The family is neat and orderly, and it is estimated that it is ideal for every mother. But since having a baby, toys are thrown everywhere, and the room that has just been cleaned is instantly messed up, and it is estimated that it is the norm for families with babies. After all, children have an instinctive impulse to chaotic scenes.
So many parents sighed: the most difficult thing to store in the home is not the kitchen, but the child's toys. The disaster scene that makes our parents collapse often makes us explode in situ, so that everyone defaults to having a baby means messy, can it really only live before liberation after having a baby?
Ms. Montessori, a famous educator, said in the book that in fact, children are born with a sense of order, and a sense of order is the need for children's growth. Parents should provide a prepared environment for their children to move autonomously, so as to develop their children's independence and spiritual world.
Therefore, there is no sloppy nature of children, only parents who do not know how to organize, only parents know how to organize, the child's sense of order will naturally be fully developed, so as to develop a clean and tidy habits and a good sense of order.
So, what can parents do to help their children develop good living habits?
1. Give children a prepared environment
In the education community, it is generally believed that the kindergarten teacher is the child's first teacher, the peer is the second teacher, and the environment is the child's third teacher.
A clean and orderly environment will make children clean and tidy, and develop good habits of being organized and well-behaved. The disorderly and chaotic environment will distract children and destroy children's concentration; and when we play with children, the harshness and management of the environment will affect the child's internal drive and autonomy.
Dabao Yaoyao was particularly fond of graffiti when she was two years old, and in order to meet her painting needs, I specially bought a lot of brushes, crayons, colored pencils, and pigments... But because I didn't understand children at the time, when she made the paint all over the floor, I reprimanded her and told her not to doodle casually. Gradually, she didn't like to draw, and even though I repeatedly invited her to paint with her, she made excuses to run away.
In fact, it is not that she does not like to paint, but that I have not prepared an environment for her, thus destroying her internal drive, making her fear of painting, and thus unwilling to paint.
If I had taken into account the child's active and age characteristics in advance, given her a prepared environment, let her wear protective clothing, and prepared a large paper for painting to doodle on it, there would be no chaotic scene of clothes and paint on the floor.
Ms. Montessori said: "There is a prepared environment so that children in the embryonic state of the spirit can grow up smoothly, and it is the responsibility of parents to prepare the environment of spiritual food such as order and wisdom." “
That's why we see an orderly environment and teaching aids in a Montessori classroom. Montessori's teaching aids and environments follow the laws of children's mental development, so that they can choose their own work independently, so that they can concentrate on exploring and developing their own abilities.
Therefore, we can use the concept of Montessori education to prepare an orderly, clean and regular environment for children to prevent unexpected accidents when playing, causing chaos and disputes.
2, clever use of storage boxes, to give toys a home
Many times it is not that children do not sort out the categories, but that they do not have the concept of tidying up. We can use the storage box cleverly to make a home for the child's toys and let the child help the toys to be sent home. It can not only help children learn to sort and organize, but also cultivate children's empathy.
Here, it is recommended that parents learn rainbow mother's "three-layer storage method" and make the storage box a good helper for children to pack up their toys.
The first level: the toy in front of the child's eyes.
We can put the toys we want to play with at the moment on the mat of play, the fewer toys the better, preferably one, so as to help children focus on the toys in hand, develop creativity and imagination.
The second level: where children can get it
Place an open storage box where the child can get it, put four or five toys that the child likes, so that the child can reach it by himself, choose the toys he wants to play, and give them a sense of choice and control.
The third level: the remaining toys
These toys are not directly obtained by children or placed in closed storage boxes, making it more difficult for children to get, thereby protecting children's concentration and avoiding distracting children's attention because of too many toys.
Note: It is best that the storage box is transparent, with photos and labels on the outside, making it easier for us and our children to find.
When the child plays with the toy, we can tell the child to send the toy home, otherwise they will be sad to miss their parents. When the child is one or two years old, we demonstrate sending toys home; when the child is two or three years old, we can take the child to do it together and consciously guide it; when the child is four or five years old, we can make rules with the child, and if the toy cannot be sent home, the toy will go out for a week.
3. Organize the gamification, and turn the storage and organization into a fun game
It is the nature of every child to love to play, but boring storage and tidying will only consume the interest of young children. In the face of a bunch of chaotic toys, don't say children, that is, we adults will feel tired, naturally will exceed the child's ability, let them be afraid to give up tidying up.
What we parents have to do is not to be angry and blame the child for not tidying up, but to guide the child step by step, sorting out to be specific and requiring moderation. And the game will not only make tidying up a fun thing, attract children's attention, but also help children develop the habit of sorting and sorting.
For example, after Dabao and I read the picture book, I would tell her: "The little rabbit is tired, you send it home to let it rest." Sometimes, when Yaoyao was not in a beautiful mood and did not want to tidy up, I took the storage box, transformed into a robot, and said in an exaggerated tone: "I am so hungry, who will feed me some food, my favorite magic wand on the mat..."
Yaoyao played with me upside down, and the toy naturally returned to its place. Sometimes, we can compete with children, each responsible for the homecoming of a type of toy, and the winner can fulfill a wish to make tidying up a fun thing, rather than a burden and fear.
Write at the end
When children see a good and orderly life, they will naturally stimulate their desire to organize and order. Every child is born with a sense of order, and if we do not give the child a prepared environment, it will destroy the child's sense of order.
Good tidying up habits not only helps to cultivate children's sense of order and rule awareness, but also the cultivation of self-management and logical thinking ability, helping children develop orderly living habits and improving their efficiency in doing things.
Therefore, if we want the family to be clean and new, the most important thing is that our parents should give our children a prepared environment, use the storage box skillfully, send the toys home, and let the children develop good habits in the game.