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The ancients said, "It is better to enjoy alone than to enjoy all." ”
Being a person, making yourself happy is the skill, making others happy is emotional intelligence.
In fact, the people around them are happy, and they will not only have a sense of accomplishment, but also be infected by such an atmosphere.
The higher a person's emotional intelligence, the more they will think from multiple angles and get rid of the narrow thinking pattern.
Making others happy can be described as a person's most advanced charm.
02
Make a wedding dress for others, and you will also have a sense of accomplishment.
Japanese screenwriter Kaoru Koyama once wrote such a story: near his office, there is a Siting bento shop, for various reasons, the business is getting worse and worse.
Kaoru Koyama took the initiative to communicate with the owner of Siting and tailored a new bento. The boss was very suspicious of the new bento, who would come to buy.
In fact, Kaoru Koyama had done research, and he and his colleagues liked this bento. Therefore, Si Ting's business has come back to life. The boss wanted to thank him, but he refused.
He said: "Planning services, that is, thinking about making others happy, getting happiness." ”
In life, many people need help, if you just look at it coldly, then your behavior will make people chill. Take the initiative to join others, let others get warmth, wealth, wisdom, etc., you will have a great sense of accomplishment.
Although, in doing so, it does not bring you benefits, but you gain good emotions because of this, which is more rare than benefits.
Give people roses, leave a lingering fragrance in your hands, that is to say, this truth.
03
Understand the voices of others, and you will meet true friends yourself.
The Tang Dynasty poet Bao Rong once said: "Mountains and rivers are not heavy enough, the emphasis is on meeting confidants." ”
Everyone wants to meet a confidant who envies such emotions as Zhong Ziqi and Yu Boya. An ordinary woodcutter can also make friends with high-ranking officials and can speak freely.
What is even more valuable is that after the death of Zhong Zi period, Yu Boya dropped his beloved piano to express his deep affection for his confidant.
In fact, many people overlook one point - the reason why Zhong Ziqi got Yu Boya's love was because he not only understood the piano tone, but also understood the voice of the heart.
When the two people first met, Zhong Ziqi said: "Others have hearts, and give them a heart." Adults stroke the piano, I just guessed, if not, please don't be surprised. Mei Ya Yang Yang, aiming at the mountain; Mei Ya Yu Yu Hu, aiming at flowing water..."
A rich and powerful person, with the ambition of the mountain, but also the feeling of flowing water, this is Yu Boya's true disposition.
Pondering other people's minds may seem boring, but it is actually a kind of emotion that others need. It's just that people now are used to thinking of themselves as protagonists, unwilling to think differently and compare hearts to hearts.
There is a saying that the human heart is made of flesh. Your words touch the warmth of others, then you yourself will also be particularly warm.
When you complain that there are no true friends in this world, then take the initiative to understand others and comfort others with sincere words. As long as you insist on doing this, it is not a strange thing to meet a confidant.
In an impetuous society, the phrase "I understand you" is precious.
04
Be a "stepping stone" for your children, and the family will prosper.
"Poor parents in the world", as parents, who do not want their children to have a job. If they could, parents would rather give everything they had to their children.
Even those who are very poor are willing to take out the money to buy coffin boards, so that their children can start a business and get rich, and go to the city to buy a house.
In the magazine "Northerner", there is a girl who writes about her father's life. His father, Lao Liang, was a cook, and after getting married and having children, he went to the United States to open a shop, so he missed the years of accompanying his children.
Later, the girl opened a tea shop, and Lao Liang closed his shop and became a helper for the tea shop.
One day, the girl saw the burned scar on her father's hand and knew that her father was worried about her stomach and was moved to the point of indescribable expression.
The writer Bing Xin said: "Father is silent, if you feel it, it is not fatherly love." ”
If a family wants to really stand up, it often takes generations of hard work. Ten thousand tall buildings rise from the ground, the stepping stones of the ancestors, and the juniors are tall buildings.
Therefore, parents with high emotional intelligence will pay in obscurity, regardless of whether their children know how to be grateful, he has no complaints. Loving and being loved are equally easy to be touched and will have different gains.
When the children are happy, the parents' hearts are at peace.
05
Learn to make your lover happy, and rely on each other to accompany each other to the whitehead.
Cartoonist Zhu Deyong once said: "There is no reason to get married, but you will understand many truths afterwards." ”
When in love, every day is romantic. After getting married, the romance faded, and there was only a life of chai rice oil and salt.
There are always some people who feel that life is too plain and start betraying their families or running away from them. Only those who insist on holding on can hold hands with their wives and whitehead together.
On the way to love, there are inevitably bumps and bumps. The key is whether it can be resolved in time and whether it has reversed the atmosphere at that time.
There is a proverb that says it best: "A woman on her back, a man with a bowed head." ”
The man bows his head, and the woman rises to his toes. The gesture of two people happens to be a kind of complementarity. Of course, doing the other way around also works.
Coax your lover to be happy, you will be wronged for a while, but you will be happy for a lifetime; and when you argue with your lover, you will be proud for a while, but you will sigh and sigh for a lifetime.
Even if the lover makes unreasonable trouble, what does it matter? Just like boiling dumplings in a teapot, whether they are cooked thoroughly or not, the dumplings will not fly away.
Husband and wife contradict each other, roar, and you will be fine. You take the initiative to coax each other, this is your pattern.
06
Life in the world, it seems to be a long time, but in fact, it is only a hundred years.
In a hundred years, it is really annoying to go through the workplace, family, marriage, study, make friends, make money, etc.
Take the initiative to create a harmonious and beautiful environment, you will have a feeling of living in a honeypot, and your soul will become rich and quiet.
Anyone who is angry will be angry, and it is rare that after getting angry, you can still laugh out.
It's easy to degrade people, it's hard to do is to pull people.
Learn to be a joyful person, the joy of the whole world will come to you.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.