The best way for couples to get along should be: do not interrogate each other, never hide. Cross-examination means doubt, which means distrust; concealment means deception, which means insincerity. Combining "mutual non-interrogation" and "mutual non-concealment" means that husband and wife must trust and be loyal to each other.
Infidelity is the enemy of marriage, and once there is betrayal, whether it is marriage or feelings, cracks will appear. Suspicion is a tumor that affects the mutual trust between husband and wife, and its harm may affect the feelings of love that were originally very loving, and may even destroy the originally happy marriage.
The man suspected his wife of infidelity
After Liu Shuxue, a Sichuan man, married his wife Xiaoji for more than a decade, he suddenly felt that his wife, whom he had always loved deeply, had become very cold. When he found that there was a scratch on his wife's back, and his wife was vague and unclear, he began to suspect that his wife was unfaithful.
In order to confirm his suspicions, Liu Shuxue bought a voice recorder and set a time to secretly hide in a corner of his home. After that, he carefully listened to the 9-hour recording over and over many times, and recorded the identified content in detail.
After some scrutiny, he found that the recording contained not only the sound of strange men walking, but also the abnormal sounds coming from the room, so he concluded that his wife had done something unfaithful. When he questioned his wife, she repeatedly denied it, and after a heated argument between the two, the wife ran away from home.
Because his wife's phone could not be called, and he searched everywhere he could, he did not find his wife, so Liu Shuxue began to look for suspects. When he found out from the phone bill that a Zhang was suspicious, he squatted all day near the workplace where Zhang was located.
But after staying for several days, he did not find anything abnormal, but he still felt that the relationship between Zhang and his wife was good. After some inquiry, I learned that on the day he hid the recorder at home, Zhang Mou had already gone on a business trip to other places and had only returned in recent days. Zhang Mou also personally said that he and Xiao Ji are just ordinary friends who only know each other.
After Zhang Mou's suspicions were ruled out, Liu Shuxue could not find a suspicious object for a while, so he wanted to go back and listen to the contents of the recorder again, but found that the recorder was also mysteriously missing, and he turned over his home and did not find it. My father, who was often in and out of the house and didn't like to close the door casually, also said that he didn't know about the voice recorder.
Such important evidence suddenly disappeared, which made Liu Shuxue's heart even more certain that his wife was unfaithful, and he immediately suspected a man named Xiao Li. Because Xiao Li is not only a dry son recognized by his father, but also a colleague of his wife's predecessors, usually in addition to his father, only Xiao Li can enter and leave their home at will.
Because of the demolition, Liu Shuxue and several families lived in the same large courtyard, and his father Liu Furong also lived here. Xiao Li and Liu Furong love to drink and play cards, plus Xiao Li's mouth is very good at speaking, Liu Furong recognizes him as a dry son, and the exchanges between the two are relatively dense.
When there was no recorder, Liu Shuxue did not feel that there was anything wrong with it, but now it seems that he found that Xiao Li's purpose of recognizing his father was not simple, and he should want to take the opportunity to come and see his wife. He even thought that his father had adopted Xiao Li as a dry son, purely to lure the wolf into the house.
When Liu Shuxue asked his father, his father insisted that Xiao Li had been very busy recently, he had not even called the phone, and no one had ever come, and it was impossible to be the person who took the recorder. When asked about the day of the tibetan recorder, his father affirmed that he had played cards with Xiao Li for a day that day, and the two had never been separated.
In fact, Liu Furong has a different view of his son Liu Shuxue's doubts. He felt that Xiao Ji was kind, industrious and capable, a rare good daughter-in-law, and it was impossible for her to do anything unfaithful. Xiao Li is also a good person in all aspects, and should not be confused. However, Liu Shuxue thought wildly all day, caught the wind and shadows, and made the family restless, and he was also angry.
Liu Shuxue also admitted that his wife was a good woman, and the relationship between the two had been very good before, but he could not listen to any persuasion from his father, insisted on believing his own judgment, and determined that the content of the recorder was the best evidence, so he must find his wife and ask him in person. He also said that as long as his wife is willing to admit her mistakes and repent, he will choose to forgive in order to maintain a complete family.
A voice recorder box is found in his father's house
Just when the communication between father and son reached an impasse, Xiao Li suddenly appeared at the mouth of the alley, and Liu Shuxue rushed up to grab him and asked him to hand over Xiao Ji and the recorder. Xiao Li felt inexplicable, he said that he did not know where Xiao Ji had gone, let alone what kind of recorder.
