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Fight father and son soldiers, fight tiger brothers.
No matter how fierce the family is together, looking back, this flesh and blood love still exists.
No matter how bad the family is, it will not allow outsiders to invade.
Please, don't be seduced by the chicken soup of "raising children and raising daughters without preventing old age".
Parents are old, and they need not only material dependence, but also spiritual sustenance.
From the children, the shadow of "hope" can always be found.
Understand that your relationship with your children is your relationship with the world.
When children are young, their parents teach by example; when their parents are old, their children lead the future.
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Children have wisdom, parents can see the world.
For a while, the "hand-drawn WeChat instruction manual" caught fire.
A 26-year-old man, Zhang Ming, graduated from the Chongqing Institute of Posts and Telecommunications with a major in animation and worked in Beijing to educate children's art.
After the Spring Festival, he will leave his parents and continue to drift north. In order to keep in touch with his parents often, he bought a smartphone. However, moms and dads in their early 50s don't know how to fiddle with WeChat and how to chat with their sons.
Therefore, he started to draw instructions, so that the complex software became simple and clear, and even children could understand it.
Netizen "Leo Haoye" said: "The most important point is to forget, do not update, out of a special software for parents and mothers." ”
Wu Chunqi, a 38-year-old Taiyuan man, not only drew a picture of the use of the software for his 65-year-old mother before the long trip, but also drew happy moments such as his parents holding a walk.
Teach you to wear clothes, tie shoelaces, buttons, teach you to wash your face, comb your hair, teach you to wipe your nose and wipe your butts; teach you the principle of being a person... Through his pen, they can be turned into funny pictures, coaxing the family and laughing.
The pace of the times is fast, and the elderly cannot keep up, but they can easily synchronize with the times with the wisdom of their children.
"The world is so big, everyone wants to see", but the old man goes out, does not know how to pay, how to buy tickets with mobile phones, and the old way of consumption makes the old man look very embarrassed.
The elderly can ask the person next to them for advice, but others are not obliged to teach you. Therefore, the old man who is close to his children and diligent in learning is closer to the world.
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Children have a job, and parents have something to rely on.
The best way to be filial to your parents: companionship.
However, if children do not work and have no money, companionship will seem pale and powerless. In case your parents are sick and you can't even afford to pay for the medical expenses, no matter how good the escort is, you can't alleviate your parents' pain.
So in good families, families talk about money. Parents force their children to go out and make money fiercely.
Even if the parents do not have a pension, they can enjoy life. Parents do what they can to help their children do something, but also reflect their own value.
Ban Gu, a famous historian of the Eastern Han Dynasty, once said: "One dollar a day, ten dollars in ten days." The rope sawed the wood broken, and the water drops were worn by the stone. ”
People live and spend money every day. If the children are always around their parents, doing nothing, and continue to ask their parents for money, such a relationship is very shameful. Those children who bravely break through the world and have the ability to support their parents, even if they gather less and leave more with their parents, are the "good children" in their parents' hearts.
Money is the strength of being a person and the necessity of supporting a family.
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The children are optimistic, and the family is warm.
In the TV series "Laughing and Living", the girl Yanyang was abandoned by her mother at the door of the welfare home and then remarried.
When Yan Yang grew up, her mother took the initiative to come to her. I thought it was a reconciliation of feelings. As everyone knows, it is the sister of the mother's family who is sick and needs the help of her sister Yan Yang.
Even so, Yan Yang still lived strongly and supported this big family with love. In the end, the mother finally understood Yan Yang and tried her best to show the greatness of maternal love - willing to give everything for her children.
Singer Andy Lau said: "To the family, parents, brothers, sisters, don't care what they have given you, whether they are good or not, and your responsibility is to do the best for your relatives and do your best to help them." ”
On weekdays, Andy Lau has always been very busy, but he can always squeeze out time to eat with his parents.
One year on Father's Day, Andy Lau invited his father to the concert site and let his father stand on the stage to accept the blessings of the audience. After that, he gave his father custom-made clothes , which read " The son who is fortunate to be a father " .
Elderly parents, the biggest in the world, are "little families". If you can feel the "atmosphere of love" all the time, the parents' days will be warm.
Children complain every day, parents will be very sad, feel that there is no hope in life, and living is also a drag on their children.
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Children have a pattern, and families are more prosperous.
Chen Fan, a minister during the Eastern Han Dynasty, was very unhygienic when he was a child. His uncle saw it and made a few remarks of criticism.
Chen Fan said that when the eldest husband sweeps away the world, what is the matter of peace?
The uncle retorted, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?"
The prosperity of a family is not the result of the efforts of one generation, but the efforts of several generations. Parents lay a solid foundation, and children innovate and go further.
When the children grow up, the parents slowly grow old, and the ability to fight the world is getting weaker and weaker. At this time, the burden of the family naturally falls on the children.
Children with a big pattern can embrace the world, parents behind them, silently support, and feel the atmosphere of prosperity. Of course, the pattern of children was cultivated by parents at the beginning. The change of pattern is a process of interaction.
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Conclusion.
Lin Qingxuan wrote in the book: "Parents treat their children, although their children are like kites flying far away, their hearts are always tied to the line." A face full of love is indescribable in words. Love can only be experienced, not depicted. ”
Parents are an indispensable role in every child's growth path. When parents get old, roles are reversed, and children are the best support for parents. Even if you can't get financial support, you can definitely get spiritual support - worry, miss, look forward to a safe return, wait for home for the New Year, care for the weather changes on the child's side...
Use all the power of the flood to do something for the children, this heart is always there, then the parents will continue to get better; when the children get better and better, the parents' hearts become peaceful, and the waddling steps will also come out of the spirit.
May the family of the world be able to handle the relationship between parents and children, home and everything.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.