The American psychiatrist William Goeth Farber once said: "The most important thing in educating children is to treat children as equals to their own personalities and give them unlimited love." "Countless facts also show that parents care about their children in a condescending manner, but they will make children have a rebellious psychology." Only when parents change their posture and care for their children like friends can they make their children feel equal.
Xiaowen is a 3-year-old little girl, she is very willing to make friends with the aunt who lives next door, and she is willing to talk to her in her heart, because this aunt always squats when talking to her, as tall as she is, she feels respected by the other party, and the relationship between the two sides is equal. And when her parents talked to her, they were taller than her, both standing and sitting.
If parents talk to their children, if they are condescending, the child will have a sense of oppression and will not be willing to talk to their parents. The step of parents "squatting down" is very critical, because whether the child's idea is right or wrong, whether it is reasonable or not, only after understanding the child's true thoughts can the child be targeted to educate the child.
Once you learn to "crouch down" and listen to your child, when the child's voice passes on to your eardrums, you will be surprised to find that the child's voice is full of desire to communicate, full of childish wisdom; you will find that the child is the call of your soul. When you learn to listen, your child has the urge to speak, the courage to speak, and the joy of speaking, so you and your child become friends who can exchange thoughts and emotions at any time.