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Recently, a college girl in Shanghai, in order to solve her roommate, because there has been no other half and inferiority, opened a single wedding hall.
The so-called wedding hall is actually a photo shoot after dressing up for classmates in the dormitory. Record their wonderful present.
As the little girl said: "Confident girls are the most beautiful, whether single or not, we have to love ourselves." 」 “
1. Do you really need to be in love?
Someone once did a questionnaire based on a virtual premise, which said: "If you can, what kind of partner do you most want to have?"
Most of the targets are the group of post-95s to post-00s, and the vast majority of them hope to be AA or weekend couples.
In fact, especially for young people who have already stepped into the workplace and have the ability to support themselves, love seems to have become less and less important.
We have our own hobbies and interests, and every day after work, we are filled with favorite things, as if it doesn't matter if no one is with us.
Moreover, more boys feel that what girls need now, many of them can't understand, and love makes them confused.
It's not that they don't want to be better for each other, but they don't know how to do it, how to do it, so they simply give up.
Girls, on the other hand, think more that they need a "spiritual sustenance" than a "partner".
In other words, for today's young people, love is no longer a necessity, and it is long past the era of pursuing a lifetime and a couple.
2. Just love yourself
In fact, in this era, many people will no longer be inferior or anxious because they are single, because love is really not so important.
We look forward to fairy tales, but we know very well that in reality, we will never become characters in fairy tale books.
Since you can't meet a dream Prince Charming, why not save more time for yourself and spend with the things you like?
Take advantage of the holidays to see the great rivers and mountains around you. Go for exercise, get a better body, or even just do nothing and stay in the room.
In our lives, there are already many problems that we have to avoid, and just dealing with these problems has left us exhausted.
So why find someone to continue to cause more trouble for yourself? What's more, a lot of love now has long lost its original meaning.
The first love is tolerance, respect, and the courage to spend a lifetime hand in hand. Love now is more of a momentary impulse and a very short-lived love.
If that's the case, why don't you learn to love yourself well. To use your time and do more meaningful things?
3. If you fly first, there will always be wind chasing
Teacher Luo Xiang once said such a passage to all people who are confused and looking forward to the future:
"Bravery is the scarcity in the world. Resentment is useless. I only hope that when the god of fate pushes you into a moment of bravery, I hope you are as you imagined. “
In other words, you first become a brave version of yourself. Love all the things around you that are worthy of your love, and embrace those who have always guarded you.
Go and see the landscapes that you didn't have time to see, listen to the stories you admire, and then your horizons will be much broader.
At that time, love may be another level in your eyes, rather than the story that your hesitation, your selfless dedication and silent tears can tell.
In "Why Sheng ZhenMo", in fact, I never envied He Yichen and Zhao Mosheng, but I was very envious of He Yimei, who later met Zhang Xu.
Because I have let go of a lot, I cherish what I already have more. And such a you, of course, deserve better.
4. Precipitate first, don't rush to love
It's easy to fall in love with someone, probably just because the day I met you, you looked like the person in my heart.
However, it is difficult to get to everything in the end, because it is a kind of mutual run-in and test, which takes the accumulation of time.
If you're not ready, love yourself first, and when you learn to fly, there will always be a wind near you.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.