"Huainanzi" once said: "Sai Weng lost his horse, and he knew that it was not a blessing." "Throughout the ages, there have been many things that have depended on each other, and by understanding such stories, the world will experience the unexpected endings caused by the yin and yang mistakes in the world, and can also learn lessons from them to avoid making the same kind of mistakes."
Different from the modern society's way of marriage and love, in ancient society, the conclusion of marriage generally comes from the order of parents and the words of the matchmaker, in this case, many people do not know the future marriage partner, which also makes them reluctant to accept such a hasty marriage.
Through the understanding of ancient social customs, it can be found that many rich female dependents will choose to marry their servants for themselves in order to escape the fate of arranged marriages. During the Qing Dynasty, there was a young lady who did not want to marry Poor Xiucai, so she dressed up as her own and sent her to Poor Xiucai. Twenty years later, the young lady was reunited with the lady, but at this time the lady said to the lady: You ruined the happiness of my life. Why would this young lady be married to a poor talent? Why would she say such a thing to the bridesmaid?
This poor student who was disliked by the rich lady was Tao Shu. Through the understanding of the history of the Qing Dynasty, it can be found that during the reigns of the Jiaqing and Daoguang Emperors, Tao Shu was an important courtier in the dynasty, and when he was an official, he did many major things to benefit the country and the people. In addition, Tao Shu has also successfully unearthed many outstanding talents, whether it is Zuo Zongtang or Lin Zexu, who have received help from Tao Shu.
Through understanding Tao Shu's experience in his early years, it can be found that he was once poor and even rejected by the marriage partner.
In the early years, Tao Shu's parents entrusted a matchmaker for Tao Shu, and the woman was born in the Huang family of a large local family, and was the only pampered young lady. Logically, after Tao Shu's parents and the Huang family negotiated a good marriage date, this matter must have been nailed down, but for Miss Huang, who has been pampered since childhood, she is not willing to marry Tao Shu, a poor student.
However, in the social background at that time, retiring from marriage was not a glorious thing, which also made Miss Huang feel extremely sad about it. However, just when Miss Huang was worried about this matter, Tao Shu unexpectedly fell off the list and failed to pass the meritorious examination. For this reason, Miss Huang's father believes that Tao Shu will do nothing in the future and is unwilling to marry his daughter to such a poor student.
However, it was not moral to propose repentance in person, and after thinking about it, Miss Huang and her father decided to let Miss Huang's sidekick marry Tao Shu instead of Miss Huang. In the end, Tao Shu and Miss Huang's close-knit maid got married according to the previous agreement.
Since Tao Shu had not personally met Miss Huang in the previous days, he did not know that the girl he was marrying was not Miss Huang herself. But on the day of the big wedding, because this lady couldn't bear it in her heart, she explained all the ins and outs of the matter.
At first, the young man thought that Tao Shu would blame himself, but after hearing what the mane had told, he put his mind at ease. According to Tao Shu, in fact, he had long seen that the lady next to him was not an aristocratic lady, but since the two were married and the person in front of him could treat himself frankly, he was also willing to accept the marriage.
After that, based on the care of his wife, Tao Shu was able to devote himself to learning wholeheartedly, and in the end, Tao Shu successfully passed the entrance examination and went to his career. Based on Tao Shu's outstanding talent, he was highly affirmed by the emperor, and in the days that followed, Tao Shu's wife was even named Lady Yipin and had a very high status.
But looking at Miss Huang, who repented of her marriage, her life was not so smooth. At that time, after Miss Huang chose to repent of her marriage to Tao Shu, she married a rich son. However, the rich man did not give Miss Huang a happy second half of her life. With the decline of her family's power, Miss Huang was unable to live the life of pampering and pampering she had been.
Twenty years after this incident, Miss Huang and Ya Gui were reunited, at this time, Miss Huang was full of hatred for Ya Gui and said: You ruined the happiness of my life. In fact, Ya Gui originally wanted to help the frustrated Miss Huang, which showed Miss Huang's attitude, and Ya Gui left silently.
According to folklore, the later Miss Huang was too desperate in her heart, so she chose to become a nun and spend the rest of her life in the temple.
epilogue
For that Miss Huang, if she hadn't despised Tao Shu too much, she would have been able to live a better life with Tao Shu's outstanding talent. It can be seen that in the journey of life, self-clever actions sometimes do not bring us a happy life, but will make our lives go to the dark abyss from then on.
After understanding this story of substitution, the world can also recognize the importance of taking a long-term view. Just as the so-called "do not deceive the young and the poor", we cannot deny their ability because of their current failures in dealing with those who have outstanding abilities but have not yet achieved great things. After all, people cannot be disguised, and if we judge a person based only on superficial phenomena, we will surely miss many opportunities to change our destiny.
I believe that in the future society, people will be able to look at the problem comprehensively and avoid making a blind move, and those who are truly outstanding can also rely on their own abilities to obtain unprecedented life achievements.
Reference: Draft History of the Qing Dynasty