I believe that everyone has heard the words "celebrity" and "exquisite", which represents a beautiful yearning, but if you can't control your desires, you can easily become a kind of drunken fan.
There is nothing wrong with pursuing a refined life, and there is nothing wrong with a high-matched life, but if you blindly pursue refinement and blindly demand high matching, then you will only be controlled by desire and eventually lose yourself.
Zhang Ailing's "First Incense" tells such a story, Ge Weilong was once a pure college student, her wish is only to finish college and find a man who matches her to marry, but she fell into the cage set up for her by her aunt step by step.
To put it bluntly, it is still her own excess desire that will lead to such a result, if Ge Weilong did not have such an idea, no matter how tempted by her aunt, she would not have walked into such a trap.
If from the very beginning, she only kept her own heart and was not tempted by such a high-end life, then she was still the pure college student, looking for a boy with the same duty as herself to marry, which was also a kind of happiness, but unfortunately, people could not overcome their own desires in the end.
And a woman with high emotional intelligence will be moderately extravagant, will also know how to control her desires, and even she has learned to live a "low-end life," and such a woman is getting better and better.
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Low allocation in money, do not make unnecessary consumption
Although it is said that no money is impossible, everyone has a yearning for money, but money is endless, you can not earn it, if you have been working for money, then you will only become a slave to money.
Especially for those things that do not belong to them, they have a strong possessiveness, and even spend all their money for it, and then pay off their debts day and night for this, is this kind of life what you want?
One day you will find that you have made a lot of unnecessary consumption on money, and these things are not really needed by yourself, if you stay, you may be able to do more, but now regret is useless.
Therefore, from the beginning, you should have some restraint on money, as long as you can spend it yourself, and at the same time understand what you really want, rather than seeing what you want to buy, such a senseless consumption will only make you poorer and poorer.
Having a low level of money and no longer living a life where you can't make ends meet is the first lesson you need to learn.
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The number of friends is reduced, leaving only three or five confidants
Some people will always feel that the more friends the better, the so-called "multiple friends and multiple roads", but in the end, you will find that these so-called friends are just network resources, where is there a little sincerity?
If you have no value to her, she will not be true to you, just a few perfunctory words, and other times it is just two strangers.
Instead of working on these connections, it is better to streamline the number of friends and leave only three or five confidants, who are the ones who can pull you when you are dark, and who will really think about you.
Women with high emotional intelligence will be streamlined on friends, no longer as before, laboring for network resources, and finally finding that they have not gotten anything, which is the saddest thing.
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Emotional interruption and abandonment, always maintain the original intention
At the same time, in the relationship, you should also keep a childlike heart, not that the more people love you, the better, but the person you love, just next to you, this is the best feeling.
On the road of feelings, there will inevitably be some twists, perhaps falling in love with someone who should not be loved, perhaps two people are no longer as strong as they were, or you no longer believe in love.
But slowly you will also understand that no one is perfect, and feelings are not all perfect, as long as you keep your original intention and want to understand what you want, you can live the rest of your life well.
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Conclusion
In the past, you have been pursuing a high-quality life, and you feel that everything should be the best, and everything should be the most exquisite, especially when you see the life of those celebrities, you are even more envious.
But slowly you will find that these are false, the pursuit of a high-quality life, it is better to learn to live a "low-matching life", which does not mean that your quality of life should decline, but you spend time on important people and things.
From now on, be restrained in money, streamline the number of friends, keep the original intention in the relationship, believe that you will find your true self, and believe that you will get better and better.