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Seeing a message from a fan, she said: "My son is 4 years old this year, and many children around me have signed up for interest classes. I was worried that my son would fall behind and have no talent, and I also enrolled him in several interest classes. I hope he can find his real hobbies in these interest classes, and I hope that my decision will provide more possibilities for his future.
However, the rest of the family was opposed and did not understand my approach, believing that it would make the child feel tired and lose the joy of childhood. In fact, I don't think my approach is wrong, my starting point is for the good of my children, the same purpose as other family members. Why is it not understood, and they think that it is not necessary for children to enroll in interest classes at the age of 4. ”
From this mother's words, we can learn several information:
1. Because the children around him reported interest classes, they reported several interest classes to their 4-year-old son;
2. The purpose of the mother to report the interest class to the child is to provide more possibilities for the child;
3, the family feels that the child is tired, hope to have a free childhood;
4. Should the child enroll in interest classes?
Perhaps when she left a message, there was some conflict with her family because of the child's interest class, which promoted her thinking about the whole thing, resulting in the final question all focused on one point: should I give my child an interest class?
Sort out the original intention of enrolling children in classes
Enrolling children in interest classes and cram schools is a very enthusiastic thing for Chinese parents today. Not wanting children to lag behind others and compete with each other is actually a typical educational anxiety that can be contagious. Some people jokingly say that the degree of educational anxiety is no less contagious than that of the new crown virus.
In fact, the matter of giving children interest classes is indeed beneficial to children. The interest class is not afraid, afraid that the parents will follow the current, see others report to their children, and they will quickly report it, just like the mother who questioned the above. People really go to school because of their children's interests, and you are following the trend. As a result, other people's children reap the joy of interest, while your children get exhaustion and failure.
When you are thinking about giving your child an interest class, you should think about what is the original intention of the class? Many parents will answer: for the children. Since it is for the child, then the main body should be the child, and whether to report or not, in the end, it should be decided by the child. If you just start from the perspective of "I am good for the child", such an interest class wastes money and the child's time.
Interest class, it is the child who decides
Whether the child should apply for the interest class, what kind of interest class to report, is not the parent's decision, but the child's decision. Parents can give their children some advice, but they should not take full initiative.
The first step is to understand your child's interests
Every child has different talents and different interests. If you want to give your child an interest class with more talents, it is better to observe which aspects the child is more interested in. If the child likes skateboarding, you must let the interest in learning to dance against the child's wishes is meaningless.
The second step is to solicit the child's wishes to choose an interest class
I know a yoga teacher whose daughter is very interested in drumming, and when she chose the interest class, the girl kept telling her mother to learn to play drums, and as a result, her mother chose guzheng according to her preferences. She felt that girls should have a classical beauty, and the result can be imagined, the child did not listen to the lecture in class, and was returned by the teacher after half a month. Since it is to help children choose interest classes, it is necessary to seek the consent of children. In this way, the child has the motivation to persevere, and will really stimulate the potential because of interest.
The third step is not to put pressure on the child
Some time ago, the incident of pianist Li Yundi made countless people feel sorry, looking back on his growth experience, found that the high-pressure training in childhood and the high expectations of parents made him miss his childhood and lead to tragedy. Enrolling children in interest classes is so that they can stimulate their potential more, rather than turning interest classes into a kind of pressure.
Therefore, we must start from the child's wishes, sometimes less parents will find that the child's unexpected surprises are more.
Interest classes, give children more possibilities
1, life is more fun
I saw a father's message to his daughter before: "You learn piano not to become a musician in the future, but to hope that in the future life, when you are depressed, there is music to accompany you, and you will live happier." Let children learn interest classes, not necessarily let them get great achievements in interest, but give full play to their own strengths and become a hobby that benefits children for life.
Tips: Of course, if the child has a high talent, it should be given great support and training.
2. Enhance self-confidence
My brother liked to draw, so he enrolled him in the middle class. After entering elementary school, his work was often displayed in class, which gave him great self-confidence. Sometimes, the blessing of a certain interest can make a child full of confidence and help him develop in all aspects of the future.
3. It is conducive to interpersonal communication
When making friends, people often choose "people with similar interests", mainly because they have common hobbies and common topics, and it is easier to become close. The same is true for children, who can improve their ability to interact with people in interest classes.
4, there is a bigger stage and possibilities
In fact, for children, one more kind of interest is one more possibility. Maybe she likes Latin dance, so by learning, she will be able to show herself on one stage more than others. On a relatively professional stage, get more insight and courage.
In fact, as a parent, what you have to worry about is not whether you should give your children interest classes, but how to find their interests, and seek their children's opinions, learn professional knowledge, and encourage children to persevere.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
I am not opposed to parents giving their children interest classes, even if some parents report 5, it does not matter. I am afraid that none of the 5 children really like and are interested, if so, it will be in vain!
A second-child mother who started working in the early hours of the morning, I wrote my heart by hand, and every bit of it was my parenting experience with my two children. Hope my parenting experience can help you a little!
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