When the opposite sex gets along, we are easily attracted to each other's external conditions. It's like a woman who is very handsome when she sees a very handsome man, and easily gets her heart moved and ignores his character and character.
If a woman blindly pays her feelings without understanding the character of a man, and even pays a lot for this relationship, it will be this woman who will be hurt in the end.
Ostrovsky said: "The beauty of man does not lie in his appearance, clothes and hairstyle, but in himself, in his heart." If a person does not have the beauty of the heart, we often hate his beautiful appearance. ”
A man, even if he has good external conditions, also has a good material foundation, if he does not have a good heart, does not have a good character and character, it is not worth a woman to love, to pay.
In love, the most important thing is not the external conditions, but the other person's mind. Only by getting along with people with beautiful hearts will this feeling be more sincere and more stable, and two people will be more harmonious when they get along together, and they will trust, understand and respect each other.
Tagore also said, "I would rather have a beauty that is invisible but manifests an inner quality." ”
Emotionally, women should remain calm and know how to observe each other's character. How to judge a man's character? It's actually very simple, just have a meal with him.
01 When eating, see if he has some bad habits.
Generally speaking, a man with good character, although he will also have some bad habits, but when getting along with others, he will still pay attention to his own words and deeds, and will consider the feelings of others. Especially when dealing with the opposite sex, men are very good at considering women's feelings and pay attention to their words and deeds.
When speaking, men will also consider whether their words will make women unhappy; in some behaviors, they will also think about women. All in all, men will pay great attention to their words and deeds and will try to leave a good impression on women. And his words and deeds are not deliberately disguised, but respectful of a person.
Socrates said, "Good habits are the best clothing one can wear in a social scene." ”
A person with good character does not have to deliberately disguise himself, and a woman can know what kind of man he is as long as she observes his behavior habits in some details. Even if men want to disguise themselves, they can only be in some of the more obvious behaviors, and it is difficult to notice every detail.
Women want to know how the man's character is, and in the process of eating, they can observe more of his habits in details, and they can also be clear about one or two.
02 If you eat out, it depends on how you feel about others.
A man of good character will definitely have a lot of good habits. These habits tend to make a good impression on others and be respected by others. As James said, "The more good habits there are, the easier it is to live and the stronger the strength to resist temptation." ”
Even when they get along with strangers, they treat them the same way, not as if they were a changed person.
To take the simplest example, men who are not very good at character tend to behave well when dealing with people they know well. However, when you meet people you don't know outside, you often change your face, you don't respect others at all, and you will lose your temper when you encounter a small matter, which makes people embarrassed.
In the process of eating with men, women can observe how men behave towards others. Especially when eating out, looking at his attitude towards the waiter, you can more or less understand his character.
Men with good character will generally say their requirements very politely, and others will be in a good mood when serving. And those men with bad character always feel that they have spent money, they should accept the services of others, and when there is a need, they are often very rude, just like others owe him.
03 When chatting with you, is it accustomed to talking about things, showing off their own things, or will be very respectful of you and willing to listen to your things.
Plato said, "It is always a beautiful thing to be attached to a lover for the sake of virtue." ”
Every woman wants to meet someone who loves each other and who has a good personality. In this way, in the process of getting along, women will feel respected, and the relationship between them is very equal.
But in life, we often see some men, as long as their own conditions are slightly better, some of them have no one to see. Especially when getting along with women, I like to show off my financial resources and show off my life. Women should know that men with good character are often very low-key and know how to think about others. Even if their conditions are good, they will not casually show off in front of others, but will know how to listen to others' hearts.
So, if you're having dinner with a man who's used to talking, not giving you a chance to talk, and likes to show off his things, you should know that his character must not be good, and it is not worth getting along with.
When getting along with people, women should know how to observe some of men's habits and behavior in some details. As long as a woman can observe carefully, many times, the time of a meal is enough to understand a person's character.
To be a man of better character, remember a quote by Ostrovsky: "Man should dominate habits, but must not let habits dominate him, and if a man cannot get rid of his bad habits, it is simply worthless." ”