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Many of us actually live without our own.
On the surface, we are running around day after day, and it seems that we are not idle, but are these things we do really what we want to do? If it is what you like, life can also be regarded as a sustenance;
If we are forced, if we have to compromise for the sake of making a living, then we will be like a working machine without thoughts and egos, and we will not feel any happiness.
Some people say that if you can earn money, you will be happy.
But if you think about it, does having money really mean everything? How many people earn more money and live more anxiously?
Thinking of the billionaire in the movie "Bucket List", who earned money that he could not spend in his lifetime, and sat down with the president to eat, he is undoubtedly a successful person in the eyes of the world.
But so what? He was suffering from cancer in his eighties and bluntly said that his life was not worth it.
Because he found himself with nothing but money, he became another poor man through and through.
He had been married four times and divorced four times, and every wife hated him, and his only daughter broke off contact with him. He lay in his hospital bed, feeling the passage of life, but he couldn't do anything. No one really cared about him, and his partners were waiting for him to take a breath and divide up his legacy.
You see, it's true that he has money, and it's also true that he's unhappy in life.
If you have reached middle age at this time, then I advise you that instead of desperately trying to earn money, you should have the ability to make yourself happy, which is the source of your blessing in the second half of your life.
One: Say goodbye to useless social and complex relationships and live a little simpler
When people reach middle age, stop indulging in useless socializing, those parties, dinners or activities, etc., what is the point of participating more? At this age, if you really achieve fame, naturally someone will come to get to know you. If you're average in every way, it doesn't matter how many people you know.
The essence of networking is equivalent exchange, you are not strong, and it is meaningless to know even the most powerful people. Because for others, you have no value in making friends, and they won't waste time on you.
Instead of indulging in useless socializing and wasting a lot of your time, you should focus on yourself, spend time with your family, and enjoy being alone.
Being able to be alone in middle age is a luxury, most of the time you are a father, a son, a husband, a worker, when did you ever become yourself?
Live a little simpler, those who work the scheming don't contact, then the unclear interpersonal relationship, should be broken.
Second: Adjust your mentality and know how to enrich your own heart
Good and bad mentality, living two completely different lives. Don't wait for old age, or a serious illness to know, know how to enrich your own heart, is the only way to live happily.
When Uncle Zhao was young before, his mentality was not very good, and he was too persistent in doing things. He often competes with a few small hairs in his hometown.
When he was a child, his family was very poor, Uncle Zhao's parents were often looked down upon, he was relatively short, and many people bullied him. Uncle Zhao secretly swore in his heart at that time that he would work hard when he grew up and make all the people who looked down on him regret it.
After starting to work, Uncle Zhao worked very hard, relying on his own efforts to build a small villa in his hometown, and he also bought a house and married a very virtuous wife.
His life has been very good, much better than the small hair that he grew up with when he was a child.
However, Uncle Zhao was still not satisfied, he could not control the desire in his heart, and he wanted more and more. Although it looks powerful on the surface, in fact, Uncle Zhao's heart is particularly fragile.
As soon as the company encountered a small problem, he began to be anxious and restless, and the quality of sleep was particularly poor. Later, the body also collapsed, fortunately the operation was successful, otherwise the consequences were unimaginable.
After experiencing this incident, Uncle Zhao really understood that only when a person knows how to enrich himself can his life be happy and smooth. He began to learn to let go, and he also looked down on many things, and the hurt and cold eyes he had suffered no longer recalled.
When you are over fifty, the most important thing is not how much wealth you have and how big a house you live in, but to have a good attitude, to make yourself comfortable and comfortable, as Goethe said: "The happiness of man lies in the happiness of the heart." ”
Only when your heart truly experiences happiness can you live your life as a beautiful one.
Three: Don't compare yourself to others, don't be nosy, and know how to focus on yourself
The world is its own, it has nothing to do with others.
This truth seems simple, and many people may have to go through half a lifetime to understand, because we care too much about what others think of us, too want to get ahead, and be looked up to.
But at the end of the day, you'll find that just as you care more about your own business, others don't have as much time to care about you. Losing yourself in order to win over others is not worth the loss, and it is not necessary.
We do not live to please any one person, nor to please any one. If so, that person can only be himself.
So don't compare yourself with people, don't be nosy, who is responsible for their own lives. We just need to focus on ourselves silently, and it is enough to live well.
When people reach middle age, please learn to enrich themselves, whether there is money or not is not important, what is important is to enrich their hearts. After all, material poverty can be compensated by hard work, and if the heart is poor, there is no longer the ability to perceive happiness.
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