After having a baby, there is always a heart that can't be every day. Especially when the child has any small problems, or when there is any difference with other children, mothers will begin to worry about whether there will be any problems with their children.
Raising a child at the age of 100 and worrying about ninety-nine is a true portrayal of many mothers, but in fact, the more you worry about your children, the better!
Today I will talk to you about the child's bad diseases, you may not know, before the age of 2 years old, the baby's many "bad diseases" do not have to be cared for, and it is likely to be more and more serious!
01 Don't worry about eating hands, long nature will be good
"What a headache! The baby is almost 1 year old, he likes to eat his hands when he has nothing to do, and now he even has a thumb when he sleeps, and he cries as soon as he takes it out. ”
Mothers also have their own methods for this: beat, pull hard, drink stop, smear pepper, wear gloves... What a vendetta against the baby!
For eating hands, parents don't really need to worry too much. "Sucking" is a normal reaction, is to make the baby feel the most comfortable, the safest action, premature weaning, mother and child separation, etc., so that the baby feels very uneasy, afraid, will eat hands to alleviate their anxiety.
Eating hands is a stage behavior of the baby, and if the baby eats enough, he will naturally not eat.
If you blindly prevent the baby from enjoying the pleasure of sucking, some surveys have shown that children whose appetite period is not satisfied, their dependence on eating hands will be prolonged, greatly increasing the chance of "biting nails, nibbling on pencils, and gluttony" in adulthood.
What should we do?
First of all, absolutely do not use scolding and scolding, forcibly interrupt the eating hand, which will make the baby's addiction to the hand become an addiction in the heart.
We can use other ways to attract the baby's attention, accompany the baby to do some hands-on games, and play more small toys of pulling, pulling and pinching. When the baby's hands gradually become flexible and have other desires to explore, there is naturally no time to eat hands!
02 "Love to cry" don't care, he just said that he didn't understand the urgency
"The baby is more than one year old, he cries at every turn, cries when he is not satisfied, plays with children and cries, there is no day when he does not cry and gets better, he is always upset." 」
Crying before the age of 1 is either because of eating, drinking, and sleeping, or being sick and uncomfortable. But as the baby's brain develops, he begins to have thoughts, emotions, tempers... Ignored will cry, denied will cry, have thoughts in the heart, language ability can not keep up, the mouth can not speak can also cry until the collapse.
Children can not control their emotions, not to say completely ignore, let the child cry, this may make the baby cry more and more fierce, or although they do not like to cry, but also do not want to expose their emotions to the parents. Regardless of what is said here, it is not to just say "don't cry" and "don't cry" to the child, and block the baby's emotions.
Let him vent a little and give the emotions a buffer period.
Settle after catharsis. How to settle down, empathy, such as hugging him and saying "I know you're uncomfortable, I know you're wronged" and so on to understand the child's words. Let him know that you are not her opposite and she will calm down.
After the child's mood has calmed down a little, the mother can ask the child: "Have you encountered any difficulties?" Or, "Would you like to talk to your mother about the problem you're having?" Words like these are good for getting to know the child better.
Divert attention. You can use something else to distract you.
03 "Touching the private parts" does not matter, but experiences a different feeling
"The baby always touches the chicken when changing diapers, and when he bathes the baby, he also has to pinch and poke, how can he not "multi-hand"? ”
The average age at which children "touch themselves" occurs is 2.8 years old, the minimum age is 3 months, most of them will disappear on their own when the child is 6-7 years old, they just want to know themselves, and will not affect the child's physical and mental development. So, don't worry, although the baby's "self-touch" is common, it will also disappear naturally, which is normal!
At this stage, if it is rudely stopped by parents, it will make the child feel deeply guilty and have a fear of "genitals". If parents keep blaming and nagging, they will strengthen the "self-touch" in the child's subconscious, which is often counterproductive.
Try to keep your baby's hands "busy" as much as possible. Parents should try to distract the baby, such as letting him play with blocks, ring bells, throw small balls, etc., so that there is no time to explore the secrets of the private parts.
