The most commonly used noun in the world is friend, but the hardest to get is also friend.
We all know the concept of "multiple friends and many roads" and the way to make friends, but the "friends" and "roads" are full of mysteries and variables, the road can connect friends, and friends may not be the ones who are willing to pave the way for you!
Many people have felt that friends are also a symbol and symbol of their own identity, and the number of friends is large, proving that their ability is extraordinary; the status of friends is high, proving that their status is different. To this end, he will not hesitate to sell his materials, feelings, and even values in exchange for the path and glory of so-called friends. But in the end, when you really need help, those who once thought of the path of friends or brotherhood will disappear in an instant, and if two people are sentenced, there are very few and chilling people who can really stay!
Therefore, friends are sometimes like a mirror, while looking at the faces of others, they can also see their own hearts. When you have experienced too much human warmth and coldness, you will understand the true meaning of the word friend.
It's easy to make friends, it's hard to make friends! True friends, in fact, do not lie in the number of people and the level of identity, as Puffefer said: the people who want to make friends with everyone are not anyone's friends!
At the same time, friends are not synonymous with identity, because the essence of friends is neither the acquisition of fame and fortune nor the exchange of benefits, but the spiritual growth of each other! A true friend is not the one who is superficially righteous and the inner is obscene, but the one who sees you through and can still like you!
There are four kinds of people who have made friends for a lifetime, and I am afraid that none of them will know each other.
1. People who make friends with wine
Some people like to use the concentration of alcohol to measure the purity of friends, what "deep feelings, a mouthful; shallow feelings, lick a lick" and other rules of the wine table, seemingly clear and distinct, but in fact self-deception. Because of the friends he made at the wine table, the brotherhood or sincerity he showed would be gathered by the wine and go with the wine, as Luo Gao said: "Making friends with wine, like wine, is only one night!" ”
2. Condescending people
Perhaps we all know the truth of "the high place is not cold", but the result is often the bystanders are clear, and the authorities are confused. Some people claim to have high status or wealth, so they condescend to face their friends who are inferior to themselves. And those friends, some because of power and bowed, some because of interests and the lead, but once you are not in the high place, those once friendships will go with the wind, with resentment, not only have a dismissive cold to you, and even endure a long time of hatred! The reason is simple, because friendship is based on equality and respect, and the sentiment of power and wealth alone is just a transaction that takes what you need, and it cannot last long!
3, people who are deeply in the shadows
Some people treat their friends with a dark heart and even repay virtue with resentment, and sometimes the root cause is not what they think, but caused by injury. When you treat others wholeheartedly or give a lot, you don't expect to end up with only hurt. In this case, your heart will become complicated, your thoughts will be jealous, and you will not dare to easily believe others, even if that person takes the initiative again, you dare not be sincere. As a result, vigilance, hostility, and even revenge become the payer of psychological wounds that cannot be healed. Therefore, when a person experiences more harm, the more hostility to friends, if you can't get out of the shadows in time, I am afraid that I will not know myself for the rest of my life!
4, do not understand the gratitude of people
Some people regard the help of friends as a rightful giving, but do not know how to cherish and give back, until the love is overdrawn, the friendship will not be happy. Some people are always like this: get used to getting used to it and forget to be grateful! In fact, except for your parents, there is no one under the sky who can give willingly for you. Therefore, a person who does not know how to be grateful, in the circle of friends, is doomed to be lonely for a lifetime!