When Liu Furong saw the situation, he quickly went forward and pulled his son Liu Shuxue into the house, and beckoned his son Xiao Li to leave as soon as possible. Unexpectedly, Liu Shuxue actually found a box containing a voice recorder in his father's back room, and he was very angry and chased after his father for a voice recorder.
Liu Furong still insisted that he did not know about the recorder, but Liu Shuxue was more convinced that the contents of the recorder were related to Xiao Li, and his father was deliberately concealing the truth in order to protect Xiao Li. When Xiao Li was confronted, Xiao Li admitted that on the day Liu Shuxue hid the recorder, he had indeed been to Gan Dad's house.
Xiao Li explained that because Gan Dad had rheumatism, he heard that there was a medicinal liquor that had a good effect on this disease, so he prepared some for Gan Dad. Just on the day liu shu learned to collect the recorder, he called his father and told him that he wanted to send the wine over. Daddy was playing cards outside, and he had to leave the wine in the house. After that, he put down the wine and left, during which he did not see Xiao Ji, and he did not do anything to apologize to Liu Shuxue.
According to Xiao Li, he did come to this big courtyard that day because he sent wine to Gan Dad, but he did not see Gan Dad, nor did he see Xiao Ji, but Liu Furong said that Xiao Li played cards with him that day. The two men's statements are completely inconsistent, indicating that one of them is lying, and Liu Shuxue is therefore more certain that his suspicions are not wrong.
After some communication, Liu Furong said the reason for it. Because when he heard his son say what evidence he had, he thought that Xiao Li had just come to the house that day, and he was worried that Xiao Li would not be able to say it clearly. Besides, he couldn't figure out what was going on in the middle, so in order to avoid the expansion of the situation, he lied for Xiao Li and said that he was playing cards with him, and secretly took his son's voice recorder.
After listening to Gan Dad's statement, Xiao Li said a little angrily that because he did not have any relatives, he had always treated Gan Dad as his own biological father, treated Liu Shuxue as his own brother, and treated Xiao Ji as his own sister, but he did not expect to be now sharing this kind of thing, even Gan Dad had doubts about him, and he was disappointed to ask Liu Shuxue to return his innocence.
Liu Furong quickly said that he believed in Xiao Li very much, but he was worried that his son Liu Shuxue would scatter a good family because of the recording. Liu Shuxue, however, because he had his father's testimony to prove that Xiao Li had come, was even more convinced of his judgment. But Xiao Li insisted that he had only been to his father's house that day, and had not been to the house where Liu Shuxue and his wife lived.
At the strong request of his two sons, Liu Furong finally agreed to hand over the recorder. But at this moment, Liu Shuxue suddenly got the news that his wife was temporarily staying at a friend's house. He immediately got up and rushed outside, saying that he would talk about everything after finding his wife, but his wife Xiaoji did not want to see him.
If I do, you can dispose of it
When the reporter asked Xiao Ji the reason for running away from home, Xiao Ji said with grievance: He doubted me for no reason, hid the voice recorder at home, and let me admit my mistakes. I paid so much for this family, and he still had to doubt me like this, I really couldn't do it, and I really couldn't stand it before I ran away from home.
According to Xiao Ji, the couple is truly in love with each other, married for more than ten years, and the relationship has been very good. Liu Shuxue is a good husband in her eyes, a good father in the eyes of her son, and a very filial and good son in the eyes of her parents.
But since the death of her husband's mother, her husband has suddenly changed as a person, and he has been doubting this and that. Every month, the bill list has to be typed out and screened, and if there is an unfamiliar phone number, she will be asked to explain it one by one.
When Xiao Ji went out to work, because her job was to complete the prescribed tasks to get off work, there was no fixed commuting time, but no matter how she explained it, her husband just wouldn't believe it, and as long as she came home late, he would question whether she had done something unfaithful to marriage.
In order to reassure her husband, Xiao Ji resigned at home, but her husband was still suspicious all day. After sending the child to school, if something is delayed and comes back a little later, the husband will question whether she has gone to see other men and whether she has done something unfaithful to him.
Because of her husband's unwarranted suspicion and the inability to listen to any explanation, Xiao Ji was already full of grievances. When she learned that her husband was still stealing a tape recorder at home and took the recorded evidence to ask her to confess to the fact of infidelity, she felt very bitter in her heart and was completely disappointed in her husband, so she chose to flee the house under unbearable circumstances.
For his wife's grievances and pain, Liu Shuxue did not think so, he still stressed that he did not doubt his wife out of thin air, and insisted that he must check the facts of his wife's infidelity according to the audio evidence in his hand, and then he would not let his wife go.