Wear less crotchless pants. Although the open crotch pants are convenient for the baby to urinate and defecate, but it has a great impact on the hygiene of his private parts, plus the baby loves to touch the private parts, Mommy still puts him into closed loose pants.
Repeatedly tell the baby that this is a bad behavior, you need to be patiently persuaded, see the baby touching the private parts, take his hand away, and tell him "this is unhygienic Oh."
04 "Barefoot" do not care, the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages
"The baby is more than 1 year old, she does not wear shoes, barefoot running on the floor, the old man at home said that he is afraid of the cold on the soles of his feet, and he does not know what to do."
There are many benefits of baby barefoot, such as promoting the development of the baby's arch, promoting the toe grip to walk more steadily, and enriching the baby's tactile experience.
Babies like to run around barefoot because the feeling of being barefoot is so wonderful. The carpet is soft and hairy, the floor tiles are hard and cool, and the feeling of grass, beach, cement floor, etc. is different for the baby, which makes the baby very fascinated.
At the same time, there is no need to worry about the baby's barefoot will catch a cold, some studies have shown that barefoot is more conducive to foot blood circulation, improve resistance and cold resistance, and prevent cold or cold diarrhea and other diseases.
In the case of ensuring the safety of the ground, such as no sharp objects, the ground will not be too cold or too hot, etc., you can allow your baby to enjoy the fun of barefoot.
05 Don't care if you "recognize life", you will hurt him
"Every time after saying hello to someone, others want to hug, and the little guy plays his legs while drilling into his mother's arms. Take him out and don't play with the children, someone teases her, she will cry, really headache. ”
In fact, it is a very normal thing for babies to recognize birth, and almost every baby will go through this so-called "recognition period". After the baby is born, he will slowly develop attachment to his mother and have a sense of security.
Most babies begin to recognize birth at 7-8 months, and will be better at 12 months old, but some children will recognize birth until the age of three. At this time, the baby, there is no concept of politeness and communication in the brain, do not blindly use the rules of the adult world to ask the child, but destroy the sense of security that he has just established.
Take your baby out more. Parents should take the baby to outdoor activities, see more things outside, consciously let him contact the living people more, and encourage him to play games with his peers.
Start with acquaintances. For the baby that is recognized, the mother can start from someone he is more familiar with, so that he gradually gets used to interacting with people other than the mother or caregiver. After your baby gradually adapts, expand his contact range.
Teach your baby to say hello. Letting your baby develop the habit of greeting people from an early age can help him get through the birth period smoothly, and it can also make him more and more polite.
06 "Hit someone" don't care, it's just a fun move
"The baby beat people at the age of 1, saying that he didn't listen, he really couldn't control it, I hit him twice, he was not only not afraid but also intensified."
For babies within 2 years of age, hitting someone just feels fun, not really wanting to hit someone, but an unconscious action. He may have imitated it in his daily life, or seen it on TV. Not only should it not be left alone, but it should be ignored.
He may have accidentally hit someone, and when he found that it caused such a big reaction from everyone, he would find it very funny, and his behavior would be constantly reinforced. Or because he is reprimanded by his parents when he hits people, the baby will find that "hitting people" can attract the mother's attention to himself, but he loves to beat people more.
Although it can't be managed, it needs to be interrupted immediately, if the child hits someone, immediately take his hand away, put something in his hand, and let the behavior be interrupted.
When the child is emotionally stable, discuss with the child: what kind of behavioral consequences should be taken out of the beating, and make rules to let the child understand how he will be dealt with after hitting the person.
07 "Tear paper" don't care, I can't ask for it
"The baby is 8 months old, always love to tear the paper to pieces, and sometimes the picture books look at it and are torn apart." Is this deliberate vandalism?! ”
Babies aged 6-7 months, hand-eye movements are gradually coordinated, when the baby finds that he can change the shape of the paper through his own small hands, and make a sound of tearing paper, he will feel surprised and happy, and enjoy it!
