What kind of performance does it take to love someone?
In the eyes of many people, love will be regarded as each other's you and me.
Once you meet the fate, you can't wait to stick to each other every day, thinking that in this way, you can achieve the four words of "accompanying long-term love" in the passage of time, in order to keep the love you want.
In fact, true love is not like this.
Love cuts, but seeks far.
Lucky and long-term fate is never emotional, but the two sides stand on a certain overall situation and strive to manage each other's love. In this way, the fate can pass the test of time smoothly.
Otherwise, even if they love each other deeply, if they get along in the wrong way, they will usher in a day of breaking up in contradictions.
True love, need companionship.
But that doesn't mean we let go of everything and spend time with our loved ones.
After all, in addition to love, everyone has to face life.
A good relationship not only has a romantic and beautiful atmosphere, but also based on reality. Only in this way can two people who love each other live a rich life while loving each other.
Meet each other and become a better version of yourself.
Instead of being entangled, leaving one breathless and unable to take care of many realistic things.
In addition, two parties with different personalities will also usher in differences and contradictions in getting along day and night.
How to resolve these embarrassments is a test of the wisdom of both lovers, sometimes appropriate to have a "sense of distance", but let each other have the opportunity to self-reflect and improve, so as to correct the mentality and manage the feelings in front of them.
This means that couples get along, there will be sweetness and snubbing. But some snubbing does not mean that you do not love, but because of deep love, so each other, you need to reflect and precipitate, and finally use a better mentality to deal with each other's small problems.
From the perspective of the sexes, there are differences in the thinking of men and women.
If it is said that after encountering love, women are prone to become emotional, then even if the heart is moved, men will remain rational enough. Because they know what their needs are, they will also maintain a rational attitude and grasp the happiness of the rest of their lives.
Even in the beginning, women will do some emotional acts.
And when love ushers in a period of flatness, they will gradually calm down. From this time on, women will also have a new understanding of feelings, and will also use their wisdom to manage each other's fate and make love move in the direction of happiness.
This means that women will also think and precipitate.
This process, which seems to be a snubbed move, is actually a necessity for emotional sublimation. Both sides need to calmly examine the problem and manage love rationally in order to escort the fate.
For example, when doing something wrong, couples will point out each other harshly, which seems inhumane. In the relationship between the two parties, the other party does not stick to your habits, when two people encounter differences, the other person will choose silence.
There is a kind of "snub", but it is actually about caring about you, don't be mistaken.
Errors are directly indicated.
Love needs to grow.
Where fate begins, what each side sees is the merit of the other.
Therefore, two people are easy to form an attraction, and each other's fate will continue to get the opportunity to sublimate.
But no one is perfect, and with the passage of time, the two couples will eventually see that in addition to the advantages of the loved one, there will be some small flaws.
At this time, how to make the other party change it, so as to complete love?
In fact, many people, at the beginning, did not master the skills of love, when they found that the other party had shortcomings, they would also point it out in person, which seemed impersonal, and even made the other party misunderstand, and they were snubbed.
In fact, the reason why these people point out the mistakes of their lovers is that they hope that the other party can take the opportunity to grow, and it is an act of judging things on the facts, not to blame the other party. If a person misunderstands, it is easy to affect each other's feelings.
No sticky habits.
Everyone has different attitudes towards love.
But it is undeniable that because we love someone deeply, we can't help but approach.
Especially when the two parties have established a relationship, many people will hope that the two people can stick together. No matter what you do, only the two parties are together, which is the happiest state.
In fact, a truly long-lasting relationship requires "distance".
Especially for men, their habits of thinking determine the time they need to be alone. When encountering problems, men are accustomed to thinking alone, and when they want to improve, they also need space to be alone.
Of course, a love or marriage is inseparable from the responsibility of men.
If men want to improve themselves and strive to win more wage returns, they have to have the opportunity to be alone. If the other party, therefore let the lover be snubbed, it is not a change of heart.
But it is because of caring, hoping for a long time, that men will make such a snubbed move.
Silence when confronted with an argument.
Between couples, there will be differences.
When the estrangement between the two sides increases and they are both angry, what will be the result if they argue endlessly?
In fact, everyone knows that each other is prone to doing irrational things.
In the end, it hurts the feelings of two people, and it is still possible to make the people who love each other become a pair of enemies.
People who truly love you will choose to tolerate and understand you in disagreements. Sometimes, their temporary silence may make you feel left out in the cold, but in fact, it is not that they do not care about you.
It is precisely because you love you too much that that person will wronged himself.
Because he knows that being affected by emotions and the result of everyone arguing is not the best way to solve the problem. So, even if that person makes sense, he will choose silence.
But you have to know that this kind of snub is actually a manifestation of loving you.
Before couples meet, there are different encounters.
Even if they fall in love, the two sides are still independent individuals, and everyone has their own thinking habits and life habits. In order to achieve love, two people need to face a long run-in process.
This process is an opportunity for both sides to further understand.
Of course, when running in, two people will have misunderstandings and there will be relief. Each other's feelings will also usher in opportunities to sublimate again and again; if the misunderstanding between the two sides deepens, it will also usher in the possibility of parting ways.
This means that both couples must understand each other's habits in order to change misunderstanding into emotion. For example, sometimes his snub does not mean that he does not love you, it is precisely because of deep love that that person will make seemingly snubbed behavior after careful consideration.
So, his affection, can you understand?
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.