Xiao Ji saw that her husband's attitude was so resolute, and she said fearlessly: I never thought of betraying you, no matter how you check. You take the voice recorder out and play it, if I really do something sorry for you, I can get out of the house, don't want anything, don't want the children, whatever you want.
Liu Shuxue also immediately said: If I am wrong, I don't want anything, no matter how you dispose of it, I will also dismantle the recorder on the spot.
In the face of his son's stubbornness and his daughter-in-law's calmness, his father Liu Furong's heart is full of worry, and he is afraid that once the contents of the recorder are revealed, the family will fall apart. But at this point, there is no other way but to give everyone an explanation in the most direct way.
The truth came out and the scene fell into embarrassment
According to the requirements of the parties, the technicians sampled the voices of Xiao Ji and Xiao Li, and then through professional identification technology, after a long period of analysis and comparison of the recording of the 9-hour recording in the voice recorder, the identification results showed that the sound recorded in the recording was inconsistent with the audio spectrum of his own voice collected.
From this, it can be inferred that everything is not as Liu Shuxue thinks, and he should be able to dispel his previous doubts and concerns about his wife. What is puzzling is that in the vague voice recorded by Liu Shuxue, since the voices of Xiao Ji and Xiao Li are excluded, where do those doubtful voices come from?
Xiao Ji affirmed that the day her husband hid the recorder, there was really no one in the family. She watched TV at home until she picked up her child in the afternoon, and then turned it off, so she thought the voice recorded in the voice recorder should be the sound coming from the TV.
After the truth of the whole incident was revealed, the scene suddenly fell into embarrassment, after all, the misunderstanding caused by this groundless suspicion not only hurt several people, but also related to the future direction of a family. Although Liu Shuxue bowed his head and was silent, it is conceivable that his heart must be remorseful.
When Liu Furong saw this situation, he first began to persuade his son: There is nothing wrong with it, you should stop thinking about it. Now that the misunderstanding has been solved, I hope you will confess your mistakes and apologize to your wife and Xiao Li.
Xiao Li took gan dad's words and said to Liu Shuxue: Brother, you originally have feelings for Xiao Ji, and your life is also good, and now that everything has been clarified, I still advise you to earn money to raise your children, and the family will live in harmony.
In the face of Xiao Li's sincerity, Liu Shuxue also quickly apologized to him and asked for forgiveness. Xiao Li immediately said that he did not account, and the two would still be good brothers in the future.
In fact, after this kind of thing happened, the most aggrieved person was Xiao Ji, not only was it extremely difficult in her own heart, but even her mother-in-law's father was so angry that he had a serious illness, and her brothers and sisters were also anxious to cry.
So, when her husband admitted that he had wronged her, asked for her forgiveness, and dropped the recorder on the spot, she said without a wave that she did not want to believe her husband anymore and intended to separate.
The mediator felt that Liu Shuxue's series of behaviors were not really aimed at his wife, but because his mother's death made his mentality change unconsciously, and Xiao Ji, as a wife, should understand him and tolerate him. Under the persuasion of everyone, Xiao Ji was finally willing to look at the child's sake and give her husband another chance.
epilogue
When a large family is in a harmonious and balanced state, if a very important person is suddenly lost, the balance of the family will be broken. Liu Shuxue, as the pillar of the family, felt unsteady in his heart after the death of his mother. So he wanted to project this feeling onto his wife, but the wife and the mother were two different characters after all.
When people do not get the sense of security they want, they will be mentally unbalanced, and then they will involuntarily make some abnormal actions. Liu Shuxue was driven by this psychology, not only doubting his favorite wife, but also doubting his friends, so that even his father did not trust him. Therefore, as his relatives and friends, you should understand the special psychology generated by his special period and help him slowly adjust his mentality.
The mother is the most reliable dependence in our lives, and the pain after losing our mother is indeed unbearable, but the deceased has passed away, and can only hide that feeling in the bottom of his heart, so Liu Shuxue must also try to adjust his mentality, go out of the shadow of his mother's death as soon as possible, and make up for his wife.
The most important thing between husband and wife is trust, if you lose trust, it will be followed by injury, married life will be difficult to achieve the kind of happiness expected before, and the family will be more difficult to harmonize. But the long road of life will inevitably encounter a lot of bumps, when encountering this psychological imbalance leading to damage to trust, we still have to use a tolerant heart to understand and warm each other, only in this way can we build a happy and happy family.
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