Guangming Network Commentator: The elderly blind date program is to watch a lively picture and a music

【Reading tips】Laugh to "squawk"! Why are middle-aged and elderly "hardcore blind date" programs popular "out of the circle"?

Guangming Network commentator: The elderly blind date program continues to be popular on major video websites.

Take the elderly blind date program "Fate Is Not Late" on the Life Channel of Jilin Radio and Television Station as an example, which not only attracts a large number of loyal fans who follow it every day, but also becomes a hit on the Internet. It is understood that the hottest episode of the program has more than 10 million hits on the whole network, and the official Douyin number of the program group has most of the number of likes for each short video, and some even more than 100,000 likes.

These elderly blind date programs face the current situation of the emotional life of contemporary elderly people. Older people love to watch it either because they feel empathy or want to get experience from it, and young people love to watch it because the show is real and interesting. The program shows the distress, confusion and desire of the elderly that young people do not know or rarely understand, "without the pink veil of the young people's marriage and love program, I saw the faceless elderly and the old age life."

"Holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son" is everyone's expectation of love. However, unlike young people's blind dates, the blind dates of the elderly do not twist and turn, and they first talk about housing, wages, social security, pensions, children's burdens, and whether they are healthy. "When I am older, I only have a dozen or twenty years, which is very urgent, it takes time to find a partner, wait for three years and then look for three years, and at 60 years old, I will become 70 years old." The cherishing of time is the fundamental reason why the elderly blind date "goes straight". And it is in this straight-forward process that we see the fierce collision of different concepts in the period of social transformation.

When you meet, you will say "give you five hundred a month, you eat and drink, you have to serve me", and the aunt who "loves to travel, wants to live a wonderful old age" is doomed to not be able to go on the channel; "marry a man and marry a man to dress and eat, although he is old, he also wants a dowry of 70,000 yuan, give me three thousand flowers every month", how can he rub sparks with the uncle who "takes pictures, sings, goes shopping, eats all kinds of food, and fills the schedule every day"? In the elderly blind date program, the social value standards, mate selection standards and conceptual differences experienced by China for decades have been condensed and reflected at this time.

The narrowing of the urban-rural gap and the relaxation of the access gap are the fundamentals of today's China. Because of the similar educational paths and the convergence of upward channels, young people's water level of concepts is generally balanced. The elderly, due to different regions and experiences, have left the imprint of values at different stages of China's development. Some people are in sync with this moment, advocating equal rights for men and women; some people hold on to the "tradition" and insist on men and women, and so on. The fierce collision during the blind date is the most authentic presentation of these ideas.

From another perspective, the degree of intergenerational closeness in Chinese society, which is undergoing great changes, is changing. The Chinese parenting model that Mr. Fei Xiaotong calls "feeding back" - "I raise you when I am young, and when I am old you support me" has gradually been replaced by the Western "relay" model - "a generation only supports its own next generation, without supporting the previous generation", or there is a wavering. Today's young people rarely have the idea of "raising children and preventing the elderly", and more hope that children can live their own lives and achieve their own achievements. And some open-minded elderly people are also accepting such a concept.

Because of this, it is particularly logical for the elderly who "do not need children to support us" to seek like-minded partners in order to solve the "emotional hunger" at the twilight of their lives. Some media articles said that in recent years, the marriage needs of the elderly have increased year by year. However, affected by traditional concepts, economy, family and other factors, some single elderly people, even if they have the desire to find a partner, are subject to some resistance and pressure, and dare not find and have no opportunity to find.

According to the results of the seventh census, 18.70% of China's population aged 60 and above is 18.70%. In this part of the group, there is a growing number of people who need to remarry and want to seek a life partner. It is estimated that there are more than 50 million middle-aged and elderly people in China who have marital needs. Society should create conditions and expand channels for silver-haired people to choose a mate, and provide services such as marriage guidance, heterosexual dating information and legal advice on marriage and love, so as to make life more beautiful in later years.

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