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Stress or fear.
Stress is an indescribable feeling, and it may be more vivid that "fear", "fear", "worry", "anxiety" are understood in place, more or less the same physiological reactions: rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, or poor sleep, poor appetite, muscle tension, or neck and back pain, etc.
In fact, every living person will deal with these so-called "pressures" or others, regardless of whether they are famous or not, they will face them.
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Express fear, or fear. Instead of talking about stress.
The child can say directly what he is afraid of, or what is afraid of some big tiger inside, or that there is a terrible monster in the night. He saw fear, fear as something healthy and something to deal with, not a pure hate. But also seek support from parents, or hugs.
This is exactly in line with yesterday's "Pressure: Use well, improve combat effectiveness." Use it badly, the heart stops" mentioned in the article as a change in heartbeat and breathing under pressure, as a kind of help, promoting the release of oxytocin to seek outreach and support, stimulate the stress reduction mechanism brought by stress, protect the heart, etc. This way of coping with stress in children is a good interpretation of the stress reduction mechanism under pressure.
We want to achieve better, just like children, and not avoid pressure. Instead, it is "recognizing, encountering fear, and being physically prepared" and receiving support, including emotional support such as intimacy, and assistance from others.
Knowing that this fear, or worry, and the changes that occur in your body, such as sweating, muscle tension, rapid heartbeat and breathing, is preparing for "fear," "worry," or stress as we're used to saying. We accept and appreciate the efforts our bodies make and believe they will do what you can. Instead of the fact that we usually show an attempt to eliminate stress (fear or worry), we are very annoying when we encounter stress, and there is anger and disgust. This way the body will be overwhelmed by your emotions about "stress".
The increased risk of myocardial infarction, stroke, or cardiovascular disease caused by long-term stress is precisely the consequence of this negative emotion of "stress". And it doesn't have to be the pressure itself.
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Why does the stress persist?
Except for some of our specific major blows, such as unemployment, lost love, divorce, illness, death, etc., the usual source of stress and a steady stream of daily life.
For example, constant worry about the future, and not caring about the current things is not interested.
Or, the nature of the work is constantly tense, thus forming habits, and occasional relaxation also becomes guilty.
Lack of effective time management, such as habitual staying up late, or procrastinating.
In addition, some personality traits or ways of thinking can also lead to continuous self-pressure.
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Refer to the way children face "fear or fear".
Change the angle, do not die carrying. Another way of thinking about it is to make "stress" a part of everyday life. Feel the changes in your body and prepare for it.
Tell the story. Find someone in an intimate relationship and talk about what they encountered, or how they felt. Find support that can be provided to the community.
Relax. It can feel each muscle from head to toe, tightening, 3-5 seconds, relaxing, 3-5 seconds. Just relax. Or make the perception body comfortable. For example, the soles of the feet and the floor, the solid seats, etc.
time management. It's time for high concentration, combined with time for relaxation and leisure. Or swap time with the brain.