What fascinates girls the most? One word – "guess.". Women are cats, and curiosity is her worst enemy. To get along with a girl, you have to pinch her "cat sex". Grasp the following 3 points, she has her mind on you.
Chat blank
80% of boys have a common problem: rushing to chat with girls. Especially when it comes to talking about your hobbies or areas of expertise, talking is like driving twice as fast, and you can't stop at all. Sometimes, girls say that they have something to do, suggesting that they don't want to talk. It wasn't three minutes before she received another message.
I haven't known the girl for a long time, and I have exposed my personal situation, so how can she keep interested in you? It's not that you won't be allowed to talk, but that you have to learn to leave blank. When a girl asks you for information, answer it according to the 3-6-9 principle. What do you mean? If the whole thing is 100%, then the other party asked the first time to talk about 30%, she is interested in continuing to ask, then talk about 60%, if she really wants to know the beginning and end of the matter, and then talk about 90%.
Take a chestnut, and the girl asks: What are you doing now? You can go back to her "just finished work and waited to go to a place I've been looking forward to for a long time." Hearing this, the girl will definitely ask "What place?" Then you say, "A very good restaurant, where do you guess it is?" "Chatting like this can satisfy the girl's appetite, catch her curiosity to death, and let her take the initiative to understand you."
Hide the purpose
Tell the old irons a secret: most girls, from the moment you take the initiative to approach, have a premonition of your intentions. It's just that before you break the window paper, she will pretend not to know and do some testing behavior on you. If you think she likes you too, is crazy or can't help but confess to her, you are falling into the "trap" of girls. When she sees through it, her interest in you will diminish in an instant. So, don't let the girl determine your purpose, prolong the time she will tempt you, she will become more and more addicted to you.
As a simple example, in the beginning, you can show initiative and enthusiasm for girls. Talk to a girl, ask her to play, bring her some candy and snacks, you can do it. However, your world can't just revolve around her, you also have to have your own life.
Every three or five minutes, I go out with other friends to find some new hobbies and fun places, and then show them in the circle of friends. When the girl saw it, she would definitely wonder in her heart: What does he mean by this? Does he like me or not? When she is emotionally aroused by you, she will have a sense of tension and take the initiative to come to you to contact you
Ambiguous relationships
If you chase a girl who only knows to talk to her and eat and watch movies, then even if you work hard to catch up for a year, she will only give you a gentle and gentle sentence: I have no feelings for you. If you want to avoid falling into a friendship zone with a girl, you must learn to create a boyfriend-like feeling for her and make her have the illusion of "being in love".
Take a chestnut, give her some special nicknames in the chat, and usually call her nickname or nickname directly, this method can quickly close the distance. If you think about it, customer service chats with customers, is it up to "pro, what's the problem?" "Anchors don't like to call their fans" family, click a wave of attention ~"
Cough, family, you know what I mean, right? Used to chase girls, this is a kind of simulated couple identity substitution, so that the other party acquiesces to your relationship. This method can be used in many small things and details. For example, if you ask a girl to help you get something, the average boy will return thank you, and if you don't, you will say "really obedient." When you cross the road, there is a car next to you, you pull her over, and then complain to her, "Why are you so careless, you want to scare me to death", the girl said to eat, you said "remember to eat meat, see you are hungry and thin".
This feels like a little couple, allowing the girl to automatically substitute into the identity of the girlfriend, full of pampering. However, if you don't do it well, it will be counterproductive.
Write in the last words
Feeling is an inner feeling. Most of the time, we suddenly like a person, not because of how good the other person's conditions are, but at a certain moment, he gives you a feeling that other people can't give, and you just feel excited.
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Author | Yellow chestnut Ye
Consultant of the First Psychological Writing Group | Senior Emotional Mentor | Best-selling columnist on the internet