Emotions in the ink
February 2, 2020 is a rare symmetry day, the harmonic sound "love you love you", and it happens to be the ninth day of the first lunar month, containing the beautiful meaning of "long and long". Many newcomers believe that marriage registration on this day will be very happy, and some netizens jokingly call it "the best license day". Unfortunately, it was Sunday, and the civil affairs department was on normal vacation. However, taking into account the "urgent desire" of many young people, the civil affairs departments of some cities have specially launched intimate services, arranging staff to work normally on the same day and registering marriages for citizens.
Love is the eternal theme, marriage is the eternal topic. Because love can enter marriage, but those who enter marriage do not necessarily have love. Love and marriage cannot be equated. Beautiful love may not be able to enter the marriage, but a good marriage must be able to grow a beautiful love.
The opening words of Tolstoy's Anna Karenina are very shocking: "Happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." In fact, the same is true of marriage and love.
Marriage is not an immutable final belonging, do not lose yourself in marriage, unhappy marriage does not have to be wronged and completely settled.
Hong Kong actress Li Ruotong, who was once famous for playing Xiaolongnü, paid off her debts for her boyfriend Guo Yingquan, who later proposed to break up with her "personality incompatibility".
When Li Ruotong's career was at its peak, she met the wealthy businessman Guo Yingquan. But not long after the two fell in love, Guo Yuquan's company suffered a financial crisis, Guo Yingquan's company went bankrupt, and he also owed a huge debt of 100 million, and his life suddenly fell from the cloud to the bottom.
Li Ruotong did not choose to leave or break up at this time, and she believed that Guo Yingquan would be her husband. She worked harder to shoot the scenes, and she was busy in the crew for 24 hours a day. After staying up for 3 years, Guo Yingquan's foreign debt was finally paid off. Indignantly, when Guo Yingquan made a comeback with the help of Li Ruotong, he proposed to break up, on the grounds that the two people were not suitable. This incident made Li Ruotong suffer a lot, and many fans were not worth it for her, and the 3-year effort was exchanged for a void.
True heart can not exchange for true feelings, people who do not cherish you are left to him, and letting others go is also liberating himself
Li Ruotong has been associated with Guo Yingquan since 1998 and has had a consistent relationship over the years. Guo Yingquan's business in his early years was not very smooth, no matter what happened, Li Ruotong was inseparable from him, and he experienced many storms along the way, but the relationship between the two of them has always been very stable. Li Ruotong has also publicly stated that no matter whether her boyfriend is rich or poor, she will not give up. But he must have his own independent life, neither to enjoy his success nor to complain about his temporary failures.
She was fully devoted to her boyfriend for this relationship, but unfortunately, in 2008, Guo Yingquan said that she did not want to continue to be with Li Ruotong. The passive end of this relationship is, in Li Ruotong's words, "pain that cannot be said.".
Li Ruotong also said: "At first, I felt very hurt, but later I don't hate it, and time can heal everything." ”
Some people may say that she is too sad because this relationship is too sad, which leads to the fact that she does not dare to invest in a new relationship, and it is not impossible, after all, how deeply she once loved, the emotional injuries she suffered are also heavy, experienced, walked out, and saw through the love things.
Broke up with her boyfriend in 2008, and her father died of a stroke in 2009, during which time Li Ruotong suffered a heavy mental blow, she also suffered from emotional illness and depression for a time, and almost committed suicide. Fortunately, later Li Ruotong actively faced his illness and was able to slowly walk out of the pain.
Waiting for a long time is a pain, and waiting for a long time is a sweet happiness
Dr. Zhong Nanshan, who won the honor of "Peerless Soldier" for fighting the COVID-19 and SARS epidemics, and his wife Li Shaofen have been in love for decades. When Zhong Nanshan, who is in his eighties, was busy on the anti-epidemic battlefield to the point that there was no time to eat, his wife Li Shaofen waited for her husband to come home every day, hoping to have a meal with her husband. She once said affectionately: "Everyone is waiting for your triumph, I only care when you come home." ”
Zhong Weide, the son of Zhong Nanshan, once took a video of his mother Li Shaofen that touched many netizens.
The video was filmed under the scorching midday sun in May 2020. The 84-year-old Li Shaofen played alone on the basketball court. In fact, she was waiting for Zhong Nanshan to come home for lunch.
The happy couple was married by sports. The 8-year marathon wait finally ushered in their wedding. In his youth, Zhong Nanshan was an athlete who broke the national record for the men's 400-meter hurdles during the selection of the first National Games. Li Shaofen served as a former vice captain of the Chinese women's basketball team as a young man. Two young people who also love sports come together. However, due to the heavy training tasks of Li Shaofen at that time, he frequently went abroad to compete, and the two always gathered less and left more. More often "just keep playing, I'm willing to wait." ”
It is difficult to buy true feelings, and there is love in the burrow
In 1963, the two finally married, the ceremony was very simple, and the new house of less than 10 square meters could only fit a bed and the simplest furniture. The banquet was very simple, and there were few guests who came to celebrate. The grand wedding with the current stars is simply a judgment, but their love is beyond the reach of the stars!
The most beautiful love is mutual waiting, and the happiest marriage is to serve chai rice oil and salt
Originally, Zhong Nanshan was silently waiting for Li Shaofen. Now the couple has swapped roles "because he often says he will go" and has been hand in hand for more than half a century. "Now my mom waits for my dad to come home every day because he often says he'll just go." Son Zhong Weide said.
Whether it is the past years when Zhong Nanshan waited for his wife, or the half of Li Shaofen's life when he waited for her husband, it is a unique way to express love. For them, the most beautiful love is "you guard the patient, I guard you!" ”
Two people who enter the marriage should be loyal to each other, support each other, know each other, neither is a vassal of anyone, do not lose yourself. Marriage is a long-term companionship and waiting, but also a common growth.
Marriage is not a grave, can not live into a pool of stagnant water, we must work with the lover to manage their marriage, grow together, so that the marriage will always be fresh. However, the family has a difficult scripture, and there is also a magic weapon to cure, maybe you are the person who lives a happy or unhappy marriage and is not married.