In the Ming Dynasty opera "JiguGe Ben Pipa Record", it is said: "You will be a matchmaker, but the door is right." "This door to the household 4 words, since ancient times is a criterion for the marriage of the Chinese people, the so-called sparrow does not climb with the phoenix, the ancients believe that the husband and wife should be of equal origin, after marriage to be happy and happy.
Of course, in modern society, men and women are free to fall in love, and there are not many examples of large gaps in family, education, and work knowledge between husband and wife. However, this was not the case during the Qing Dynasty, and the governor of Tangtang Liangjiang could also encounter the marriage of the bride, and this strange story was written into the "Records of the North East Hall" and other materials, and the protagonist was the famous minister Tao Shu.
As we all know, in the late Qing Dynasty, Hunan produced countless figures, Zuo Zongtang, Zeng Guofan, and Hu Linyi, who were all famous courtiers in the late Qing Dynasty. And Tao Shu was a native of Anhua, Hunan, the first person of the Huxiang sect to be a famous minister, the first Hunan feudal official, Zeng Guofan and others were all excavated by him, and historian Xiao Yishan once said: "Without Tao Shuzhi's advocacy, the talents of Hunan cannot be raised." ”
Tao Shu went through the Jiaqing and Daoguang dynasties, was highly valued, successively served as the governor of Shanxi, Fujian, Sichuan and other places, and stayed in the position of governor of Liangjiang for 9 years before his death, doing a lot of practical good things, and after his death, he was given the honorary title of "Wen Yi". But before Tao Shu entered the shi, the tao family's condition was actually not good.
Tao Shu's father was a reader, and although he was talented, he always fell behind in participating in the imperial examination. After Tao Shu was born, his father pinned his hopes on his son, sent him to Yuelu Academy to study, and carefully supervised his studies everywhere he went. Although the Tao family was a scholar, Tao Shu also showed his talent early, but at that time he was just a poor student.
At that time, people generally believed that "everything is under the quality of reading is high", and readers like Tao Shu are not completely without a market. He was engaged to The Local Lady Huang Defen early because of the arrangements of the elders, and as long as he reached the age, he could get married. But Miss Huang herself was actually not satisfied with this young man and refused in every way.
Miss Huang has no worries about food and clothing since childhood, although the Huang family is not hugely rich, but also a wealthy family, she knows that Tao Shu's father has been on the list for many years, lest tao shu not appear after he marries, and the Tao family will still have to work in agriculture. The daughter was not satisfied with the marriage, and the father's attitude slowly changed a little, especially after Tao Shu participated in the imperial examination, he also fell off the list, which made the Huang family firm in not letting the daughter suffer.
In the third year of Jiaqing (1798), the 19-year-old Tao Shu officially welcomed him, but on the wedding night, he felt that the bride was a little abnormal, extremely nervous, and did not even dare to look up at him. Tao Shu became suspicious, and after repeated questioning, he learned that the "Miss Huang" who married over was not the main lord, but a close ring around her.
In the face of the frankness of "Miss Huang", Tao Shu unexpectedly did not get angry, but acquiesced to this fact, let her be his own wife, and took good care of her in life, all of which made Mrs. Tao moved. After marriage, she gave birth to 3 daughters in succession, all of whom were married to the children of eunuchs.
And she herself was also awarded the title of Lady of the First Pint of Commandment because her husband was later promoted to the first local soldier in the scientific expedition, and then she was completely developed, and she was accompanied by Tao Shu and his wife for 41 years, and she was very affectionate. However, the true Yellow Miss who missed Tao Shu later married into the Qian family of a rich family in Anhua, and Tao Shucheng learned when he returned to his hometown to worship his ancestors that her husband had died early.
20 years have passed since the two missed the fate, and Miss Huang in front of her is already an ordinary peasant woman, and her husband's family and mother's family are in ruins. However, Mrs. Tao could not bear it, sent 50 silver to receive money, did not want Miss Huang to think that she had no way out in her life, so she chose to become a nun, accompanied by green lights but survived, which was really sighing.