Hello everyone, I'm Taka.
I wonder if the little monkeys all know about the reopening of "Refactoring Themselves"?
After more than half a year of exploration and preparation, we are starting again!
In the future, the reconstruction will mainly accompany everyone in the form of "community", provide large and small help for everyone's personal growth, and help everyone find their own gold.
Why Community?
First, no matter how good knowledge is inseparable from practice, the community is more convenient for the "learning + practice punch card" training method to help everyone more fully grasp the knowledge.
Second, learning, discussing, and making progress with your friends can bring you more encouragement and motivation.
Third, our community is warmer and can better catch every little partner.
Some time ago, we just launched the first training camp to help everyone improve their logical thinking, and the small partners who participated in the meeting all reported that it helped a lot
This time, I would like to introduce you to our second bootcamp community, the main goal of which is to help everyone improve their awareness.
You may wonder, what is "awareness"?
To answer this question, I would like to ask you to think about whether you have encountered the following situations:
- Sometimes it is inexplicably irritable, angry or depressed;
- The tasks arranged by the boss at work are sometimes very procrastinating, and even often irritable and resistant;
- With a lover, friend or family member, always angry about similar things;
- People around them do not want all kinds of goals and ideals pursued, but they do not know what they want;
- ……
If you often have negative emotions such as anxiety, irritability, confusion, anger, etc., but you don't know what the cause is.
Our new Awareness Bootcamp can help you understand what triggers negative emotions and how to take action to improve them.
If you already have a good understanding of how to understand and reduce negative emotions through awareness, and are interested in participating, you can directly pull to the end of the article to understand the details of the training camp and scan the code to register.
If you don't know much about this aspect and want to know how "awareness" can help achieve this goal, it is better to understand how to "reduce negative emotions" through awareness.
How to reduce negative emotions?
First of all, although "negative emotions" sounds like something that must be avoided, it is actually very normal in itself, everyone will have it, who has not had an emotional fluctuation, right?
What we really need to reduce is the frequent occurrence of negative emotions. Because being in negative emotions for a long time will make you feel bored, uncomfortable, and depressed, which is not conducive to physical and mental health.
To reduce it, the first thing to do is to know how negative emotions arise.
Our previous article "Why do couples quarrel with each other?" Mentioned the iceberg model.
In simple terms, our emotions are like icebergs, behavior is the explicit form of feeling, and behind it is the belief, which is caused by different life experiences. Beliefs are what you take for granted, there is no doubt about them, and are generally difficult to spot.
Before a group of friends reported that after making mistakes in their work and being criticized by the leaders, they were particularly sad. So why bother?
The criticism of the leader may only be a fuse, and behind it may correspond to the belief that "making mistakes means that you are not good, that you are a failure."
And you have this belief, probably because when you were a child, your parents would often say, "What else can you do if you make mistakes so simply?" Being a man is too much of a failure."
And the leader criticizes you, may have had the belief that "criticism can be valued, and then it will not be committed again", because at that time he was criticized in this way, and he felt that this was normal.
Most beliefs are not right or wrong, and beliefs are just an opinion, not the truth.
Most people may complain to their friends after encountering the above situation, and negative emotions can be temporarily alleviated. But if you don't realize that you have this belief, or don't know how to deal with it after realizing it, the next time you are criticized by the leader, you will still be very sad and feel that you are a failure.
How do you solve the problem at the root?
It is better to change others than to change yourself. We can learn about our beliefs, revise them, and practice them intensively later in our lives.
How do you find your beliefs? detect.
Awareness is the choice of an object of observation, observing it wholeheartedly, without judgment or blame, and accepting everything completely. The object of observation can be breath, environment, body, values, etc.
In the example above, you can keep asking yourself as you think: Why do you think that way?
- Why is it so hard to make a mistake? Making mistakes makes me feel like I'm incompetent
- Why is it sad to have poor ability? Poor ability, so I can't do anything well, I am a failure (usually may be stuck here)
- Why is failure sad? My parents and society taught me not to fail 😭
In the end, you find that the belief that makes you have strong negative emotions is: "Making mistakes means that you are not good, that you are a failure."
After finding the underlying belief, how to correct it?
The series of inner inferences just now, if you study it carefully, will find that it is full of loopholes and illogical. To prevent the brain from automatically connecting later, we can use "critical thinking" to think about whether each inference is correct.
