In the face of the "blackmail" of the forced red packet, the newlyweds do not have to swallow their anger

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Compromise often results in the next more violent "blackmail".

Recently, a couple in Nanchong, Sichuan Province, was surrounded by several aunts and forcibly begged for red envelopes during the shooting on the location of the wedding day. The reporter of Beijing Youth Daily combed and found that in recent years, the incidents of forced red envelopes for newcomers in various places have been frequently exposed, and some of the people involved have been dealt with by the police according to law. The lawyer reminds that the forced red envelope is suspected of violating the law, and the circumstances are serious and criminal responsibility can be pursued.

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In fact, this kind of thing has not been uncommon in the past. In the 1990s, because I was "playing" with cameras at work, I was often invited to take photos of newlyweds, and the strange practices of blocking the road, asking for cigarettes, and asking for red envelopes often made people cry and laugh. For example, in order to ask for cigarettes and candy, they even used wooden poles at both ends to block the alley, making it difficult for the kissing convoy to insert wings and fly. Most of these roadblockers are strangers, and the strangers are, the more "open". They can't help but say that they are brutal, and they really give people the visual sense of "this mountain is the tree I opened this tree and I planted". Sometimes the owner of the matter is angry, but also argues for a few words, and the more "choking" the result, the more rudderless it is, and in the end, it can only spend money to eliminate the disaster. In order to "stop all the way", some of the main families have done things smoothly, and they have prepared the "negotiation expert" item in the wedding plan in advance.

It can be seen that there is a "tradition" of forcing red envelopes, but the difference is that the "uncivilized" behavior that people thought in the past has entered the field of rule of law and has been severely examined today. People who are harassed don't have to swallow their anger and can say "no" loudly with the support of the law.

The spiritual source of "forcibly" begging for red envelopes is the tradition of wedding celebrations. Folk have the "etiquette" of spreading smoke and sugar to the main family to obtain blessings and word of mouth, and the villagers' fathers and fathers ask for money and ask for goods to be stained with joy. If the smoke and sugar are not in place, and no one "makes a fuss" after the wedding, the main family will feel deeply stressed and regretful. That is to say, the "noisy rope" that is left measured, which is within the scope of civil permission, is a necessary content of wedding matters, and it is also a "gift" for the lubrication of social relations. In some places, the main family does a happy event, and if there are beggars begging at the door, it is often regarded as an "auspicious omen", which can basically be incorporated into the concept of "wedding atmosphere group".

However, asking for wedding gifts, gradually changing from a good joke to a malicious request, is completely unexpected. Where can a generous person think that a good thing in pursuit of auspiciousness has become a "lesion" in the entanglement of human nature. As I saw back then, some people wanted to smoke, and they wanted the whole thing, and twenty or thirty years ago, this was undoubtedly a huge expense. Moreover, this kind of thing is very easy to attract others to learn from it, and there will be a "bottomless pit" that will make the wedding host's family uneasy.

Some people are in hot pursuit after greeting the relatives, do not give up without giving money and goods, and even adopt various "extraordinary" means, which are completely greedy and distorted. Many acts of "coercion" break through the moral category and reach the point of "testing the law by example". Their persecution of the hearts and minds of the world's taoists has become a kind of "blackmail" - they bet that you dare not tear your face, betting that no matter how much they go too far, they will reap the rewards.

According to reports, during the 2020 National Day holiday, a man in Puyang, Henan Province, suddenly stopped the wedding car on the way to a local wedding and knelt down to ask for money. This kind of evil of human nature, which is a rogue, can be described as the pinnacle of "coercion.". Obviously, in the face of this kind of behavior, relying only on the "discussion" of the main family and even other individuals is often useless. Compromise often results in the next more violent "blackmail" – even though it is not the last compromiser who suffers.

In reality, many people have slowly stopped tolerating all kinds of out-of-line behavior and taking up the weapon of law to "resist". The lawyer's suggestion that "in case of similar situations can be reported to the police" is by no means a fuss, but a legitimate protection of rights based on rules. "Wedding celebrations and preciousness" are not without a bottom line of principles, and we cannot back down to acts that violate public order and good customs. In that year, after receiving the report, the Puyang police arrested Gao Moumou, who had repeatedly knelt on the ground to ask for money, which showed the consensus reached by the people and relevant departments: protecting the core rights and interests of individuals according to law is an urgent requirement of a society.

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