Parents often lament: leave homework aside, motherly kindness and filial piety; when writing homework, chickens fly and dogs jump. Is it the child's learning ability is not good, there is too much homework, or there is no good learning behavior to develop good learning habits?
Parents of elementary school students have a deep understanding that if the child plays games and Lego, he can sit for several hours in a row and can be motionless.
But every time you write your homework, as long as you arrive in 3 minutes, you must get up to drink water, and after 5 minutes, you have to go to the bathroom. The amount of work is not much, obviously expected to be completed in 15 minutes, but it is hard to make chickens and dogs jump for several hours.
Xiao Min's daughter was in the second grade of primary school, and when she first started the first grade, she was still obedient and honest, so that she could write her homework seriously and insist on 20 minutes at a time.
This is just the second grade, every time my daughter writes homework, she is always extremely reluctant, and her ass is not hot, so she gets up to drink water for a while, looks for something, and goes to the toilet for a while.
Xiao Min was so angry that the Hedong lion roared, she calmed down and sugar-coated and reasoned, excited and suppressed with sticks, but still could not change her daughter's old trick repeated. She has tried many methods and consulted many high-ranking people. But no matter how useful the exclusive cheats of others are, she can't manage it for a few seconds when she brings them to the house.
How to break this nerve-wracking innings? One day, Xiao Min suddenly opened her mind and had a sudden inspiration, and came up with a trick that had never been done before: she took out 30 eggs and placed a "gossip array" behind her daughter's chair.
This trick really worked, not only the eggs remained intact, but the child sat at the desk to write homework, and would never get up to drink water or go to the bathroom again.
Nowadays, the child's learning really makes parents break their hearts. In order to provide children with high-quality educational resources, some families use the economic strength of three generations of grandchildren to buy the best school district houses; in order for their children to get a beautiful score, some parents save money from rations to make up lessons for their children.
However, in the eyes of some children, in the eyes of their parents, they cannot understand their parents' sufferings, and they are naturally blessed in the blessings. It feels like children don't read for themselves, but only for their parents.
Why is this happening? Have parents ever wondered if their expectations of their children are too high, whether they regard reading as the only way out for their children's growth, and pay too much attention to their children's learning?
Why doesn't your child write homework or procrastinate? Many parents only pay attention to their children's slow homework behavior, so they often become emotionally unstable, impatient, anxious, and even unable to hold themselves, scolding, and even using force when their emotions are out of control.
We all know that thinking determines behavior, behavior determines the result, if you want children to take the initiative and learn efficiently, the focus of parents is not on the child's behavior, but on a higher level to help children form corresponding abilities.
That is to say, the child's homework is grinding and dragging, and parents should jump out of this performance and see where the child's ability is. Closely related to the ability to learn, there are no more than self-discipline, concentration, interest and other core abilities. Today we will only talk about self-discipline, focus, and interest:
self-discipline
Self-discipline is one of the most important qualities of a person, and often successful people are self-disciplined people, that is, the more self-disciplined, the easier it is to succeed.
Children have to drink water, go to the toilet or something as soon as they write homework, if they can first rule out physical reasons, then it is basically related to self-discipline.
All the behavior of urging and scolding children can only solve the current homework problems, and the formation of children's abilities will not only have no effect, but will have a contrary effect.
When the child reaches adolescence and has a strong sense of self and autonomy, these simple and crude methods do not work at all, and even aggravate the child's rebellion.
There are many ways for children to form self-discipline, and here is only a few points. In view of the fact that children write homework and move around frequently, we can agree with the child to break the homework into several parts, set the time to complete each part, and if the child achieves it, encourage, affirm, or give a little reward in time.
Everyone has a sense of belonging, a sense of achievement needs, why the game can attract people, is because according to people's psychological needs, each level of promotion has a corresponding honor.
When parents guide their children to use homework as a game and find the joy of learning in it, then the child will consciously write homework. Good behavior has become a habit for a period of time, and the child's self-discipline ability is slowly formed in this way.
Focus
Concentration is the ability to apply the energy of your body and mind to the same problem without getting bored.
If the child's concentration is good and he is very interested in learning, then it is not difficult to write homework, and he will not take advantage of the excuse to walk away and kill time.
How do you develop your child's concentration? The sooner any ability is formed, the easier it is to start. The younger the child, the more a blank sheet of paper, the sooner parents draw a color map, the easier it is to start. When the child's cognition is more and more abundant, parents can only follow the trend to guide, can not force pressure, or deprive the child of the opportunity to make mistakes.
In addition to listening to stories to children from an early age, or reading books can cultivate concentration, other things can also be cultivated. For example, when children are concentrating on playing with toys, parents try not to disturb them.
Some parents see that their children are very focused on doing one thing, and they always keep asking their children whether they want to eat for a while, and asking their children whether they want to drink water for a while, which can easily destroy their children's concentration.
For children in the lower grades, you can agree with the child that each homework is completed in accordance with the prescribed time, if it is completed on time and all is correct, it must be affirmed and encouraged in time, and what rewards are appropriately given.
We often see children watching cartoons and playing games, very focused and engaged, and that's because of the interest. As long as the child has a strong interest in learning, I believe that writing homework does not need parents to urge them.
Therefore, if you want your child to fall in love with learning, it is the key for parents to guide their children to become interested. Maybe giving your child an affirmation and encouragement is a good start. All in all, whether a child completes his homework on time and falls in love with learning is still in the hands of his parents.