It is the fool who painstakingly retains the sunset; the one who mourns the spring light for a long time is the fool, and the person who does not want to give up anything often loses something more precious.
In fact, there are many things in life that can be put down, only when you can put it down can you afford to take it, try to simplify your life, you will find that those blocked scenery, is the most suitable life, do not be too persistent, and make yourself carry heavy baggage, more tolerance, more generosity, wave your hand, smile, life will be better.
It was my girlfriend who took the initiative to pestering me
3 years ago, Liu Qiang (pseudonym) in Zhengzhou ran a small fruit fishing shop, living upstairs is a young and beautiful girl selling clothes Zhu Li (pseudonym), one after another, the two found that they are Xuchang's hometown, so Hu Hometown to see fellow countrymen, the feelings of the two quickly warmed up into a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.
A flash of 3 years has passed, Zhu Li frankly said that the boyfriend is usually very good to himself, but since he became pregnant, the boyfriend has not asked himself, and he has played disappearing, blocking his phone and WeChat, he just wants to evade responsibility.
Speaking of this, Zhu Li cried bitterly, because she had suspended her work, she did not have any financial resources, she was hungry every day, or the kind lady of the hotel sent herself some noodles to eat, and people did not want money.
At this time, the lady owner of the hotel also confirmed Zhu Li's statement, anyway, this little girl sat in the shop and began to cry, the reason was that she was pregnant for several months and no one cared, which sent her some food to eat, can not be hungry children.
It is not difficult to see that Zhu Li does have worse difficulties, in fact, these days Zhu Li is also looking for her boyfriend Liu Qiang every day, which is not, kung fu pays off, and finally after seeing her boyfriend's electric car in a community, she sought the help of the mediator.
Speaking, under the leadership of Zhu Li to a certain community, she said that yesterday she squatted here until 11:30 p.m. to find out which room her boyfriend rented, to say that Zhu Li is also pitiful enough, originally pregnant, but also in this winter moon cold day running around looking for a boyfriend, how can people not be pitiful for her?
It's just surprising that no matter how to knock on the door of the rental house, there is no movement inside, obviously the electric car is still downstairs, is Liu Qiang not in the room? Later, after contacting the landlord through the community, Liu Qiang opened the door and bluntly said that he had just rested and did not hear a sound.
Whether these are excuses or not, fortunately, the door is indeed open, seeing her former boyfriend, Zhu Li quickly questioned, my side is so uncomfortable, what do you always run away to avoid, can running away solve the problem? You have to face it, solve the problem.
In the face of his girlfriend's questioning, Liu Qiang did not answer directly, seeing the boyfriend with an indifferent attitude, Zhu Li was emotional and crying again, every day I was hungry, or the sister downstairs sent some noodles to eat every day, do you know? And every day I can't sleep, you know? You just walked away?
Speaking of Liu Qiang is indeed quite irresponsible, since the girlfriend is pregnant, whether it is or not, it is also necessary to give people a statement of right, so what kind of thing is it to hide. However, when it comes to this stubble, Liu Qiang is also holding his stomach to say something.
Liu Qiang admitted that he and his girlfriend Zhu Li broke up as early as two years ago, it was Zhu Li who had been pestering herself, and even threatened herself with her life, when she and Zhu Li met, she was indeed running for the purpose of marriage, and we also took Zhu Li home to see her parents.
But marriage always have to understand the families of both sides, some relatives know the people in Zhuli village, and then hear some negative news about Zhuli, in short, the reputation is not very good, saying that she has been married and had children, so the parents and relatives in the family are unwilling, and they have separated their hands with Zhu Li.
This remark is also a bit surprising, is it difficult for Zhu Li to deliberately hide the past from Liu Qiang before this? At the moment, Zhu Li explained that she had never been married or had never had children, which was all rumors from the villagers.
Liu Qiang also took over the conversation, he also thought that this was a rumor, but after all, this matter had a bad impression on the family, parents and relatives did not agree with this marriage, and the marriage that could not be blessed was still what to do, marriage is a matter of two families, not a matter of two people.
Logically speaking, There is nothing wrong with Liu Qiang's words, this marriage is not a matter of two families, but since you also think that this is a rumor in the village, and you also believe in your girlfriend, you should not firmly stand on the side of your girlfriend, and figure out the ins and outs of the rumors well, if it is false, then try to convince your parents that you have the right to decide.
Just because of a few rumors, just because of the reluctance of parents, and then gave up this relationship, this is not a mother treasure man, or has long been out of love in making excuses for themselves.
After listening to the mediator's words, Liu Qiang was silent, but what made people wonder was that since they had broken up two years ago, how did Zhu Li become pregnant with Liu Qiang's child at this time?
At this time, Liu Qiang quickly explained that he had never taken the initiative, he was with Zhu Li as an ordinary friend, and it was Zhu Li who had to pestering himself.
As soon as this sentence came out, it instantly angered everyone present, and the aunts and uncles at the door rebuked Liu Qiang, you as a man have to bear your own responsibility, let people run away when they are pregnant, is this something that a man can do? You have never taken the initiative, how the family conceived the child, really convinced you, this can be said.
