Jia Baoyu's life ended with abandoning his wife Xue Baochao and leaving home. Seemingly irresponsible and irresponsible. The root cause is not his incompetence, but his experience of rise and fall to see through the essence of life.
The reason why Madame Wang failed in educating her son was that she did not know how to properly educate Jia Baoyu. In this regard, Jia Zheng finally woke up and did not ask Bao Yuke to take the road, and the father and son were reconciled. Madame Wang was wrong to the end.
(Thirty-fourth time) Madame Wang shouted from the attacker, "My son, thanks to you, you also understand that these words are the same as my heart." Why did I not know how to manage my son, when you were uncle Zhu first, how did I manage him, do I not know how to manage my son now? But there is only one reason: now I think that I am almost fifty years old, and there is only one of him left, and he is long and weak, and the old lady is like a baby, if you manage him tightly, if there is a good villain, or the old lady is angry, then the upper and lower levels are uneasy, will not be bad, so I will spoil him. I often open my mouth to persuade for a while, say a while, angrily scold, cry for a while, when he was good, after that he was still irrelevant, and it was just a loss. If it breaks, who will I rely on in the future?" "Say, not to roll down the tears."
Lady Wang experienced the blow of Jia Zhu's death, and her discipline of Jia Baoyu suffered from gains and losses. She was worried that her son was "too weak" to discipline. He also pushed the responsibility to Jia Mu to spoil. Found a bunch of excuses to get rid of her responsibilities, afraid that Jia Baoyu's "accident" would make her have no one to rely on.
The problem is that the "bad" of Jia Baoyu in WangFu's population is not necessarily "really bad"!
When Jia Baoyu was beaten, Jia Zheng said that he did not learn any techniques, made friends with drama, and insulted his mother-in-law. Except for the last one, Jin Jun'er, who died because of their mother and son, the other two were not moral and character issues.
The death of Jin Jun'er, Jia Baoyu could not escape the blame. But Madame Wang also has a responsibility. If she had intervened in Jia Baoyu's adjustment earlier, Jin Jun'er would not have said the wrong thing and been thrown into the well by rumors and slanders after she was chased away.
And all this exposed the nature of Jia Baoyu's clumsy disciple who was neglecting to discipline at that time. The root cause was that Madame Wang left him alone in the Grand View Garden, and spent all day together with the servants to make unscrupulous jokes and do whatever they wanted.
Jia Baoyu's entry into the Grand View Garden was not the fault of Jia Zheng and Jia Mu, but the short-sightedness and selfishness of Madame Wang.
Jia Yuanchun let Jia Baoyu live in the Grand View Garden, and any statement was an excuse and did not conform to the rules.
The reason why he insisted on letting him live in it, the abnormal thing depends on who is able to do it! Jia Baoyu has since moved out of Jia's mother's courtyard and is under the management of Lady Wang. Obviously, this is the result that Madame Wang wants.
For more than ten years, she finally waited for the opportunity to "snatch" her son from her mother-in-law. Yuan Chun's will was only to fulfill his mother's wishes. Jia Mu has been whipped ever since.
For the sake of her own selfishness, Madame Wang let Jia Baoyu live alone in the Grand View Garden where her daughter lived, which was bound to cause problems.
Daguanyuan is independent of the main house of Jia Fu, Madame Wang cannot fully control it, Jia Baoyu is becoming more and more "arrogant" inside, and "taking off the reins of wild horses" generally does a lot of things that are not in accordance with the rules and etiquette. Madame Wang is responsible.
In particular, she knew that Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu had a "private affair" and did not act. Using only selfish tricks to attack dissidents through spies and eyeliner is really putting the cart before the horse.
Lady Wang not only installed eyeliner in Yihong Courtyard and Xiaoxiang Pavilion to spy on Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu for her, but also tried to tie up her son by bribing the attackers, and she was even more unconscious.
Madame Wang said, "... If it is said that the heavy knowledge is a great gift, it is better to attack people first. Although a virtuous wife and a beautiful concubine, it is better to have a heavy temperament and a smooth demeanor. Even though the appearance of the attacker is slightly inferior to Qingwen, it is placed in the room, and it is also considered to be first- and second-class. Moreover, acting generously and honestly, in the past few years, he has never met Baoyu naughty. Fan Baoyu is very foolish, he only has to die to persuade ..."
Madame Wang thought that finding a daughter-in-law who "persuaded" her son to die would be able to get him on the right path. If you don't talk about reading books, at least you won't take the "crooked road."
Her idea seemed good, but it was ruined by the fact that she did not know Jia Baoyu's true character. Jia Mu's thoughts about Lady Wang were clear to Jia Baoyu's character. In response to the stubbornness of her daughter-in-law, she had no choice but to choose to keep silent, point to the end, and let her toss.
In fact, the reason is very simple, although Jia Baoyu has a wayward side, but he is pure and good-natured, yearning for the nature of freedom, and does not need others to "persuade" at all.
Xue Baochao and Shi Xiangyun persuaded him, and he both began to distance themselves. Lin Daiyu did not persuade him, but instead approached him. Just because Jia Baoyu knew what he wanted, Lin Daiyu understood him, and Jia Mu also understood, he said, "I can't understand it either."
Madame Wang was ignorant of Jia Baoyu's personality, and Jia Mu mentioned that her "persuasion" was useless, and she insisted on going her own way. If Jia Mu, Lin Daiyu, and her mother could not listen, what did Xue Baochao and Hua Raider rely on? This is the obsession of the authorities.
Madame Wang thought that Jia Baoyu had been abducted and damaged, and would rather injure the enemy by "copying and inspecting the Grand View Garden" to injure herself and damage eight hundred, rather than move her son out to educate well, and she was dimwitted and selfish!
She never tried to understand her son, just "poor Baba" to keep watch. Unable to do anything about it, he pinned his hopes on Xue Baochao and the attackers. As everyone knows, "blocking is better than thinning", doomed to her bamboo basket to hit the water empty.
Unlike Madame Wang, Jia Mu also knew that Jia Baoyu's personal ability was not good. However, she did not force her grandson to take the so-called "right path" to study and study. Manpower is sometimes poor, and jia baoyu is not competent, so why pull up seedlings to promote growth.
Therefore, Jia Mu never asked Jia Baoyu to study and study, and Guangzong Yaozu.
Jia Mu prepares for jia baoyu's future, and the potential value of Lin Daiyu and Qingwen is in the next generation. Since Baoyu is not the material of xingjia, it can educate the next generation and make him live a comfortable life.
If the Jia family does not raid the house, appropriate open source and throttling will not affect Jia Baoyu's rich life.
Even if the Jia family raids the house, the people who accompany Jia Baoyu are Lin Daiyu and Qingwen, even if they "starve to death", he will choose to face it "together".
This is the truth, and it is also Madame Wang's failure!
Ginger is the old spicy, and the biggest difference between Jia Mu and Madame Wang is that one is the public heart, planning for the Jia family. One is selfish, just for herself.
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