No matter what kind of personality you are, and no matter how vigorous and full of fighting spirit you are doing things at the beginning, it seems that when people reach middle age, most of them will have a change, that is, their mobility will become worse, and even they will not be able to lift their strength.
Countless people feel that when people reach middle age, they are always full of powerlessness, and they have lost their passion for life, and they work hard every day, but they still seem to be in the same place.
I can't get reused at work, I can't get a salary increase, I know I have to keep a good attitude, but I often feel anxious. To sum up, it feels like life seems to have reached a bottleneck and can't stop, and I don't know how to improve, such a middle-aged dilemma is not uncommon, especially when people reach middle age. It's even more the norm.
Is age a curse, and is it inevitable that middle-aged people will become like this?
In fact, people have things to do at each stage. Reaching middle age is only a growth and transformation of life.
Habit locks in the future
Everyone has their own habits, especially middle-aged people, whether it is work life, there must be their own habits that feel comfortable or correct.
However, once life becomes the default mode of replication, it is difficult to break through and open this limiter, which is a flaw in human nature, although it makes us feel comfortable and safe, but it also limits everyone's development, makes people fall into a dead cycle, and there is no change.
You have to know that some things have formed patterns, will form an instinctive consciousness of conditional emission, belongs to a natural behavior that can be triggered at any time, does not need to take the initiative to think, this kind of cookie-cutter replication, but will become the consumption of people's hearts.
Over time, it will naturally be boring and boring, but at the same time, it is unwilling to change and break the original habit model, which also forms the reason for many people's feelings in middle age.
"Consumption" makes people lose their passion
Middle-aged people bear too much burden, family, lovers, work partners, leaders, there are a lot of people and things that make themselves bad, but not many people can really help themselves to solve their worries, sometimes it is often because the troubles are useless, they have to reconcile with themselves, get by, but the self-digestion of this emotion and a variety of intricate emotions have made people full of fatigue about life, where there is passion to imagine the future, there is a mood to enjoy life.
It seems that countless middle-aged people are left with nothing more than trying to live.
The future direction changes, so that middle-aged people begin to be negative
Think about why happiness was simple when you were a kid? It is not that there are fewer requirements, but that no matter what happens, there are parents behind them to make their own safe haven. Why is it that young people, no matter how many blows and setbacks they have suffered, can quickly recover and say nothing to themselves? Not because at that time, the newborn calves were not afraid of tigers, but the future is time, can afford to lose, and can also fall.
Human life is limited, every day is counting down their own lives, people to middle age, it seems to talk about death too early, compared to young people and the original self, really has lost the courage to take risks, because of lack of capital.
To put it simply, once the direction of our forward movement is close to maturity and growth, and now that we are more than halfway through life, we are closer to aging and death, and the helplessness and even fear in the subconscious will gradually plague everyone.
Once upon a time, we were looking forward to love, waiting for someone who knew and stayed with them to spend the moon and face all kinds of life. But in middle age, most people have experienced emotional frustration and marriage blandness and even torture, and the original understanding of pure love has long been exhausted, so many people do not know what they live for, for whom they live, but they continue to struggle strongly.
At the beginning, for each other and themselves, they were full of yearning for a better life, and now, they feel that it doesn't matter to see anything, it is difficult to provide interest and passion to themselves, most bluntly, there were expectations for the good, and now, life is too sad, pain and disappointment are the norm.
Success is also experience, defeat is also experience
Adults, especially middle-aged people, one of the biggest characteristics is that they like to use past experience to guide their current behavior, and people who have lived so long must have their own experience summary, which does bring us a lot of convenience, but at the same time, they are also self-contained in their cognition and thinking.
We will use our "experience" wisdom to avoid the recurrence of similar things, but such a snake bite, ten years of fear of grass rope cognition, but doomed to lead to the impact of the final decision-making and judgment, the ability to act slowly, it is because of more concerns, but also because of their own experience, affecting the judgment, thus losing a lot of the best opportunities, narrowing the space for development.
Middle-aged people, success is also experience, defeat is also experience, the view that "I eat more salt than you walk" has affected how many people have improved and changed.
Many people are like this, that is, they are limited by the "experience" they are proud of, you have to understand that you can upgrade and reflect at different times, and you have to understand that the experience of the past may not be applicable to the present and the present.
Experience must have its value, but don't make it your chain.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.