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The recent hit drama "Little Minjia" really made me sour.
Not because of how wonderful the plot is, but in the protagonist's "unmarried love" to see the shadow of his own life, a little helpless, a little sad, and even a little sweet?
Liu Xiaomin, played by Zhou Xun, met Chen Zhuo, played by Huang Lei, after experiencing the failure of her parents' arranged marriage and being misunderstood to bear the insult of adultery with her teacher.
Xiao Min has always wanted to find a man who makes himself admire, but he did not expect to be deeply attracted to Chen Zhuo, a man who jumped around all day, and even he couldn't understand why he chose him.
Their love has to be "underground love" because of their respective families and identity problems, love for a first anniversary, want to make an appointment and pretend to be an online car driver, sneak out in the middle of the night for a year, want to kiss and worry about the monitoring of the community.
Even so, Chen Zhuo still arranged various small surprises for her, there were flowers and champagne and "candlelight", and the simple few minutes were full of rituals.
Two middle-aged men and women are in love in a sneaky way.
In my opinion, this man who calls himself a straight man of science and engineering is not only not straight, but quite careful and romantic.
Talking about love that can't see the light, taking care of Xiao Min, who is extremely sensitive in his heart, he consciously stands back in everything.
But when he needs to stand up, he will do a good job of accompanying the role in time, and heal The painful and unable to extricate XiaoMin again and again.
Originally, I thought that he was a bit pitiful, but when he encountered anything, he could always face it with a positive and optimistic attitude, and this theory of temporary escape and timely happiness really poked us.
It turns out that the love of middle-aged people will also make people so heartwarming.
Probably such a man can warm Xiao Min's hurt and closed heart, just like she said, "I just think, I'm with you, it's quite dizzy, like drinking too much, it's very comfortable."
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Someone said: Such a plot is unrealistic, you are comfortable, what about your son?
It seems that in real life, as long as a woman has a child, whether married or divorced, she must circle around the child all the time.
It seems that all women who have given birth to children have to lose love, lose their own personality, and even dress themselves up to make themselves exquisite.
I once read a private message sent by a fan saying that after she gave birth to a child, as long as she put on makeup and dressed up to clean herself, her family would say to her, "How old do you know how to dress yourself, what is the use of looking good, and look good on the child." Even the neighbors said, "The child is so old, he still dresses like a fox spirit, he is not ashamed, he is still restless when he is married..."
But in fact?
She got married as soon as she graduated from college, got married and had children, and was out of touch before she stepped into this society.
She said on Weibo: "After giving birth, postpartum depression, husband is absent, in-laws are offside, the moon comes out of the late night insomnia anxiety, the sun comes out of the day and strives to heal itself, the cycle is repeated, can not be relieved, feel that divorce should be the easy home, want to divorce and love has nothing to do, just want to get out of family life, marriage is not the grave of love, marriage is the grave of women." ”
And then she healed herself in the comments, tearing herself up in despair and hope.
After all, she still had children to take care of, and there was so much time for herself.
That is, a girl in her 20s, maybe it is such a day, she wants to dress herself up beautifully, take a long breath, give herself a little confidence, let her life be a little spirited, and then face this chicken and dog life.
But even if it's just love beauty, then why can't it?
As Zhou Xun said: "What is so bad about loving beauty, I will be beautiful until I am old enough to die." ”
No matter how old you are, you can keep a girlish heart; no matter how old you are, you can expect to love and be loved.
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Adults always expect love, but they dare not love.
It's okay to fall in love, but it's not okay to get married. Divorced women are always labeled as such when they are in love again.
For example, when Chen Zhuo gave Xiao Min a gift, he tentatively knelt down, and Xiao Min quickly avoided it; for example, when her mother knew that Xiao Min was in love, she couldn't wait to see Chen Zhuo, suggesting that he could fall in love and don't think about getting married; for example, when Xiao Min asked if she wanted to get married, Chen Zhuo's hesitation...
Xiao Min never seemed to want to get married. But when she asked Chen Zhuo if he wanted to, there was a flash of light in her eyes, and she was lonely in an instant. The heart is clearly looking forward to, expecting affirmation but afraid of affirmation. All the love that you want and can't get in has become "not wanting to get married".
In reality, it is even more so.
A few days ago, my friend complained to me about the blind date arranged for her by her family, saying that she had long passed the age of wanting to get married and could not stand the repeated bombardment of the family.
After seeing it, people are also very down-to-earth and honest, the conditions are not bad, and they are the objects that the family is satisfied with.
But I didn't understand it for a few days and pulled it down, the reason is that there is no feeling of being in love, and it feels okay to be together. For this reason, there is no less discipline at home.
"Thirty or so people, even if there is love, love is talked about by a young girl in her twenties, and it is good if you still have someone now."
It seems that in the eyes of many people, they are not qualified to fall in love in their thirties.
But there are always people who don't recognize their fate, even if they say that they don't want to get married, it's just that they don't want to be indiscriminate.
How hard is it for middle-aged people to fall in love?
As Chen Zhuo said, "At our age, at this age, who is not scarred, who has not yet had some pain."
Parents, children, families, careers, in our twenties, we have not learned to take care of everything, and at the age of forty, we still can't.
You must know that these things are not perfect, let alone properly solved.
So why can't you love?
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I want to say that love can be talked about slowly, and it is never too late.
Xiao Min's greatest fortune was to meet a man like Chen Zhuo.
This man, who is no longer young and has a slightly blessed figure, can take care of her emotions, give her a sense of security, be ready for surprises at all times, and know how to listen and accompany.
There is no empathy in the world, but I can cry with you and dry your tears for you. Such love is not the hazy and reckless of adolescence, nor is it the choice of weighing the pros and cons in adulthood, but the stability and calm after experiencing the ups and downs of life.
Some people say that how to see whether a person loves you or not, you will know it when you have a fight.
After Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo quarreled, he was drunk and sang to Xiao Min incoherently. Gaffe in love, how cute such a boy is!
Because roses do not dare to take home, it is easy to reveal the filling. Romantic shelter from the rain and then send a bouquet of sunflowers, his love for Xiaomin is hidden in these details.
Who says that roses represent love, and that this sunflower is not fragrant?
"No matter who you are with, love will always love, seriously love, love to the end."
So, the lads who can't fall in love, do you see Huang Lei?
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