Nowadays, more and more family marriages have lit up red lights, and no matter how good the emotional foundation is, when they enter marriage, there will always be various problems.
The existence of extramarital affairs tests people's loyalty to marriage, both men and women, when they meet people who make them feel excited, they will have the illusion of infatuation with the passion and freshness outside of marriage, as everyone knows, extramarital affairs are like an invisible bomb, which may detonate our marriage at any time, and there is great harm to ourselves, to our partners, to our children.
Many wives can't figure out that their husbands know the dangers of extramarital affairs, but they still chase desperately, is it just for a moment of pleasure? Is it worth it to exchange infidelity for the breakdown of a family, the separation of wives and children?
In this world, the exchange of extramarital affairs and marriages is indeed not drawn, but the weakness of human nature is like this, always fascinated by the unknown and new things. After entering the marriage, the trivial things replace the warmth of the past, and the marriage is dull, and it will begin to chase new stimuli.
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I remember that there was a news at that time that a family of three murders in Hengshui City, Hebei Province, exploded on the Internet, and the cause of the incident was due to an extramarital affair of her husband Shao.
Shao and his mistress were originally junior high school classmates, and later because of the classmate party, an improper relationship occurred. A year later, Shao proposed to return to the family, but the female classmate found herself infected with "tuberculosis", and insisted that it was caused by Shao, asking for 100,000 breakup fees. Shao's monthly income is only four or five thousand, and he naturally can't come up with it to support a large family. Therefore, the female classmate and her husband followed Shao to pick up her daughter from school, buy vegetables, and committed murder at the door of the vegetable shop, killing a family of three.
In the news, the owner of the on-site vegetable shop described that at that time, Shao's wife knelt down and begged for the child's life, but the two people who killed the red-eyed still did not spare the innocent mother and daughter. Fortunately in the misfortune, it is Shao's son, who has been guarding the door of the house not far away, waiting for his parents to open the door. Although he saw that there were many people around the street, he did not go to watch, because his family usually taught him: don't go to the hustle and bustle. ”
Because of this sentence, their son escaped the disaster. Be careful not to join in the fun, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble. They forget to remind themselves that adults often teach their children that "love triangle" is the biggest trouble.
Adults often forward some articles in the circle of friends to remind friends around them: "Don't get entangled with bad things." But I forgot to tell myself: "extramarital affair" is a bad thing among bad things.
Really, there's nothing worse than an affair.
If Shao hadn't cheated, what a happy family!
His children and daughters, his wife is virtuous, he can go to pick up his daughter from school after work in such an ordinary evening, and the family can go to the market to buy vegetables without hurrying, and then go home to cook.
And all this, only because of a love triangle, an extramarital affair, a fantasy, a taste, was all shattered.
Is it worth it?
If Shao is alive, he will definitely say: "Not worth it." ”
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Unfortunately, there are still many couples who underestimate the harm of extramarital affairs.
A questionnaire once did an effective survey of 68119 people, and the results of the survey were chilling, nearly 60% of women had thoughts of cheating; more than 80% of men had thoughts of cheating. Nearly 40% of women end up cheating and more than 60% of men have cheated.
There are not many married men and women who are absolutely loyal in thought and deed, from one to the next.
This data is also clear: everyone is the same anyway, and no one should say who.
Some people will say: What is the point of marriage? But there is no way, in the end, human beings are evolved from animals, and chasing lust is instinctive.
But man is not an animal after all.
The difference between humans and animals is that animals cannot control their own behavior, but humans can.
If you become a family and have no self-control, if you cheat once tempted, there is no difference between man and inferior animals.
Life is a process of competing with one's own desires again and again, and those who can control themselves are capable, and those who cannot control themselves do not deserve a family.
There are many infidelities in marriage, but you can at least demand that you and your partner be faithful.
As for those who think they can do "the red flag at home and the bunting flag flutters outside", it is precisely you who put yourself and your family on the edge of danger.
Whoever plays with fire will set himself on fire.
Many men also underestimate the destructive power of extramarital affairs to their families and careers, and the well-known article cheating is an example.
After the articles of the past, career success, family happiness, from "Struggle" to "Thirty-three Days of Lost Love" became the first popular student in the mainland, the best actor, the most popular actor and so on won the awards.
But the struggle over the years can not be compared to a derailment, although his wife Ma Yili chose to forgive him for the first time, but the audience has not forgiven him so far, and the acting career of the article has been bleak since then.
The article that recently appeared in the public eye again, without the handsomeness and uninhibited of the past, the eyes are sluggish, the hairline is moved back, the waist circumference is thicker, and the typical greasy middle-aged uncle is.
There are countless possibilities for coveting momentary joy and ruining the future of their careers, and there are really not a few such people.
Xu Zhi'an, the male protagonist who was "safe to cheat" before, although his acting career has been tepid, but the good villain is also an old predecessor who has been in the show business circle for decades, but he still has not learned the lessons of many predecessors.
When the derailment was exposed, Hui Zhi'an had to announce the suspension of all work and the cancellation of concerts, which was roughly estimated to be at least HK$22.3 million, which did not include damages for breach of contract.
For the 52-year-old Xu Zhian, this is undoubtedly a disaster, unable to control his lower body, he can only take his career as the price, and there will be no more Xu Zhian in the show business.
Let's not talk about the entertainment industry, just the tragedies caused by ordinary people's extramarital affairs have been reported a lot.
In 2018, in Nantong City, Jiangsu Province, two people with their own families developed into extramarital affairs, in order to resolve this relationship, the two had a dispute, and the man drove the woman to death in excitement;
In 2017, In Minhang, Shanghai, because the husband had maintained an improper relationship with his lover for a long time outside and had an illegitimate child, the wife finally had an emotional breakdown and smashed her husband to death with a hammer in the middle of the night;
In 2016, in Guangxi, the wife ran away from home in an affair, and the husband killed his wife's family in a rage in order to force his wife to appear.
Because of the greed for a moment of freshness, there are many people who have lost their lives.
Not to mention the trouble that affects your family and your children, but let your family and children return to you for the sins you have created.
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This time the incident is linked to the above infidelity, it can be found that at the beginning of the extramarital affair, both men and women are in the name of true love, but reality can easily tear through their hypocrisy, once torn face, what love, romance, commitment, etc. have all become a bubble.
Extramarital affairs are just taking what they need and playing with each other. Almost no one will get their true happiness and true love because of an extramarital affair. On the contrary, most people who have extramarital affairs backfire and are either cheated or deceived.
Men play extramarital affairs, usually in order to get a woman's body and meet their own temporary curiosity and needs. And a woman's extramarital affair is not a foolish belief in true love, or to get some material needs from men.
Such feelings, of course, are hypocritical and fragile. When one party's needs cannot be met, or when the trade-offs are uneven, the two former lovers will not take into account the former feelings. On the contrary, in order to make up for and compensate themselves, they even did not hesitate to turn against each other and make a big move.
Those who are eager to try an affair should not think that it is just exciting and fun. Many times, your momentary happiness is very likely to bring you a lot of trouble and trouble, and it is also very likely to put your family and family in danger.
And those who are already in extramarital affairs should also close their hands in time and return to their lovers and families as soon as possible. Extramarital affairs are just a temporary spark, which looks like great love, but it is all a vain bubble, not real at all.
In the end, you will find that the original match is your most precious lover, and the person who is willing to live with himself all his life, whether he is poor or rich, he will never abandon him until death. Therefore, I urge everyone to cherish the existing lovers and families, some things, once wrong, there is no room for return.
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