Seeing the indignation of the crowd, Liu Qiang was so frightened that he quickly admitted his mistakes, bluntly saying that most of the mistakes were in himself, and also recognized the views of his uncles and aunts, he was indeed a little irresponsible, and some were not responsible.
After a period of agitation, the room returned to calm, Liu Qiang also told what happened after he and Zhu Li separated, it turned out that after he and Zhu Li broke up, Zhu Li said here, suddenly left if she could not bear it, she could maintain it like a friend for a while, and then left after the feelings slowly faded.
But the two until now, never really separated, Liu Qiang admitted that the cold measures he took is to treat Zhu Li as an ordinary friend, thinking of slowly changing from a lover relationship to a friend relationship, but no matter where he lives, Zhu Li will always take the initiative to find himself.
On this point, Zhu Li is also recognized, she admitted that she did say that she should slowly dilute the relationship, but not that she has been taking the initiative to find Liu Qiang, sometimes she is off work, Liu Qiang will call to say where, how has not come, sometimes Liu Qiang will call herself to eat, slowly the relationship will be good again.
I have to say that if you break up, you still have to cut the mess quickly, and if you break the silk connection, won't you let yourself lose more? But then again, since Liu Qiang wants to break up, but after pregnancy, he can directly deal with the breakup, why do you have to solve the problem by escaping?
At this time, Liu Qiang also said that at that time, he also gave Zhu Li a lot of care, and took her to the hospital, but Zhu Li said that at that time, he did not know whether Liu Qiang took himself to the hospital for obstetric examination or abortion surgery, and later Liu Qiang went home to discuss with his mother, and he understood that he meant to be separated.
Then I wanted to have a good discussion with Liu Qiang, but Liu Qiang began to evade all the time, and slowly came to this embarrassing situation, when Zhu Li was emotional again, she roared angrily at Liu Qiang, at the beginning when you were with me, you said that you didn't care if I was older than you, said that I didn't care about me this and that, now that so many things have happened, you began to say that you hate me for being older than you, and you hate me for this and that.
Liu Qiang also retorted to Zhu Li, I never said that I did not dislike your age, and now that we have come to this point, it is impossible, I don't love you, I have long told you that we are not suitable, my mother also feels that you are not suitable, so I am not going to talk to you again.
Seeing the boyfriend expressed his attitude, Zhu Li was a little choked, she bluntly said that she could not let go of her boyfriend, felt that leaving her boyfriend was like not being able to live, especially uncomfortable and painful, she gave all her heart to her boyfriend, mainly since she was a child, she had no parents, and she felt a little warm inside her heart.
When I met my boyfriend at that time, he was good to himself, and he also said to his face, you are better to me than my father is to me, I also gave him a whole heart to him, and then he said that we are not suitable, his mother also said that it is not appropriate, but he has always been very good to me, as soon as he is good to me, I am soft again.
Originally, Zhu Li's mother died when she was 6 years old, her father also died two years ago, there was no care of relatives, Zhu Li's incomparable desire to have a warmth, after meeting Liu Qiang, Liu Qiang's gentle and considerate care for 3 years made her think that she had finally found happiness, but the fact was that she fell into the abyss again.
In fact, Zhu Li's mood we can understand, but not because of the lack of love, as long as the other party gives you a little sunshine you are brilliant, if the other party withdraws love, they will not be hurt, in the end, people still have to have their own independent thoughts, do not give all the love to others, or leave a little to themselves, learn to love themselves, protect themselves.
Since people don't love, then we must learn to let go, otherwise insist on it, this love is deformed, and finally under the persuasion of everyone, Zhu Li also made a decision, the boyfriend is so ruthless and unjust, she does not want to continue, only hope that the boyfriend can give her some nutrition fees, go to the hospital to deal with the child, her requirements are only so simple.
After Liu Qiang heard his girlfriend's appeal, he said that he was willing to assume all responsibilities, would be responsible to the end, and completely solved this matter.
In the end, the two also said goodbye to each other, but it is not difficult to see that Zhu Li is still very sad, because her tears can't help but flow down, see the situation, Liu Qiang also comforted Zhu Li, since you chose to separate, you don't have to be sad, I hope that in the future, each of them can find the best home.
Speaking, Liu Qiang also picked up a tissue to dry the tears for Zhu Li, and Zhu Li also blessed Liu Qiang, once you were so good to me, I hope you will be fine in the future, once we were very happy, you rode an electric car with me here to play, there around, really very happy.
Speaking of emotional places, Liu Qiang can't help but shed tears, it is not difficult to see that there is still love between the two, if Liu Qiang can have some opinions, maybe the two have already entered the palace of marriage, maybe a few years later, looking back, Liu Qiang will also regret tears again, after all, can find a woman who loves herself with a dead heart, it is quite not easy, some love is only once, missing is a lifetime.
In this way, the two ended this relationship that should have ended in three years in crying and crying, as to whether they will eat back grass in the future, it depends on whether Zhu Li has grown up or not, in fact, many things can really be put down, when you walk out of this wall, you will find out how naïve your previous self is.
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