Nowadays, the leftover men and women are a phenomenon of the times, some are unable to find the right candidate, and some women are not in a hurry to get married even if they have a partner, for such a situation, men will delay women from getting married, defined as too high vision, too worldly, too recognized money. But what makes a woman hesitate in front of marriage and look left and right is not simply material, and there are many problems that are easy to be ignored by men.
And these three factors, I am afraid that the real cause of women's fear of marriage, so men you have to understand that women get a sense of security, naturally no longer resist marriage.
Fertility problems
Marriage for men is just one more pillow person, and a pair of chopsticks is added to the table when eating, but for women, having children is a responsibility that cannot be escaped, and it is also an unavoidable link.
Pregnancy in October, from the impact on physical and mental health, to the obstacles to career development, will cause unpredictable losses to women, making her pay a certain price.
How many women because of pregnancy affected the promotion and the development of their careers, and in the process of waiting for childbirth at home how much heartache helpless to carry themselves, after returning to the workplace, the lack of energy, physical weakness, are continuing to torture women, the workplace is to see the benefit, talk about efficiency, women after childbirth their own situation has become a fatal wound to their own development.
When one day their economic income is not as good as their husband's, or even for various reasons, they are at home full-time, but they are labeled as dependents, and it is difficult to have an equal voice and a respected position in the family. The harm that childbirth will bring to women is huge, physical, psychological and even substantial material security and development, but such sacrifices are not worthy of merit from the perspective of men, let alone sacrifices.
But all of this will be borne by the woman herself, so many women, facing the fear of marriage, childbirth is indeed one of the reasons why she is very worried.
Male thinking and social reality
Most men always think that in the marriage relationship, women are the most relaxed, regardless of whether they are married to love, whether they are pampered into princesses or not, but almost all can be easily relied on, unlike men, who need to take on the role of the pillar of support, make money to support the family every day.
In fact, this is the biggest problem, marriage is called "home" company, the two perform their respective duties, but women's contribution to the family is often implicit, and men's contribution to the family is very intuitive.
Countless people only see the salaries and family expenses of men who earn money to support their families, but ignore that women themselves replace a lot of labor that needs to be spent in the family "work" and make themselves free volunteers.
Housekeeping service fees for room cleaning, laundry and cooking, babysitting fees for picking up and dropping off children, if more detailed, there are also the induction and finishing fees of the organizers, including the counseling fees for children's education, piles and pieces added together, if according to the value created by women in society, how much will it be?
At this time, men may say that two people's homes, women do these things, is not all what should be, the key is that the word should be, is not it supposed for men to make money to support their families? Everything that women do repeatedly every day actually needs money in exchange, but once they are labeled as wives, they are considered "natural" and ignore their economic value.
To put it bluntly, all this a woman does, if she doesn't do it, needs to pay for someone. Men have men's sacrifices, women have women's sacrifices, everyone is really not easy, many women just want their sacrifices and efforts to be seen, may not want to achieve a certain purpose.
Therefore, for men's thinking and reality, women's efforts for the family are not recognized, which has become a very important reason for fear of marriage or even rejection of marriage.
The original ecological family is not happy
Girls who are unhappy in the original ecological family often have a very resistant psychology to marriage in their hearts, perhaps their father is more scummy, or they may ignore the family or foolish filial piety, a noisy or indifferent family atmosphere, will give women resistance to marriage. Simply put, I don't want to repeat the tragedy of my mother.
A child who grows up in a discordant family, it is difficult to believe in love 100%, want to let this type of female friend open her heart, need enough patience and sincerity, in order to slowly let her accept this person, but most of the time in the test process, men have long been because they can't afford to test, think there is no hope, or bored and quit halfway, which makes the tempted women more convinced of the untrustworthiness of human nature and continue to be single.