Wang Xiaobo said: "When people are young, they feel that there are people everywhere, and other people's affairs are your business, and after middle age, they feel that there is nothing in the world except their families." ”
When you just walk out of society, you can always see many people in your eyes, and once your friends encounter trouble, they will pay their hearts to help each other. However, this sincere feeling slowly disappeared with age.
After middle age, you will find that you really have nothing but your family.
At this time, you will become aware of your own world, start to get smaller and smaller, and the life you expect is actually very simple. When we are young, we care a lot about other people's opinions, and we desperately move forward in order to live decently or keep up with others.
I thought that with more wealth, I could live a full and happy life. But at the age of fifty, I realized that the real sadness of a person is not that he has no money, but that he does not have these three things.
01: No partner who understands each other
Alain De Bolton said: "Marrying the wrong person is a mistake that any of us are prone to make, and it may be the most expensive mistake in a person's life." ”
If you live happily in marriage, life will experience more warmth. Unfortunately, there are too many people around who can't achieve it. Marrying the wrong people, getting along with each other more and more contradictions, not being able to trust and understand each other, such feelings bring only pain.
Especially at the age of fifty, the real sadness is not that there is no money, but that there is no lover who understands each other.
Uncle Xu is 52 years old, and he and his ex-wife have been married for 10 years, and they were introduced by relatives. Uncle Xu's parents liked his ex-wife very much, and they felt that she was gentle and hardworking, and they felt very satisfied to have a well-behaved daughter-in-law.
However, Uncle Xu did not have a crush on his ex-wife, and only married her to make his parents happy.
However, as his career got better and better, Uncle Xu's heart changed.
Later, he met a girl he liked very much at work and had extramarital feelings. In the end, in order to make his life more complete, Uncle Xu also ruthlessly divorced his ex-wife.
However, this choice became the saddest thing for Uncle Xu in the second half of his life.
The current wife just looks at his high income, not true love. After remarriage, Uncle Xu had to give her 20,000 living expenses every month, and she also took her parents to live at home, and Uncle Xu's parents could only return to their hometown to live.
In the past, when Uncle Xu's career encountered difficulties, he was able to get the understanding and support of his ex-wife, and was even willing to help him borrow money with his relatives to tide over the difficulties.
But now when Uncle Xu's company suffers an economic crisis, the current wife does not understand him at all, and often compares other men with him, hating that Uncle Xu has no real ability.
After the age of fifty, Uncle Xu looked at his poor married life and felt extremely painful. The real sad thing about life is not that you don't have money, but that you don't have a partner who can understand you.
Shakespeare said: "Unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of chickens and geese fighting, can not live in peace, on the contrary, choose a satisfactory spouse, you can be harmonious for a hundred years, endless happiness." ”
I hope that everyone can cherish the lover who is really good to you, and only by spending the rest of your life with a satisfactory spouse can you experience true happiness.
02: No healthy body
Looking back at my past life, I was young and energetic, and I could do whatever I wanted.
For the sake of personal future, you can stay up late for days, or in order to satisfy your inner desires, you overeat and drink wantonly. When the capital of youth is squandered, if you no longer know how to change the current state of life, then the consequences are unimaginable.
In the second half of life, the real sadness is not that there is no money, but that there is no healthy body.
It is like his best friend, only when he cherishes and cares for it, he will not suddenly lose it.
When you reach middle age, you will be able to clearly feel how important health is. Because you are no longer a person, the whole family needs to rely on you, and once you collapse, the happiness of the family will disappear in an instant.
Life is long, the most painful thing is not to experience failure, but to have more than enough and insufficient strength, you actually have a lot of things to do, but the body has been disintegrated, you can only helplessly become a burden to your family.
By the age of fifty, people who are truly self-disciplined know how to maintain good health and will not be willful anymore.
There is a saying: "If you don't have time to rest, you must have time to get sick." ”
Don't overestimate your physical fitness, rest when you should rest, and put down what you should put down. From now on, live regularly, insist on exercising, checking regularly, not staying up late, and not tangled.
The second half of life has only just begun, and only those who remain healthy can finally become real winners.
03: There is no open-minded and transparent heart
Russell once said: "Only when roses and jasmine open together, the world will have jagged and polymorphic beauty." ”
The world is so wide, everyone's advantages are different, we are happy to appreciate the beauty of others, but also know how to recognize their own value, such a life is full.
However, people who are too narrow in their hearts cannot live with an open-minded heart.
Especially after the age of fifty, the real sadness is not that there is no money, but that life is not transparent enough.
There are always many people in life who regard their own standards as a model, and when you do not go the same way, you will be criticized and even become an outlier in the eyes of others.
In order to get rid of this discomfort, people who are not sure enough will choose to compromise, and the result is that life is getting more and more difficult.
And some people can't let go, and there is always an obsession in their hearts, and they can't see the road ahead.
Seeing the friends around you getting better and better, you have jealousy, and it is difficult to restrain the desires that you should not have. People who live with this bad mentality are destined to live a very bleak life in the second half of their lives.
Only people with a transparent and open heart can truly control their own lives.
They may not know much, but they are very open-minded and can accept themselves and others.
As the writer Sunflower said: "It is not pleasing to the eye to see people, because they are not cultivated enough." Fix a heart and see everything well. ”
At the age of fifty, no amount of external things can be enough to live with an open heart.
A person's real sorrow is not that he has no money, but that he does not have the three things mentioned above.
We are all afraid of being alone, especially as we get older and more likely to be understood. If in the second half of life, you can still be with the people you love the most, understand and cherish each other, it is the greatest wealth.
Maintaining a healthy body is the best cause of a lifetime, and those who have it can enjoy more excitement and fun in life.
Writer Bai Luomei said: "Life is a game of chess, about winning or losing, we are always powerless. When you are confused, most of them are in the bureau, and when you are enlightened, you are already outside. ”
When you have an open-minded heart, life is simple. All the troubles and sorrows will no longer affect your rhythm, you can let go of gains and losses and comparisons, and you will not be crushed by pain, but you can start your own beautiful life.
Yuan Longping's letter to his mother: The rice is ripe, Mother, I have come to see you (tears)
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