debunk the rumors: introverts are really not necessarily more likely to have psychological problems.
Whether a person is introverted or extroverted, there is no natural distinction between good and bad.
The famous psychologist Jung, when he studied and analyzed personality traits in 1921, proposed the theory of introversion and extroversion: the difference between introversion and extroversion lies in the direction of the source of mental energy.
In psychology, the essential difference between introversion and extroversion is the difference in the way energy is obtained. In other words, they charge their spiritual world differently.
● Extroverts like to get vitality from the outside world, they like to communicate with people, like to participate in various activities, like to work in a crowded environment, and the active atmosphere will make extroverts energetic and energetic.
Introverts are more concerned about the inner world, such as a person's thoughts and emotions, so reading in a quiet space, meditating on writing, feeling the afternoon sun, enjoying beautiful scenery, and tasting the taste of coffee will make introverts feel more comfortable and energetic.
Simply put, extroverts like to expand the breadth of life, while introverts like to dig into the depths of life.
Speaking of this, everyone may understand that introversion is not the same as being shy and timid, and an introvert can also be generous, have friends, and like to occasionally get happiness from socializing. Part of this difference in personality is determined by innate temperament, and the other part is formed by acquired experience, and there is no natural distinction between good and bad.
To keep children away from psychological problems, we must start from the child's growth process.
If parents find that their children's personality is introverted, they think that whether the child has such and such cognitive biases, feel that introversion is not good, and feel quite anxious about it, such an idea is not right.
Your anxiety may turn a child who was originally only introverted into shy and timid. If the child really has some unsociable problems, as a parent, you should actually accompany the child more, take the child to the outside world to participate in activities, give the child more affirmation and appreciation, less command criticism and accusation, so that the child's inner sense of security slowly increases, so that the child can become sunny and confident with the child's growth.