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Two days ago, Zhang Yixing's studio released a positive reply about Xu Fengli's slander and rumor-mongering Zhang Yixing's concubine.
The studio said it hoped that the other party would release relevant evidence the next morning, otherwise it would be sued to the end and the other party would be held responsible.
Even Xu Fengli's former partners stood on the side of Zhang Yixing's studio, criticizing this person for liking to rub heat and pull people into the water.
In the end, this person apologized, but did not delete the original denigration weibo, and it is clear that he did not really admit his mistake.
1. Rumors have a thousand decibels
At the beginning, when Zhang Jie was on the hot search because of his love, Tang Tian wrote him a song called "Rumors Have a Thousand Decibels".
The song says: "The rumor has a thousand decibels, it is deafening and destroys all happiness." Boom, I'm so tired. Just trying to be simple, it's all sinful. “
In fact, many times, people don't care what the so-called truth is. The media, on the other hand, are also accustomed to following hot spots and creating topics, just to get higher clicks.
And what happens when something doesn't have the clicks and attention people expect? That can only be fabricated content, as long as it can attract attention, everyone can be said to do everything.
But who was really hurt in the end? is the party. It was the man who had done nothing wrong himself, but had been pushed to the forefront of the storm and his family.
Of course, we will hear someone apologize, and someone in turn scolds the person who made the rumor, but not all mistakes can be solved by apologizing.
Just like in the original movie "Sorrow Against the River", Yi Yao said when facing all his classmates:
"You haven't killed anyone, you'll never admit how vicious what you've done is, and you're the same for what you haven't done!" None of them are good people! “
2. You can't be silent all the time
Someone will always tell you, "Man must learn to be patient." Some things, endure the calm of the wind and waves for a while, take a step back from the sea and the sky. “
But what if you're dealing with verbal violence and physical harm? Your patience will only be seen as a weakness, evidence that you dare not resist.
I once heard the saying: "Everyone is staring at me, I hate to death." So, I viciously sewed mirrors all over my body. “
In other words, in fact, the so-called unbearable that people sometimes see is only through the so-called things of others, amplifying the dark side of their own hearts.
They don't really think they're wrong in hindsight because, from start to finish, they don't think you're a mirror and just treat you as a topic.
We sing the praises of everyone who treats the world with gentleness, but it does not mean that gentleness is weakness, and gentleness is also a thorn, which is self-protection.
You can't expect all the people you meet to be good people, so you have to have your own weapons, even if it's just a needle, to sew the mouth of the person who hurts you.
3. Time does not calm everything down
In a book about traumatic stress syndrome that I have read, there is a story that once a very positive person has now become insane.
He used to really love life, he smiled at every neighbor, would do good things that others couldn't see in their eyes, and would help all those in need.
But what did he get? It is endless harm, it is slander that cannot be suspended, it is jealousy, entrapment and blindness that do not know why.
Until he had a major accident, his whole life was ruined by these. He went crazy, and everyone expressed regret and regret for him.
In fact, they never cared what this person's life would become, they just suddenly found that they had one less free helper.
You see, no one will remember your help for no reason, they will just take it for granted, and after losing you, their lives will continue as usual.
And you? After paying so much, what do you get? A devastated and broken self, is this really what you want?
4. You have to protect yourself
We do not encourage any harm or verbal violence, nor do we recommend criticizing something without understanding the full picture.
The four words 'fearful words' are sometimes a knife, and how painful it really is, only when it is pierced into oneself will you understand.
Hopefully this day will never come, and hopefully, you will use the same hope to everyone you know or don't know.
Protect yourself well, with reasonable means, it's not hurt, you have such a right.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.