Just get up in the morning, the child woke up, originally planned to wash up and then go to the child to get dressed, only to hear the child saying "I don't want dad, I want mom", it turned out that dad planned to help the child get dressed, but the child refused the father's contact.
I asked the child: Why not a father? The child said: Dad didn't behave well, Dad did bad things! I suddenly remembered that last night because the child was naughty, the father yelled at the child and was remembered by the child.
Life does not know whether everyone has such a feeling, after the mother loses her temper with the child, the child will cry and let the mother hold, and even except for the mother, others refuse to approach.
And after the father finishes yelling at the child, when the father goes to comfort the child, the child does not want the father, why is this?
Because the child has a natural dependence on the mother, especially the mother who can insist on breastfeeding, the child has 100% trust in the mother, when the mother is angry, no matter how angry the mother says, the child's first worry is whether the mother will not want herself?
At this time, the child's insecurity occupies the main psychology, so seeing the mother angry, crying and shouting also want the mother to hug!
Secondly, when the child cries, sometimes because the parents do not understand the child's situation, the child feels that he has been wronged and needs to seek the comfort of the mother and ask the mother to hug.
For example, when the child is unwell, the performance is very irritable, and it will become clingy and cry, at this time, if the parents use a little thought, they can find the child's abnormal condition.
When your child is crying and asking you to hold it, no matter how angry you are, remember to pick up your child.
The only thing in the world that does not need a qualification certificate is the "profession" of parents, and we can only learn and grow with our children and master more scientific methods of discipline our children in order to make the parent-child relationship more harmonious!