Author | Insight ciyu
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yang Gun Gun
When I was in college, I took a management course.
Once, a professor over half a hundred years old combined his experience to talk about his insights into Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
He pointed to the picture and said to us:
"People have limited energy and time in this life, and they can't do everything. You must understand what is the most important thing, do not spend too much energy on the material level, spend more effort to take care of the family, to enrich the spirit. ”
Halfway through life, the more I lived, the more transparent I became, and only then did I understand the deep meaning of the professor's words many years ago:
Material low matching, family high matching, spiritual top matching, is a person's best way to live.
Hemingway said that in an era of extravagance and waste, what humans really need is very small.
When people pass middle age, when you filter out unimportant impurities, you are actually throwing away the burden.
In the winter of 1956, the philosopher Li Zehou published a series of articles in Philosophical Studies, and the total fee was 1,000 yuan.
This was a considerable income for him, whose monthly salary was only about 60 yuan at the time.
Although the economy became more prosperous, his food, clothing, shelter and transportation continued as usual, and he did not wear good clothes and watches.
He was persuaded to buy himself a designer shirt, but he refused, saying that "wearing a brand is a burden on his body."
He concentrated on his career, and finally wrote "The Course of Beauty" and "On the History of Modern Chinese Thought".
In the era of materialism, many people seem to dominate the material, but in fact they are dominated by the material.
What we have so much to possess has become the greatest obstacle to life, and the soul has no place to rest.
The ancient Greek philosopher Epicorticta once said that happiness in a person's life should come from reducing dependence on foreign things as much as possible.
Chuck Finney, the founder of Global Duty Free Group, is a world-famous rich man who has always adhered to a simple lifestyle.
He runs all kinds of luxury goods, but his worn-out glasses are picked from the grocery store, and the $10 Casio watch is bought from the stall, and he says the cheap watch is just as accurate.
He doesn't have his own car, goes out on a bus, and often carries a plastic bag in his hand for various documents.
Living in a modest apartment in San Francisco, the layout is extremely simple, with inkjet printed photographs hanging on the walls and a worn-out wooden table.
This is Chuck Finney's simple way, there is no variety of objects, the body and mind are at ease; there is no desire to fill the dissatisfaction, and life is simple and abundant.
Psychologist Schwartz proposed a concept called the "paradox of choice":
Happiness means having freedom and choice, but more freedom and choice does not lead to greater happiness. Conversely, the more choices there are, the less happiness there will be.
In fact, everything around me is also a burden on the body.
Teenagers covet material abundance, but when people reach middle age, they must learn to subtract from life.
Abandon irrelevant things, live a focused life, and leave room for life.
Lin Yutang said that the ideal family life is to have a smiling wife and a few cute children who can run with him in the heavy rain.
Later, with the love of his life, he turned the ideal into reality.
Since his marriage, he has devoted almost all of his time to his family, except for writing.
Lin Yutang often made beautiful gadgets out of clay and candles as gifts for children. As soon as I have free time, I blow soap bubbles with the children.
When he was poor, he and his wife broke a penny in half and spent it. After a safe day, they enjoy life together.
The two will also have conflicts, but every time Lin Yutang will take the initiative to coax his wife to laugh.
On the day of the golden wedding, Lin Yutang specially cast a brooch of "Golden Jade Edge" and engraved the immortal poem "Old Lover" by Ms Whitkan Li Lai, dedicated to his wife.
After half a lifetime, you will find that the family is our most important career, and the degree of intention to run a good family determines the temperature of a family's life.
No amount of wealth is as good as family harmony, and no matter how great fame is not as good as family happiness.
Cao Dewang, the king of glass, once had an extramarital affair, so he wrote to his wife and proposed a divorce.
But the wife said to him, I know I don't deserve you, I know you will go away, if you do go, then leave the house and the three children for me.
Cao Dewang listened to his wife's reply and was silent for a long time.
He did not make a decision immediately, but specifically went to understand the married life of others, searched for various marriage samples, and finally understood a truth:
There is no absolutely happy family, and men must take on the responsibilities of the family and make the family happy and glorious.
He cut off the idea of divorce, put the family first, did not change his original intention for decades, and even wrote all his property in his wife's name.
Zhou Guoping once said that home is a small boat that will carry us through such a long time.
When I was young, I felt that the world was big and there was nowhere to go.
After reaching middle age, I suddenly understand that home is the only destination in this life.
Instead of running out, it is better to spend more time taking care of the family and raising a good baby.
The movie "The Shawshank Redemption" has an impressive plot.
The protagonist Andy is still refreshed after being imprisoned by the warden for two weeks after playing "Figaro's Wedding" in prison.
In the eyes of others to survive the days of solitude, Andy thinks that this is the most comfortable two weeks for him.
Andy explained to the inmates that because of Mozak,the music was in his heart, in his head, it was a natural sound, it was a treasure that could not be taken away.
As the Austrian poet Rilke said:
"When the soul loses the temple, the rain will drip on the heart."
To be born as a human being, we need not only the shelter of the flesh, but also the habitat of the soul.
Whether it is piano, chess, calligraphy, painting, or playing and singing, we should have the same interest to enrich our lives and enrich our hearts.
Mu Xin once posted a quote from Flaubert on his desk: "Art is so vast that it is enough to occupy a person." ”
For him, the human world is just a place to stay, and the vast spiritual world is his wandering place.
In the 1960s, Mu Xin was imprisoned in a dark and damp bomb shelter, eating sour steamed buns and moldy pickles every day. When the meal came up, before the chopsticks were moved, it was crawling with flies.
Fate was so difficult, but Mu Xin looked up at the starlight in the ditch.
On the paper where he wrote his confession, he secretly drew black keys and played them on a silent keyboard.
He wrote thousands of words of notes every night, with beautiful poems and profound philosophies, swimming in the vast world of words.
When Mu Xin was released from prison, everyone thought that he must be ragged and sloppy.
But in that snowy winter, the wooden heart waist board came out with great strength, smiling, very clean, very elegant.
Liang Wendao saw the photo of Mu Xin when he was in his fifties, and there was no trace of complaint or suffering on his face.
He was very surprised: "This place looks like a person who has been in prison, such a strange, strange person." ”
If the soul is deserted, life will be tacky.
People with rich hearts can live countless wonderful and countless postures.
Only by knowing how to nourish the soul can we not be assimilated by vulgarity and defeated by tribulations in these cookie-cutter days.
I have heard the saying that every piece of wood can become a Buddha, just remove the extra parts.
The same is true of life.
When people reach middle age, they delete complexity and simplicity, do not draw on materials, put their energy on valuable things, and live the life they want.
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Typography | Zheng to the north
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