Mother and child are the most sincere and pure feelings, but in getting along, it is not necessarily the mother's kindness and son's "laughter". Why not filial piety, because the family, also focus on happiness, lifeless mother-child relationship, how to talk about filial piety? However, many babies will encounter such troubles, feel the lack of empathy with their mothers, and do not know how to get along more and more, I try to make some suggestions.
1, treat the nagging mother, guard against arrogance and impatience, you can go in and out of the left ear, you can also find an excuse to go out.
Many mothers love their children in fragments. Whether it is life or study, everything is big and small.
In the eyes of the mother, the children are not mature no matter how old they are. However, in this way, the children will be bored.
When encountering such a mother, the children should control their anxiety, and the words to the mother can go in and out of the right ear, if they really can't stand it, find an excuse to avoid, such as I still have to study, but also read books, or say ask questions to classmates or friends.
As the saying goes: Zhizi Moruomu. Mom can see that you are prevaricating, since you gave her face, she will not chase after you and nag, rather than directly collide, it will be more effective with half the effort.
2, a mother with a strong desire for control, the children can say their own ideas, and communicate patiently with the mother.
I'm good for you, that's what a lot of moms say to their children. In the TV series "In the Name of Family". Qi Mingyue's mother did just that. From childhood to adulthood, Qi Mingyue's affairs were all arranged by her mother, and even her social life had to be managed.
Qi Mingyue was resistant in his heart, so he deliberately filled in one less question during the college entrance examination. After work, the mother and daughter had a fierce quarrel, the mother knew the truth, and her emotions were out of control...
To this extent, the family relationship between mother and daughter has suffered a huge impact, but mother and daughter still care for each other. In fact, the mother and daughter lack the most communication.
The mother's desire to control is simply to make her children take fewer detours according to their own experience. In this case, children still have to explain their life plans clearly, so that they can hope to reach a consensus with their mothers. It is really not possible, you can find your grandmother's family to help persuade.
3. Encourage mothers to have their own hobbies. The mother's personality is cheerful, and the parent-child relationship can be harmonious
In the parent-child relationship, because of the large age difference, there will always be a generation gap. Mom likes it, you don't feel it. You like it, mom can't get used to it.
If your mother's social circle is narrow, you can encourage your mother to go out, dance and sing, which can make your mother feel cheerful.
Mom's social circle is wider, and she doesn't always stare at you, so it's much easier to get along.
4. Share the things in your life and let your mother participate in your life.
Between mothers and children, there is a blood connection, and there is no mustard in their hearts. Not getting along, just experiencing different experiences and understanding life in different ways.
The most important thing is that children live in their own world. Enjoy yourself.
Psychologically, it is also emotionally distant. Mom will feel lonely and will feel rejected.
After the children go home, they can treat their mothers as friends, share more interesting things in life, let the mother say their own suggestions, and then analyze them, so that the parent-child relationship will become more and more harmonious.