Suzen once said:
It is better to be lonely than to go against your heart; it is better to regret than to be satisfied. Whoever can enter my heart, I am a king. Those who do not enter my heart are disdainful of perfunctory.
In a woman's life, some people live soberly, and some people live confused.
And for men, some women are trapped by love, lose themselves, fall into feelings and can't extricate themselves, and become the other party's PUA object.
Some women, although caught in love, but stay awake, whether you love her or not, she can accurately distinguish, and can respond to her original intention.
The man loves her, she will reciprocate his love, and if the man does not love her, she will not pester, turn away.
A woman, if you take the initiative to black out, nothing more than the following three reasons, as a man, you, don't know!
01: Enough disappointment wants to leave you
There is a saying:
Leaves don't turn yellow all at once, and people don't get old all at once.
Feelings, it is not all at once said that there is nothing.
All the departures were due to the disappointment that they had saved enough to have left.
A woman who originally loved you very much and cared about you very much, if one day, take the initiative to blacken you, the high probability is not that she does not love, but that she is too disappointed in you.
I once read such a content, there is a paragraph in it, and I was deeply impressed:
Many women, when they love, are passionate and passionate, and when they leave, they are also determined.
The man she had loved so much, from one day on, had not cared so much for her, had become less attentive to her, and she had clearly felt it, she was in pain, she was sad, and she had tried to keep it.
However, whether a person loves her or not, she is the most clear, after all, she is still desperate, knowing that the man who once loved her very much, after all, can not come back, so, no longer deceive himself, in a fit of anger directly black.
Since then, there has been no longer that person in his friend's record, subjectively, so determined to let him disappear from his own world.
Forcing yourself not to see him, not to see any news from him, forcing yourself to stop thinking about him, and forgetting him completely from then on.
Then, quietly walk your own path and live your own life, although it is very painful, but it is the best choice.
Because she knows that the person she once loved deeply can't be a lover, then there is no need to be a friend.
Because you can't be a friend, it is better to become a familiar stranger from now on.
02: There is no reason to let go of you
Read a sentence:
Not all flowers can bear fruit, and not all love can eventually become a family.
In this world, there are too many people, there are no fates, they meet not too early is too late, although they love each other, but for various practical reasons, they cannot come together, and they can only leave regretfully.
Then, there is no other choice but to choose to let go.
After watching a TV series, Wang Chun, a college student who graduated from a famous university, went to a certain unit for internship and fell in love with her zhong rui.
The two of them, one youthful and enthusiastic, one introverted and excellent, love is in full swing.
The work is also perfectly coordinated, the two people complement each other perfectly, and their respective work is very good.
However, Zhong Rui is a man with a family, and his wife Xiaoxue has to go to work alone with children, which is very hard.
Wang Chun is a down-to-earth "third person", even if love is not wrong, it is still not tolerated by the world and spurned.
In the end, for the sake of Zhong Rui's reputation, Wang Chun chose to go abroad. Zhong Rui knew that he was extremely painful, but he could only do so.
It is not that there is no love, but that there is no reason and no parting, and can only be separated.
In the world, there is love, from the moment it is produced, it knows that there will be no results, and it knows that it may be scaled all over the body, however, many people still can't help it. Because thrilling love can not be sought.
There is nothing wrong with love, what is wrong is to meet the beloved person at the wrong time, and love becomes the original sin of everything.
You can only give up, you can only put down, you can only leave.
03: Touched the bottom limit and decided to give up on you
The philosopher Voltaire once said:
What really tired me was not the long journey, but a grain of sand in my shoes.
Many times, the success or failure of a thing is often not lost in ability, but in details; many times, disappointed in a person, and broken with a person, not because of a big thing, but because of some small details, or even a sentence.
Because language is also violent, sometimes, a sentence is enough to kill a person, kill a relationship.
I watched a mediation show.
The male guest complained that the female guest's heart was too small, because she broke up with herself in one sentence and permanently blacked herself.
After understanding, I learned that the original male guest's sentence was actually "My ex is much better than you." ”
No matter how hard this male guest tried, he could not save the female guest's heart.
It seems that there is only one sentence, but what is hidden behind it is that the male guests compare their predecessors and currents everywhere, which makes the female guests suffer deeply.
And those hurts, if two people continue to go on to get married, will accompany her for life, such a hurt, no woman can bear it.
Pulling black was the decisive way for her to leave.
The relationship between people is actually extremely delicate, good and bad.
A word of indifference will suddenly bring the hearts of two people closer, and it will also alienate the hearts of two people. And women.
In love, it is often more sensitive than men, if a man says something that hurts her bottom line in daily life, or accidentally does something that violates her bottom line, blackout is a matter of minutes.
04: Conclusion
After you left, I reflected for a long time and did not find a reason.
In fact, there is no unprovoked love in the world, and there is no unprovoked hate.
Everyone left because of disappointment, because of hurt.
I hope that every man cares about the woman who loves you from the bottom of his heart, don't let them down, don't let them leave sadly.
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