Many studies have shown that the process of pregnancy and childbearing can cause dramatic changes in women's psychology and physiology, some of which are temporary and some of which may last for a lifetime.
We are ordinary people, not stars, and we don't have so much money to hire a babysitter and then go out on our own, and what we have is to take care of the children every day and keep busy.
A male netizen told me in a private message that he had a child, and his wife was like a changed person, and the original gentle and shy personality suddenly became violent. In the past, no matter how big things happened, the two sat down and discussed well, and now a little trivial matter will cause a big family conflict.
The trust between husband and wife is also getting less and less, before the wife did not love to manage money, now she attaches great importance to money; before she was particularly concerned about herself, now she rarely asks about herself; she rarely looks at her mobile phone before, and now she often sneaks through; she used to be optimistic about life, and now she is very pessimistic about things...
What is it that makes a woman feel like a changed person after giving birth?
All this is changed by the pain "encountered" during childbirth and after childbirth!
First, the pain of the flesh
1. Indescribable contraction pain
In my own experience, although I have forgotten the details of the pain during the contractions, I was deeply impressed by the fear at that time. I was a person who paid a lot of attention to the external image, but at that time I really became a "shrew" and completely broke through the bottom line of my dignity.
2. Postpartum wound pain
If it is a normal birth, many will perform lateral cutting, and going to the toilet during that time has become the most painful thing, and only after experiencing it will you understand. If it's a caesarean section, when the nurse presses the abdomen with salt, when lying in bed and can't turn over, you really despair.
3. Postpartum hemorrhoids
If you have the misfortune of developing hemorrhoids after childbirth, even if you use Kelsai lotion every day, it will still make you particularly miserable, and you will be afraid of stool after many years.
4. Breastfeeding pain
The first time you become a mother, you will not feed, the baby will not eat, there will often be cracks, severe time will bleed, that kind of drill heart pain, how can you forget? Moreover, it will block the milk at every turn, and the chest is hard like a stone, and the pain will be through the heart at the touch of a light touch.
Second, mental pain
1. Body deformation
What woman doesn't love beauty? What woman can accept bloating? But there is no way, after giving birth to a child, it is easy to lose shape, and it will also fall into the problem of waist pain, leg pain, wrist pain, and if you don't get it right, you will leak urine, how can you not be painful?
2, privacy is stripped away
Do internal examination before childbirth, strip naked after entering the delivery room, disinfect after childbirth, plug hemorrhoid medicine, and sometimes take the baby out to feed in public, and the dignity of being a woman is slowly worn away in this way.
3, not understood
After giving birth to the baby, you have to face various contradictions in the family, the husband does not understand, the mother-in-law does not trust, the slightest mistake will be blamed by the whole family, they are depressed into this, and they are said to be pretentious.
4. Economic pressure
After a woman has a child, she will not be able to work for a long time, and may even choose to be a stay-at-home mother in order to have a child. At this time, I have no income, all my living expenses have to rely on my husband, and this feeling of reaching out for money is like begging.
You said that you don't know why a woman sentences two people after giving birth, and you haven't thought about it carefully, and you always feel that the problem is in the woman, and even complains about your wife. When you read this article, will you have a heart-wrenching pain in your heart? If there is, it means that you really love your wife!
If you feel that having children itself is what a woman should do, and that changes in your psychological state are all done by yourself, it means that you really don't love your wife, because you don't understand women at all, and you don't want to understand.
Having children does not hurt a man much, both physically and psychologically, while for a woman, it can completely change her life.