For example: I have poor ability in some aspects, so I can't do anything well, and I am a failure.
Rebuttal: Here is the "total fallacy of partial generalization", the ability of one aspect is poor≠ all the abilities are poor, and it cannot be deduced that I can't do anything well.
After thinking about it one by one, you will find that "a momentary mistake does not mean that I am a failure."
The next step is deliberate practice, repeating the above steps whenever a similar situation is encountered. Slowly your brain will not associate "making mistakes" with "I am a failure."
The next time something like that happens, you won't have negative emotions again.
How to insist on awareness?
After reading the process mentioned above, are you very impressed? But in the process of specific attempts, you may feel frustrated, because the belief will be hidden deeply, it is your habitual opinion, and it is not so easy to be found.
In order to better help everyone, the "Awareness Training Camp" was reconstructed.
The Awareness Camp lasts 13 weeks for 91 days and helps everyone to better understand their needs and underlying beliefs and achieve a state of emotional stability from the following 3 stages.
At the same time, in order to ensure the effectiveness of the training camp, we have also adopted the WeChat large group + small group model. In groups with the same purpose, we can supervise and encourage each other, be more motivated, and be more likely to persevere.
In the process of awareness, the most important thing is the excavation and correction of beliefs.
If there are difficulties in this regard, don't worry. In the training camp, there will be sparring to check each student's awareness of the punch card, assisting in digging up the underlying beliefs and corrections.
In the previous beta version, friends also said that the "awareness training camp" was particularly helpful to them.
Swipe the image to the right to see more feedback
We strongly recommend that you attend if you meet the following conditions:
- Often have negative emotions such as anxiety, irritability, and anger, but do not understand the root causes of emotions;
- There are some behaviors that affect work life, but do not know the reasons, such as often procrastinating on certain things;
- Caught in negative emotions for a long time, but do not know how to alleviate it;
- Do not understand the reasons for conflicts with others, and do not know how to reduce conflicts later;
- Weak awareness, there is a strong desire to improve (click to read the original text at the end of the article, test your awareness ability);
- Want to know more about what you really think;
- Practicing alone always feels lonely, and I hope to have a small partner to practice with me.
Participation is not recommended if you:
- Super good mood every day, no negative emotions to solve;
- Inability to spend 15 minutes a day in the camp's daily training activities;
- Over-anticipating training results and expecting them to change immediately in a day;
- Mental illness has been diagnosed, and it is recommended to follow the doctor's advice.
Awareness Camp opening time and registration method
- Camp time: January 23 - May 1 (Spring Festival holiday for one week)
- Cost: $399 for a limited time ($4 per day on average) Original price $599
- Registration deadline: 23 January, Sunday at 19:00
- To ensure the quality of the community, the number of people in this edition is limited to 120 people
👇 Registration Process 👇
Remarks "Awareness Training Camp"
Just follow the prompts to pay
The interpretation of "awareness training camps" is owned by the goddess evolutionary theory
You may have these questions
Q: I want to sign up, but I'm worried that I won't be able to stick with it?
A: First of all, the daily practice only takes about 15 minutes; secondly, our difficulty level is slowly changing from simple to difficult, so that you will not easily back down; finally, we have warm sparring partners to encourage you and accompany you to grow together.
Q: After participating in the training camp, can I always have a better state of mind?
A: Not necessarily, this training camp is mainly to teach everyone the method, lead everyone to practice for a period of time, and a stable state of mind requires continuous practice. After all, everyone's habits of more than ten years are unlikely to change completely by just 3 months. After the camp, we will also reserve a group of lessons for everyone to practice awareness.
Dear friends, taking care of yourself is a lifelong thing.
Q: Can I still get a refund after the camp starts?
A: Due to the particularity of knowledge payment, after the opening of this training camp, refunds will not be supported, please register and pay carefully in combination with your own time arrangement!
Q: Is there a requirement for the number of punches per week?
A: There is no mandatory requirement, but if you sign up and don't practice, it will be a bit of a waste of money ~ In addition, punching in the card ≥ 5 times a week can get a graduation certificate. You can also get a coupon for the "Rebuild Yourself" follow-up bootcamp.
bibliography:
[1]. Ye Yiqian, He Cundao, Liang Ningjian, General Psychology, East China Normal University Press
[2]. Jean-Philippe Lachaux, Attention: Focused Science and Training, People's Post and Telecommunications Press
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