Baby tearing paper is a manifestation of fine motor ability development, tearing paper helps to exercise the child's hand-eye coordination, and the child's small muscles, as well as the development of fine movements, is a very good game.
You can prepare different materials of paper (wrinkled paper, napkins, cardboard shells, etc.) for the baby to tear, so that the baby has a richer tactile experience.
To avoid the baby newspaper and other ink printing paper, this kind of paper contains lead, the baby tears the paper and then eats the hand is too dangerous; pay attention to the baby, tear the paper at the same time do not eat by mistake.
08 "Playing with food" doesn't matter, just exploring and learning to eat
"The baby is over a year and a half old, and she always likes to play with meals when she eats, putting her hands in the soup bowl to wash her hands, or pouring the soup into the dinner plate and playing with her hands back and forth."
Many babies are initially interested in food, in eating, and especially in themselves. However, because the muscle strength and hand-eye coordination of the baby's small hands are not enough, they will often make a mess.
If you have grabbed the rice bowl and fed the baby, you will slowly find that the baby is more and more reluctant to eat by himself, less and less interested in food, and even begins to be picky eaters! That's because adults deprive babies of the pleasure and sense of accomplishment of eating on their own.
Don't limit your baby too much, allow him to play with food and eat slowly. Bring a small bib, wash your hands, and let your baby eat as much as you want.
09 "Throwing things" doesn't matter, he is learning causality
"My son is a year and a half old, always gets everything to throw away, toys, kettles, things to eat, patience and he says it's useless, what's wrong?"
In fact, at this time, it is normal for the baby to throw things around, in fact, he is observing. For example, a ball rolls when thrown out; throws a brick and falls to the ground makes a noise, but doesn't roll. Babies will gradually realize that throwing different things will have different effects.
The child's love to throw things is not his intention to make trouble, let alone a bad thing, but the baby's normal exploration of the external world during this period.
Tell your child what you can throw and put away everything you can't throw. Find something to throw and play a throwing game with your baby, such as catching a throwing ball, throwing a ball into a basket, or throwing a rock into a pond.
Clean up the mess with your baby. Throw things out and naturally pick them up, as long as the baby can climb, you can complete the work with you.
Do something meaningful throw. For example, throwing socks into the laundry basket with your baby, throwing used tissues into the trash can, throwing toys into the toy box, and so on. I played the game of throwing and cleaned up the house.
10 "Fetish" don't care, there is nothing wrong with a little more security
"The baby is two years old, and he likes to hold a broken bath towel, and he must hold and lick it to sleep to fall asleep." I really want him to quit this, is it necessary to hold this thing for the rest of his life when he grows up? ”
Babies will find ways to soothe their emotions from birth, and some babies like to touch the corners of the quilt and hold plush toys. When the mother is not there, it becomes a part of the mother, and the baby can use it excessively, gradually reducing the dependence on the mother and establishing his independence.
Baby fetish is a normal psychological need, not pathological, will slowly disappear with growth, if there is no serious impact on the baby's life, do not care, let alone forced to stop. But attention and guidance are required.
Mothers should accompany and pay more attention to the baby, hug and touch the baby more, let the baby feel the love of parents and mothers, and he can gradually let the feeling of safety and comfort come from himself, rather than with the help of objects.
Prepare more of the same, not to show off wealth, luxury, but to ensure that one is dirty, some are washed; one is broken, there is a substitute. Your attachment toy is broken, which is the most difficult for babies to accept.
Babies within the age of 2 do not know too much right and wrong, what can be done, what can not be done, many "bad problems" at first are more because of fun, curiosity, and attempts, but if they encounter parental wrong treatment, such as scolding, blame, excessive punishment, etc., it will make these problems entrenched.
Of course, these treatment methods are only for babies within 2 years old, and the big baby after 2 years old needs to gradually establish a concept of right and wrong, establish rules, and have self-control, and the way of treatment is different!