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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Gao Naiyi has a very reasonable saying: "Once love is satisfied, the charm of others is gone." ”
In fact, any relationship can not be too full of love, but to stay in the room, let the other party continue to pay for you, so as to truly conquer his heart.
Women are even more so, wanting men to continue to be obsessed with you, not that you give for him wholeheartedly, but to make him feel that you are not satisfied enough and take the initiative to give you something.
Therefore, women can't be too kind to men, can't make him feel that you don't need anything, otherwise, you want him to love you, it may be a luxury that you can't get.
Men are like this, once they think that you are satisfied with your current life and do not need him anymore, he will gradually alienate you and be indifferent to you.
Women must reverse this change, turn passive into active, as long as you want something, you must take the initiative to take it.
Don't worry about men not giving, men who really love you will only feel that what you give is not enough, and they will not think that you want too much.
Therefore, women must understand that the prerequisites for conquering men are to take the initiative to ask for care, gratitude, and money.
First, ask men for care
In marriage, many men do not take the initiative to give women care, and even often ignore women.
At this time, you must take the initiative to ask him for care, can not let him ignore your existence, what ideas, you must say it in time, directly show your attitude.
If you tolerate everything and watch a man leave you, and you don't dare to express your opinion, he will be even more cold to you.
Women don't live so wronged, when he doesn't care about you, you may wish to show your attitude, be brave, and actively fight for your own rights.
In life, many men do not care about women, housework is not done, children do not care, back home is lying on the sofa to play mobile phones, this is definitely not OK.
Women don't let men live so comfortably, otherwise, even if you are tired and tired in this family, no one will care about you.
Therefore, when getting along with men, you must let him take the initiative to participate in family chores, only let him personally feel your difficulty, he will really care for and care for you.
There is a friend Xiaozhen is like this, she and her husband have been married for three years, and her husband has never done housework, let alone cared about her.
Every day, she has to be busy with a lot of housework, but also to pick up and drop off her children to and from school, work normally to earn money, come back to buy vegetables and cook, basically there is no rest time.
Once, she was sick and uncomfortable lying in bed, so she asked her husband to pour her a cup of hot water.
Unexpectedly, her husband actually counted her temperament, and went out to work after saying it, without taking into account her needs at all.
Although this matter is small, it allows Xiaozhen to see the true face of her husband from now on, and she no longer pays as hard as in the past.
Later, when her husband was sick and also let her pour a glass of water, Xiao Zhen counted her husband's arrogance in the same tone, and then went to work without turning her head back.
Since then, the husband has experienced the grievances of being ignored, and he has become enthusiastic about Xiaozhen and his feelings have become more harmonious.
Therefore, women must take the initiative to ask for care from men, can not be so obedient to him, and can not spoil them, only take the initiative to show your attitude, in order to let him really care about you.
Second, ask the man for gratitude
I've found that a lot of men don't know how to be grateful and get used to treating women as free babysitters once they're married.
In their eyes, it was as if women had come to serve them, and all the efforts of women should be taken for granted.
This kind of thinking really hurts women's hearts, marriage is husband and wife facing life together, creating happiness in life together, why should women serve men?
Therefore, in marriage, women must take the initiative to ask men for gratitude, and your efforts must be affirmed by him.
Otherwise, you have paid so much, but he has completely ignored it, does not care about you at all, what is the point of you being so tired?
If marriage turns a woman into a yellow-faced woman and loses her quality of life and dignity, is marriage really happiness for you?
Women must turn around in their thinking, not too passive, not blindly pay, all the things you do, let men see your value.
In today's marriages, most women are very tired, why?
It is not that they have a poor life, nor is it the betrayal of them by men, but that they have given everything for this family, and they have boiled themselves from a young and beautiful girl to a yellow-faced woman, and finally lost.
Men do not love them enough, ignore their efforts, do not have a trace of gratitude, and in the end they feel that women are not doing well, or even harsh.
Women have worked hard for so many years, thinking that they can get the happiness they want, and finally in the grinding of reality, they found that everything is just a delicate fantasy, and they lost badly.
Women can endure grievances, and they can also endure the hardships of getting up early and being greedy, but they can't tolerate men's neglect, and those women who are ignored by men are basically very unhappy.
Therefore, after a woman gets married, don't forget to ask the man for gratitude, your efforts, must let him identify, let him affirm your value.
Otherwise, your self-sacrifice in marriage will be exchanged for self-depreciation, there will be no happiness, and I hope that women will pay attention.
Third, ask the man for money
There is a saying in the countryside: "A daughter-in-law who is married to a white woman is not worth much." ”
This is very blunt, but also reflects a certain reality, often do not want anything women, after marriage is basically ignored.
If a woman does not let the man spend a certain cost, it is easy to walk into his home, it is likely that she will not be valued by the other party, and it is difficult to have status and dignity.
Human nature, sometimes it is like this, the more you think about others, the more others do not value you, but think you are very cheap.
Marriage is also like this, women think about everything for men, one does not want a caravan, two do not want a bride price, even buying a wedding ring is also that kind of bargain, wedding everything from Jane, do you think he will really thank you?
Basically not, men will only think that you are very cheap, bai married a beautiful daughter-in-law, and feel very cost-effective in his heart.
After marriage, his attitude towards you will only be ignored, it is difficult to give you dignity, and even make you feel wronged.
Therefore, women must take the initiative to ask men for money, and let him spend a certain amount of money on you, and he will pay attention to you.
From a psychological point of view, a man who pays a huge financial cost to a woman will not let go easily because he cannot afford to lose.
At this time, he will regard you as more important than anyone, will not let his money be spent in vain, and give you a high status.
On the contrary, if you don't let the man spend a penny, he will not take you to heart at all, because he did not pay the cost, even if he lost you, he will not feel pity.
Sometimes, women don't think too naïve about love, if you lower your self-worth, the final result may be that he picked up a beautiful daughter-in-law, and you lost your life, is it worth it?
The real desire to conquer men is not that you pay wholeheartedly, nor that you humble yourself to make yourself so cheap, but to take the initiative to make men pay a certain economic cost, so that he does not dare to lose you.
In this way, he will really care about you and cherish you, which is the reality.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love, if you don't let the other party see the most beautiful side of you, is the ugliest side; and marriage, but let the other party see the most real side of you." ”
For women, marriage is equivalent to a second life, we must be cautious, whether it is love or marriage, we must learn to take the initiative.
A woman's dignity, in addition to her own independence and ability, is more important from the identity of the other half.
Otherwise, no matter how good you behave, the man ignores everything about you, never sees your goodness, and you may not be happy.
Many times, we are not afraid of marriage, but a lack of confidence in men, when you are not ready to enter the marriage, you must make yourself valuable, do not reduce your own value.
Therefore, if a woman wants to live better after marriage, she may wish to ask the man to take the initiative to ask for these three things: care, gratitude, and money.
It's realistic, and women don't ignore it. Because, on the balance of marriage, when you pay at the same time, do not forget to ask for each other, the balance can maintain balance, but also have real happiness.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.