Fans asked the question: What kind of man will the older leftover woman eventually marry?
Many people will think that they can only marry a very bad man because they have no choice. In fact, there is no fixed answer to this question. But if you want to sum it up, there may be some commonalities. For example, will marry a divorced man, will marry a man whose conditions are not as good as his own, will not marry for a lifetime, and so on.
For older leftover women, if they really want to solve their personal problems, they still have to be early. As we get older, the range of options becomes smaller.
Tell me a story of a visitor.
Xiaohua (pseudonym) is one of my consulting clients. She is 32 years old and works as a commissioner in the personnel department of a factory, responsible for this aspect of salary. Weekdays are not busy at work, and there are also men who pursue her. But she didn't look up to these men. Because in their company, these men who come after her, there are mainly two kinds. The first is divorced men, and the other is older leftover men.
And these two, Xiaohua can't see.
Her good friend Xiao Qi has been married for more than two years. They are the same age. If there is anything on her mind, she will tell Xiao Qi.
Xiao Qi asked Xiao Hua, what kind of man do you really want? Xiaohua said that at least a decent job must be done, and the income cannot be worse than mine. You can't be much older than me.
From Xiao Hua's point of view, finding such a man should be an easy task.
But all these years, she has not been found.
Her current situation is this: the person she likes, does not show up. And the people who like her, she can't look at any of them.
She is now facing the urging of her parents to marry, and her heart is very depressed, and she does not know what to do. So, she was very upset. I feel that I may really have a hard time marrying out in the future.
Her appeal was: What should I do? Shouldn't we lower some of the requirements and find someone who can live a life?
I believe that there are many older leftover women, facing such a situation, will have such thoughts.
They have to face a problem. That is: if you wait any longer, what kind of man can you marry in the future?
When I think about this question, I may have an inexplicable sense of fear.
In fact, the way out for the older leftover women is in their own hands. For example, Xiaohua, if she really lowers some requirements, look for it with her heart. It is still possible to find a slightly suitable marriage partner. In this way, you solve your own single problem.
But many people, in this case, have a kind of unwillingness.
More often, they are actually a kind of unwillingness. I feel that I can actually do it, why lower my requirements. But in fact, they also misestimated themselves.
Take Xiaohua, for example. She's 32 years old this year. Even if you find a good boy this year. Then spend some time dating, if you can, you have to wait until you are 33 or 34 years old to get married. And even if you immediately consider the problem of having children after marriage, do you have to face the problem of advanced maternal age? Besides, what if there are other states in the relationship?
Therefore, at this age, it is true that we cannot wait any longer.
If you continue to wait, time will pass quickly. If only by the age of 40. At that time, even if you want to solve personal emotional problems. Maybe at that time, you can only choose a divorced man, and the man may still have a child.
I believe that many elderly leftover women have thought about this problem. Didn't think about it either.
This is naturally a realistic factor. So in this case, how to change it?
First: actively face it, cast a wide net, and find a suitable single object through various channels. Second: contact for a period of time, feel bad, give up immediately, your time can not afford to waste. Third: appropriately lower some requirements, adhere to the previous requirements, it is difficult to find a suitable object. Fourth: When encountering any blows and setbacks, we must get rid of them as soon as possible, face them positively, and face difficulties. Fifth: No matter what others say, as long as you want to get off the list, you must face it positively. And get used to the gossip of others.
For older leftover women, this can be done. Then, your road to get off the list may be smoother.
In fact, the emotional thing is like this, you don't actively face it yourself. The further you get to the back, the harder it is to solve.
There are a lot of misconceptions on the Internet now. For example, women should keep their own principles and bottom lines, and cannot easily find someone to marry.
Each of us has different specific circumstances and cannot be generalized.
You'll have to see what you're in. You can't just ask for high demands. You are so demanding, can you really master it?
For older leftover women, the first thing to do is to recognize reality. Have a comprehensive evaluation of yourself. Set your own standards according to the actual situation. In this way, you can get off the order early.
Unrealistically high standards can only delay your emotional problems.
Back to the original topic. What kind of man will the older leftover woman eventually marry? In fact, the key depends on how you face your emotional problems. If you keep dragging it out, you may end up alone. Therefore, what kind of man you will marry depends on how you deal with the matter of getting off the list. Face it positively, you may be able to find a relatively satisfactory one. On the contrary, it is difficult to say.
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