Recently, I saw a highly played video on the Internet, which has been played 5.61 million times, and the title of the video is called "Mad, My Husband Wants to Sell Houses for Children to Attend Noble Kindergartens".
The video blogger @vivi Cute said that she and her husband quarreled until more than three o'clock in the morning over whether to go to the noble kindergarten for their children.
The reason is that the blogger's husband heard that the children who read that kindergarten have two common characteristics:
Their English listening and speaking skills are superb;
They dare to question adults and are not afraid of teachers.
The blogger's husband said that he was deeply attracted by these two traits, especially the second point, he believes that the spirit of questioning is very helpful for the child's character development and creativity cultivation, so he is ready to send his baby to this kindergarten.
However, when the blogger inquires, this kindergarten fee is called an expensive one, and it will cost more than 100,000 yuan a year. The blogger pinched his finger so that there were two children in the family, both of whom were sent to this super expensive kindergarten, which cost 600,000 yuan in three years, and with the current income level of their husband and wife, they could not support such a high fee. But the blogger's husband liked the kindergarten's education method too much, and he said that he would sell the family house. After all, the old saying goes, "Three years old to see the old, with such characteristics, the future of children's creativity is great, the development space is infinite."
So the blogger's husband wants to sell the house for the child to go to the noble kindergarten, the blogger does not agree to sell the house to send the child to the noble kindergarten, the two argue opened, and accidentally quarreled until three o'clock in the middle of the night.
Most netizens in the comment area do not agree with the operation of selling houses for children to read noble kindergartens, netizens left messages saying that after all, reading kindergartens is only the beginning, at this time you think of giving children the best, after reading primary school, reading junior high school, reading high school, you are not willing to be on, once you enter this door, there is no way back, if you do not really have economic strength, do not force your scalp to move forward.
Besides, those who have the financial strength to send their children to the tuition six-figure kindergarten family, generally speaking, in addition to the high tuition fees every year, there are many other expenses, their own children should not belong to this group, even if the adults smash the pot and sell iron to send the children in, the children are also outliers there, the topics of classmates he may not be able to insert into the mouth at all, the activities held by the classmates He can not participate in them every time, and when he returns home, he sees the swollen face and fat man to let the child "brightly shine" outside. But they are forced to be discouraged by the parents, the pressure in the child's heart must not be small.
We often say that if you don't belong to your own circle, don't go strong, and this is also true for children.
Looking back, we admit that protecting children's questioning ability and ability to explore is a very important thing, but are the kindergarten educational qualities that attract blogger husbands really only available through kindergarten education? Perhaps compared with kindergarten education, family education will have more advantages in this regard.
When a child grows up, the biggest influence on his character development must be his family. This is why many people have been talking about the impact of the original family on a child over the years, and they can always find the shadow of their parents in the child. If you want to shape a good personality in some aspects of your child, the key lies in what kind of family atmosphere parents create for their children, and how to accompany their children.
Take the kindergarten educational traits that attract blogger husbands, family education can also be done, and even better. As parents, if we want our children to speak out bravely, have their own independent judgment, and the ability to innovate, we want to:
Do not create an image of "parents are authorities" in front of children, allow children to express their own views, when children express different opinions from their parents, parents should respect the child's right to express and take his different views seriously;
When parents make mistakes, they must dare to inherit in front of their children, and tell their children that no one is perfect, and adults will also make mistakes;
Encourage children to think positively and give timely affirmation to his creative thinking;
Broaden your child's horizons by participating in social activities, traveling, reading, and more.
When we are envious of what characteristics other children have, in fact, we do not necessarily need to follow the gourd, but we should think more about what we should do as parents.