Shuhui married and divorced during his ten years in the United States.
Yiwa (Shuhui's ex-wife) is afraid of having children and spends a lot of money, and Shuhui earns not enough money for her to spend. They often quarreled over these two things, so they divorced in anger.
Of course, this is a superficial thing, in fact, Shuhui has been looking for a substitute for Cuizhi, and it is also a gamble for Cuizhi's mother (Mrs. Shi).
Ten years ago, when Shuhui first arrived in Nanjing, the two had a love affair with Cuizhi when they were swimming in Xuanwu Lake, but Cuizhi's mother looked down on Shuhui.
In the ten years he went abroad, his income was considerable, his life was good, and he also found a person similar to Cui Zhi to marry.
He wanted to prove that he was not poor and could marry a big lady who was similar to Cuizhi.
He said this to Trish:
"Actually, Yiwa is a bit like your temper, but she is far behind."
And why not blame his temper for his failed marriage?
不争取，不主动
Cui Zhi was fond of Shu Hui, but Mrs. Shi looked down on Shu Hui because Shu Hui's family was poor, and in this regard he did not try to fight for it, but gambled with Mrs. Shi because of this.
This is also a big factor that they miss out on.
Later, after Shuhui returned to Shanghai, Cuizhi wrote him a letter, but Shuhui only replied for a long time, so Cuizhi no longer wrote letters.
The willingness of a woman in a boudoir to write to a man who did not know was enough to prove that Cui Zhi had a crush on Shu Hui.
However, for this affection, ShuHui was very sad.
On the one hand, his family is poor and unworthy of her, on the other hand, his life path has just begun, and he is not willing to give himself a stumbling block.
It also happened that Cui Zhi and Yi Peng were engaged.
He was sad and drunk.
But who is to blame for this?
When did he take the initiative to fight for this relationship?
Cuizhi was so interested in him, and he was only self-conscious, and did not open his heart to Cuizhi.
Did he mean to talk to Cuizhi? Or is it just one-sided enjoyment of Cuizhi's affection for him?
What I think in my heart is that I am afraid that Cuizhi will suffer with me, in fact, I am afraid that Cuizhi will hinder my own development, and I don't want to climb the rich family.
In his heart, Cui Zhi was still not as important as his self-esteem.
ShuHui went to Nanjing for the second time, and after a conversation with Cui Zhi, Cui Zhi and Yi Peng retired from marriage.
Although he knew Cui Zhi's heart very well, he still did not fight for it.
A woman has shown her heart to a man, and the man still does not act, which will only make the woman feel cold.
Feelings of this kind of thing, no matter which party is active for a long time, will be tired.
大男子主义
In that patriarchal society, machismo is not a problem, but emotionally, it is a loss.
Cui Zhi is fond of Shu Hui, but Shu Hui has not really shown his heart, and his ideas for Cui Zhi have not opened their hearts to Cui Zhi.
He was only concerned with his own thoughts.
He thought it was what he thought it was.
He was afraid that Cui Zhi would suffer and suffer with him, but he never asked Cui Zhi if he was willing to suffer and suffer with him, but he just thought that Cui Zhi was a big lady who enjoyed it.
I was afraid that Cuizhi would become a stumbling block on the road of his life, but he never thought that maybe Cuizhi was not a stumbling block but a stepping stone!
He once said to Shi Jun, "How are women?"
In his eyes, women will only be a burden to men.
In foreign countries, he quarreled with Yiwa also because of birth control and cost problems.
Cui Zhi is also from a large family, and may be equally generous in spending.
Love will eventually become affection, and it is inevitable that they will quarrel over it.
Their own problems, no matter what kind of lover they change, they can't change.
END
No matter what era, with a macho man who does not take the initiative in his feelings and does not fight for it, he will not be very happy.