Author | Insights into Allergy
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
Mr. Yang Dai said in the "100-year-old Testimonial":
"In this materialistic world, life is really hard enough."
Floating and sinking in the world, where there are ups and downs, there are more trivialities of chai rice oil and salt, the helplessness of human exchanges, and the bitterness of chicken feathers and garlic skins.
A good life is all out of suffering.
When you see this fact clearly, your heart will be much brighter.
The world is impermanent, human feelings change, and suffering is the norm of life.
Running like ants, wearing stars and wearing the moon, everyone has their own swamp.
In the autumn of 1938, Yang Dai returned to the Qian family who had moved to Shanghai with her daughter.
At that time, the situation was chaotic, and she had to squeeze in with the Qian family, and the residence was cramped.
Without her own room, Yang Dai was inconvenient to read openly, otherwise she would be too out of place with her aunt.
So she borrowed a sewing machine and sewed in a steamer-like pavilion to make clothes for qian zhong shu and yuan yuan.
On weekdays, she buys the dishes at home, and she washes the clothes of the whole family.
She often dyed bituminous coal into a flower face, or smoked her eyes with tears, or boiled oil, or cut her fingers, but she did not complain.
She was a bookworm, and for her, it was not easy to spend a day without reading. But she has been silently learning to do all the trivial things that the daughter-in-law in the extended family bears, respecting the elderly and caring for the young, and forbearing all things.
What is more difficult is that for a period of time, Yang Dai's unit was forced to stop.
It just so happened that Qian Zhongshu had just returned to Shanghai, and he couldn't find a job for a while and a half, and without financial resources, the family even had a problem eating.
At this time, she began to tutor Miss Kuo, but she was still struggling with water, and the family's life was still stretched.
Reluctantly, Yang Dai found a substitute class in a primary school far away from home after several twists and turns, and in her spare time, she also had to write scripts to make money to make a living.
Qian Zhongshu's cousin Qian Zhonglu said:
"The sister-in-law is like a tent, covering everyone around her inside, and the wind and rain outside are resisted by her."
On this road of life, each of us has stumbled.
The world panicked, only for a few pieces of silver. Whose life is not a chicken feather, not a slow hammer?
Tear apart the true face of life, and you will find that the adult world has long been torn and vulnerable.
Lu Yao said:
"In this ordinary world, there is not a single day that is peaceful."
Birth, old age, illness, death, love and separation, long-term resentment, can not be asked, can not let go.
Which adult, who has not thought of giving up ten thousand times in one tired night after another, and then beat his spirit in the early morning of the next day, gritting his teeth and insisting.
Life never has a miracle, and everyone is collapsing and healing themselves at the same time.
Occasionally awkward, but also great.
Some time ago, a friend called me:
"I really can't stay up, during the day the company a bunch of things make me anxious, at night I have to take care of the old and young, not even a chance to catch my breath ..."
I believe that every adult has encountered such a situation.
Life, in fact, is a protracted game.
In the second half of Yang Chen's life, he experienced countless ups and downs.
The dark clouds covered the moon years, she experienced.
When she was over sixty years old, she was sent to a cadre school and did all kinds of rough work all day.
When she was arranged to dig a well, she took off her shoes and socks and shoveled the mud that was flowing everywhere, and on the day the well was laid, Yang Dai also specially called a bottle of shochu to hold a celebration feast for everyone.
When she was arranged to wash the toilet, she used her hands with the pen pole to wipe the toilet clean, and secretly rejoiced that she had time to read without bowing her head and flattering.
In the face of all the encounters in life, she said: "You can read it as a book, and you can watch it as a play." ”
This humble attitude and cold-eyed open-mindedness allowed her to survive the most difficult years.
It was during this difficult period that the translation of the eight-volume Don Quixote was completed.
I thought I was finally bitter.
But the despair of not wanting to live and die came at her again.
Over eighty years old, when her husband and daughter were seriously ill, she dragged her weak body back and forth between Beijing Hospital and Xishan, where Qian Yuan was located, to take care of two patients.
Then he witnessed the death of his daughter and the death of her husband.
One fatal blow after another, she still survived.
Yang Dai said that everyone will have an unusually difficult time, the pressure of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of academics, and the trepidation of love.
Survive, life will suddenly open up; if you can't survive, time will also teach you how to shake hands with them and make peace, so don't be afraid.
In a person's life, there are always some unsatisfactory things, and the key lies in surviving.
To study hard and cross the one-way bridge of the college entrance examination, you need to go through thousands of hammers and tribulations;
Work hard, want to make achievements, need to overcome difficulties day after day;
Marriage is boiling, holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son, and running in and understanding for a long time.
In this life, no one is easier than anyone else, only who is more able to survive than whom.
He Yajuan said a passage in "On the Road to Pursuing Dreams, We Are All the Same":
"It's normal to feel tired now, to feel uncomfortable, because you're going uphill, and you're not tired if you're downhill."
However, if you survive the past, you will bear more than others, and you will gain more than others. ”
Is life bitter? Tired of work? Is triviality annoying?
A good life is so bitter, it is all like this.
If you can endure the hardships of hard work, life will be happy.
Like the haggard old fisherman in "The Old Man and the Sea", even if he did not catch a fish for 84 consecutive days and was ridiculed and ridiculed, on the 85th day he still rowed a small boat out to sea with great energy.
Although from day to night to dawn, nothing was found.
But whenever he wanted to give up, he always motivated himself: "I can survive as long as it can survive." ”
Finally, at his insistence, he managed to catch a big fish.
Those who can cross life are those who are willing to cross themselves.
After seeing the death of the two relatives, Yang Dai said:
"Zhong Shu escaped, and I want to escape, but where did I flee?" I couldn't escape at all, I had to stay in the world, clean up the scene, and do my duty. ”
She resisted the pain of all thoughts and translated Phaedo in Plato's Dialogues, which was a cross-border production by Mr. Yang Dai and the first time she entered philosophy from the category of literature.
In order to reassure her deceased relatives, she also paid special attention to her body.
In addition to eating a moderate diet and living a regular life, he also insists on walking 7,000 steps slowly at home every day to cope with loneliness and the erosion of years with a healthy body.
It is difficult to imagine that an old man who has lived to the age of 100 years old can still be so calm and safe and detached from the world after encountering the blows of life.
Life is a lonely journey.
Some things can only be done by one person; some passes can only be crossed by one person; some roads can only be walked by one person.
There will always be a time when you have to suffer in pain.
If you can't survive it, suffering becomes a threshold; if you survive it, suffering is wealth.
In the year of Yang Chen's death, I once saw a problem on Zhihu:
"Have you ever thought about it, Yang Dai is neither a saint nor a great man, what makes her touch the hearts of people across the country?"
There is a high praise answer at the bottom, engraved in my mind:
"Yang Dai answered us with her lifelong behavior: that is, calm and calm in the face of life's suffering."
In fact, there is no skill in living a good life, the only thing you can do is to slowly survive like her.
When you boil the thorns into flowers and the suffering into poetry, you will eventually encounter the life you want.
If you meet the abyss, believe enough:
As long as the vitality of human affairs is not extinguished, even if it is temporarily suppressed, there will eventually be a day to rise.
Click "Watching", when you have survived all the suffering, the rest of your life is a smooth road.
Typography | Zheng to the north
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Music | Li Aiqi "Drifting Snow"